Do dogs lick to show dominance?

Why Do Dogs Lick?

Before we start pointing fingers at your dog for acting like a tiny dictator, let’s take a step back. Licking is natural behavior for dogs, and there’s more to it than meets the eye. Here are a few reasons why your dog might be licking you (or others):

• Affection: This is the obvious one. Your dog may be licking you to show love. Dogs often lick their owners or other dogs as a sign of affection and bonding.
• Submission: In a pack, licking can be a sign of submission. When a dog licks another dog, it could be saying, “I acknowledge your authority.”
• Nervousness or Anxiety: Dogs, just like us, can feel anxious. Licking can be a self-soothing behavior when they’re stressed.
• Dominance: Licking can also be an indicator that your dog is trying to establish dominance. If your dog is licking you in a way that feels controlling, uninvited, or excessive, this may be their way of trying to assert themselves.
• Obsession/Compulsive Behavior: In some cases, excessive licking can develop into a compulsive behavior. This is particularly true if your dog is licking the same spot over and over again, whether it’s your hand or a particular object.

The tricky part? It's not always easy to figure out the exact reason behind the licking. Context is key—if your dog is licking and showing other signs of dominance, like refusing to obey commands, growling, or acting demanding, then there might be more to it.

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Is Licking a Sign of Dominance?

Now, let’s address the elephant in the room. Is your dog trying to dominate you? It’s not as crazy as it sounds. Dogs, especially when they’re not given clear structure and boundaries, can start testing their limits.

For instance, a reader once shared a story about their female pit bull, who would excessively lick them and then try to hump them. At first glance, this might just seem like a quirky behavior, but it’s actually a pretty clear sign of dominance. In this case, the dog isn’t just being playful—it’s asserting control over the situation, pushing the limits of what it can get away with.

Shannon Says: “Licking is natural. It’s a way for dogs to show affection, but it can also indicate dominance, especially when it’s uninvited and accompanied by other dominant behaviors like growling or ignoring commands.”

If your dog is showing signs of dominance—whether it’s licking excessively, humping, or just plain ignoring your commands—it’s time to take charge and provide some structure. Dogs are a lot like children in that they thrive on rules and boundaries. If you don’t set them, they’ll do as they please, and that often leads to unwanted behaviors.

Licking and Humping: What’s Going On?

You might be wondering, what’s the deal with humping? Is your dog just being weird, or is there a deeper meaning behind it? Well, you’re not alone. It’s a common question among dog owners.

First things first: humping is generally a dominant behavior. Yes, it’s often associated with sexual instincts, but it’s not always about that. Dogs, especially females, may hump as a way to assert dominance over you or other dogs. And when you combine that with excessive licking, it’s a clear indication that your dog may be trying to establish who’s in charge.

It’s important to note that humping can also be a sign of overstimulation or excitement. But when it’s paired with aggressive or dominant behaviors, it’s time to take action. The longer you let it go unchecked, the more likely your dog will continue pushing boundaries.

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How to Address Dominant Behavior

If your dog is licking excessively or humping as a sign of dominance, don’t panic. There are steps you can take to regain control of the situation. Here are some tips to address dominant behavior in your dog:

1. Start Obedience Training: The best way to address any dominant behavior is through training. Professional obedience training is always a great option. A certified trainer can help you understand why your dog is behaving this way and give you the tools to correct it. Be patient and consistent, and remember that training takes time.
2. Set Boundaries: Dogs need clear rules to follow. If you don’t want your dog on the furniture or your bed, make that clear from the start. The "boss" gets the best seat in the house, and that includes the furniture. But don’t just focus on limits—make sure you’re also rewarding good behavior. Affection and praise are important, but only when your dog earns them.
3. Don’t Treat Your Dog Like a Human: It can be tempting to treat your dog like a child, but dogs need structure, not a buddy-buddy relationship. Sure, give them affection and love, but also make sure there are rules in place. A dog that feels like the “boss” will start calling the shots, and trust me, you don’t want that.
4. Use a Leash for Control: If your dog tries to mount you or someone else, don’t yell or punish them. Instead, try a simple technique. Attach a leash or small rope to your dog’s collar while you’re at home. When your dog tries to mount, give a firm tug on the leash and say nothing. Once they stop, reward them with praise. It’s a gentle yet effective way to teach them the boundaries.
5. Stay Consistent: Consistency is key when it comes to dog training. If you give in once and let your dog get away with licking or humping, they’ll think it’s okay. But if you’re firm and consistent in your training, your dog will learn what’s acceptable and what’s not.

Understanding the Bigger Picture

Licking, humping, and dominant behaviors can all be frustrating, but they’re also part of the bigger picture of how dogs communicate and establish hierarchy. Dogs use these behaviors to convey messages, whether it’s about love, submission, or dominance. But as the owner, it’s your job to interpret these messages and respond accordingly.

Dogs need structure. They need to know who’s in charge, and they need to feel safe in their environment. By setting rules, practicing obedience, and addressing dominant behaviors head-on, you’re creating a harmonious relationship based on respect and understanding.

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Conclusion: Licking and Dominance – A Balancing Act

So, is your dog licking you because they love you, or is it because they’re trying to assert dominance? The answer isn’t always clear-cut, but by observing their behavior and taking action, you can find a solution. Whether it’s through training, setting boundaries, or providing clear leadership, you can curb unwanted behaviors and create a more balanced relationship with your dog.

Dogs are amazing creatures, and as much as we love their affection, we must remember that they thrive on structure and consistency. So the next time your dog showers you with slobber, take a moment to think about the bigger picture. Are they showing love? Or are they reminding you who’s boss?

Either way, it’s time to show your dog who’s truly in charge—without losing that love and affection in the process.

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