self help
Self help, because you are your greatest asset.
Self Care in a New Year
2021 is a year in which we are all hoping for transformative change, and let’s face it- the bar is set pretty low. So there’s a good chance that we can set some achievable goals and fulfill them, because after the dumpster fire of 2020, it feels good to want to feel good. A fresh start sounds amazing, and since this is a time where stereotypical New Year's resolutions are set (and often discarded) it might be a good time to consider a new approach to fresh start goal setting for 2021.
By Lisa Stewart5 years ago in Motivation
Dear Future me
Hello Fatima! I hope you're doing well, it's me. Past you! I don't know when you have found this letter and what you have achieved by this point but I have decided that what I have written in here is to one day be read by you. I beg of you to please read the following list. This list is full of things that I want you to do in the future.
By Fatima Batool5 years ago in Motivation
It's Time To Love Yourself
I’ve had a tough day. I’ve had many bad days. I’ve felt unworthy and just not good enough to carry on throughout the day. Work was hectic, and all of my efforts somehow feel unappreciated. I’ve argued with my siblings and I feel unheard. I’ve spent time and time beating myself up just because — I’ve had a bad day.
By Oberon Von Phillipsdorf5 years ago in Motivation
Dropping Out
Have you ever been in a race that you know you haven’t prepared for? You signed up, and then meant to start training, and then before you know it, you just….didn’t. And then the race day is here, and you start out feeling ok, fueled by the adrenaline of the other runners, the high of the race. A few kilometres in, you know you can’t keep up the pace, so you slow to a walk. This is ok, you think. I can walk the whole time and still finish. So you walk most of the time, with some running spurts interspersed; but never for long, because each burst of speed is less of a burst and more of a “fuck, I have to run again?” Eventually, you stumble over the finish line, happy to have completed the race.
By Ashley Butt5 years ago in Motivation
The big shift
I have always been a people pleaser, inclined to always do my best to make others happy, often ignoring my own needs to feel accepted and valued. I hate conflict and I want people to like me, so I just give in and they are happy, or I make decisions in line with what people expect of me. I avoid conflict with others, but I have been fighting myself my all life. Growing up I was the one left out because I couldn't stand up for myself. My voice was never heard, never taken into account, I learned to accept and follow, swallowing my pride, my tears, my anger, until I swallowed any self esteem left.
By Ninon Marie5 years ago in Motivation
The Year Where I Flourish
As many people may be sure to agree, 2020 was not the year of our dreams. When 2020 started, I believed that I would begin working on my health, working hard to begin saving money- overall hoping to better myself, and my outlook on the future.
By Samantha Hite5 years ago in Motivation
Bootstraps Aren't Real
Like many others, I spent the past year in somewhat of a daze. I stopped working in mid-March and subsequently found myself lost in a sea of minimum wage job postings. I would scroll endlessly through every job board, searching for something to bring my bank account back up to at least double digits. It's been nearly a year and I still find myself spending my days in almost the exact same way I did when all this started. It really feels like I've logged "10,000 hours" into job searching, without actually becoming an expert at anything worthwhile. As you can imagine, putting all that effort in with no result can start to feel tedious, it seems that it may have also warped my own self-image.
By Shay Spivey5 years ago in Motivation
Satisfaction
There is a certain satisfaction that comes from completing something with your own hands. Building a home, writing a novel, programming a game, whatever your personal project is, there is immense satisfaction in accomplishing your goal. It doesn't matter if it's something personal for yourself, or part of a job, or something to show off. Isn't it amazing what we can create if we put our minds to it?
By Nickolas Zoffman5 years ago in Motivation
UNAPOLOGETICALLY ME
This year I am choosing to fall in love with myself. I am choosing to start this journey of loving me today; not waiting to evolve into the best version of myself. I am not going to wait until I have it all together. I am not waiting until all the quarantine weight falls off. I am not waiting until I’ve healed from all the pain I have endured over many years. I am not going to insist on meeting goals and objectives first. I am not waiting on others to encourage or support me. For the first time in life: I am choosing me. I have abandoned her and neglected her while trying to help any and everyone. My compassion is a blessing, but it has also been my weakness. I have compromised so much of me, that sometimes I’ve felt like I no longer mattered. Although I knew I was suffering inside, I felt others were more deserving of mercy. I’d be willing to starve so others could eat. I’d overwork so others could rest. I’d carry the burden so no one else had to experience the heaviness. I’d dim my light so someone else could shine. In doing these things I hoped to make humanity better. I knew that I alone couldn’t a huge difference in the world, but I tried to make a difference. I encouraged, uplifted, and supported others: it did not matter if they were family or a stranger. I just wanted to do my part.
By JENNIFER MADDOX5 years ago in Motivation
Nat-You-re & Compass-I-on
Words, ideas, opinions, concepts… they fly in and out of the mind, some stay for a cup of tea, some let you have your cup of tea in peace. Some are insistent, boisterous, thorny, even violent; some are bashful, quiet, inconspicuous, almost imperceptible. No matter how we try, our being human is Mawlana Rumi’s famous guest house, in a constant state of flux, either following or resisting the tide. One day you’re at your best, the next you’re in a slump.
By Francesca5 years ago in Motivation
