healing
How to heal fully and properly.
New Beginnings
The Covid-19 pandemic swept over my life like a tsunami following a faulty warning system. I was, like countless others, unprepared in every aspect of the word. But where I was before the pandemic is infinitely less important than where I am presently, and even less significant than where I will be when I come out the other end of it.
By Lisa Stewart5 years ago in Motivation
Mental Clarity
I believe that many of us were lied to. Concepts seem to forcefully intertwine i n an attempt to achieve false personal mental clarity. As a child, I was aware of how the world was. Life was not fair, and it was confusing. Occasionally, there were moments of true happiness I felt in those younger days. As years went on, life somehow became even grittier than I imagined it to be. The people around me were so hurt that they unknowingly hurt those around them. I felt I was nothing but a scapegoat for my parents to vent their anger on in obscure ways. Eventually, that obscurity turned into delusion. As a result, neverending loopholes confused my common sense. Even the simplest tasks are harder than what I believe any could ever possibly understand. Of course, I'm unsure of that myself. Taking a moment to think when my mind is going 300 miles per hour is now a character flaw. Speaking my mind when I am hurt is selfish, and caring about my community is considered progressive. Honest expression grants me uncomfortable silence. Childhood values I had learned had become deemed worthless.
By Kay G.5 years ago in Motivation
Talk About Trauma Recovery Reimagined
My name is Diamond Poyer and I’m addicted to caregiving, being overly nurturing and I can be caught putting the needs of others before me even when I think I am attending to my own needs. So I too can do better #PuzzlePeaceMe
By Diamond Poyer, M.Ed, RYT, CMC, CSMC5 years ago in Motivation
Hydrate in Harmony
It's day 3 of a migraine attack and I have something to share. My lips may be chapped and my hair may extremely dehydrated from my decrease in drinking water while increasing orange juice intake. I also wore my hair in a bun this week so it needs some deep conditioning. Why are we challenged in realizing that our mind-body-spirit care requires the same attention for replenishing to recover from dehydration. If we are really engaged in our self-care and well-being we may be able to pick up healthy patterns of behavior which help us to rejuvenate ourselves.
By Diamond Poyer, M.Ed, RYT, CMC, CSMC5 years ago in Motivation
Reminder
Ray was driving his wheelchair down the ocean front sidewalk in Corpus Christi. All around him can you speak people were walking, laughing, and just enjoying the cool weather and the breeze coming off the ocean. Ray was a quadriplegic with what was called arthrogryposis which had made it difficult for him to travel and had never seen the ocean before today. He had come to Corpus Christi to try and clear his head after his stressful time, which included fighting depression as well as PTSD. As he passed the Selena statue he slowed down and just listen to the waves as they lapped against the concrete wall that held up the sidewalk. Water had always had a calming effect on him, he had always loved being in and around the water, being in the water was the only time that he could be out of his wheelchair and still be upright.
By Andrew Horman5 years ago in Motivation
Light in the Dark
How do we come back from complete darkness? Someone’s got to switch a light on. Sometimes however, no one else can do that for you. Now you have to be your own light in the darkness; the spark that ignites the fire within you to just keep crawling forwards until one day you’re not crawling anymore, you’re running full speed into the unknown. When you’ve hit your lowest point, there’s nowhere else to go but up and it’s when you allow yourself to recognise that that you begin to rebuild.
By Chrisie Hopps5 years ago in Motivation
Falling Apart... Again. Top Story - January 2021.
The piece of writing that follows was queued to publish to my blog in March of last year... and then my son died. I cringe when I look at the person I was back then. So optimistic. So many freaking silver-linings. But I'm also in awe of past-me: how she could string words together and paint pictures. How she truly believed that everything would be okay.
By Cid Rhinehart5 years ago in Motivation
Like the beginning, Like the end.
2020, for everybody, is such a challenging year. I beg there are lots of people ranking their last year from one to ten. Well, I did rank, and it is 7/10 which is not too horrible as I gained “things” after losing “the other things”. It is to say, my first half 2020 is pretty normal: Friendship: Okay, relationship: awesome, job: fantastic! Oh, comparing with life back in Vietnam, my family and friends spent their Tet holiday (Asian New Year) in four months (Four months instead of two weeks like the other years back!). My last half year is officially a mess. At that time, my job and studying in Cardiff were delayed, and my lads somehow became really paranoid. Unexpectedly, all sides of my life had yet turned into disaster. I know some of us got to use Netflix, game, alcohol to make their lives more “breath-able”, but all they felt is weary and moaning all the time literally. Throwing back at the time, there were a bunch of Youtube and LinkedIn blogs talking about mental breakdown, teaching people how to keep the faith, the smile and think positive. Well, theory and practice are surely different things...
By Thanh Trương5 years ago in Motivation
Be that person.
I experienced a life altering loss in 2020. A loss that has changed me forever. As I learn how to adapt to this grieving process each day continues to have it's challenges. Right before the holidays one of my closest friends also experienced a great loss. As I witnessed her life too forever changed, I knew exactly what she was going through and the journey of grief to come. In life despite what we may be going through, you hope to have people there for you during your darkest days and in return you do the same for them. I was in the midst of my pain and I still had to be there for my friend as hers began. I attended the funeral and showed my support. Clenching back tears during the service was hard. Not only feeling sympathy for my friend and her family but a wave of emotions hit me because it was all too familiar. From that day I told her that I would be her shoulder to lean on if she needed, with a sense of relief that I'd have some one who understands what I've been going through. I would check up on her daily, send her prayers and uplifting quotes. Even though I was hurting internally, caring for others never stopped for me. I always had it in me to make sure the people I care for are okay. It's like a quote I read "The best way to cheer yourself up is to try to cheer somebody else up." I feel this is so true. No matter what your going through you genuinely still want to see others happy. Christmas was approaching and thinking about everyone else was always on my mind. I had my list of people who I felt the need to gift. My friend was at the top of the list. Of course I knew I wanted to give her something of sentimental value. I decided to order a custom made ornament that signified her loved one. I knew she would love and cherish it. I somehow found a sense of peace giving special gifts to the people I cared for. That was my thing. Not everyone experiences the holidays the same and it doesn't always bring happiness. My sadness deepened as Christmas approached. I was struggling and I knew others often do as well for many different reasons. I wanted to show kindness in any way I could. I wanted to support people in anyway I could. I decided all my gifts would be from small businesses. I knew how hard 2020 had been for small business and that one purchase can turn someone's circumstances right around. So I found small businesses through Facebook marketplace and got all my gifts. With COVID going on I knew that the Holidays can affect the seniors the most. I work part-time at a seniors building as a concierge, so I see first hand what some go through. With strict rules and regulations in place, a lot of the seniors could not have family visit them during Christmas. Many of them were all alone and stricken with sadness. I decided to show a kind gesture and gift a few with cookies. It wasn't much but they were appreciative. I also offered the ones in need to do personal shopping for them. I would purposely engage in conversation and crack jokes with some even if they weren't quite in the mood. It was an act to show them that they are thought of and they are not alone through this tough time. I knew how I felt during the holidays and still feel and I don't wish anyone to feel the same, so I will continue to due my part and give back wherever I can and continue to care for the people that matter the most. Life is too short and full of negativity, hardship, loneliness. You never truly know what any act of kindness small of big can change someone's whole world. Who knows that act could also be the road to healing from them!
By JW5 years ago in Motivation
