advice

Dating, married, single, divorced, and more. Advice on the relationships you have in life. Dear, Humans..

The Art of Service in a Thankless World
Customer Service is a thankless profession. Your job is to deal with people and people are unpredictable. When you're anonymous, they show up at their absolute worst.
By Katie Brozen5 years ago in Humans
Being pursued or prostitution?
Hello to all that have taken time to read my words. I am Shareena, aka Reena, aka staycoolgoddess on most social platforms. I am a black woman that decided to turn her curses and misfortunes into achievements and fulfillment within my life. There was so much that I wasn't taught by my mother, older sister or older cousin. There was a lot that I put myself through because I had no idea what I was really doing. I have decided to write pieces for those individuals that may have grew up like me or simply couldn't make sense of the many talks from their parents. I strive to keep things simple and straight forward. So, let's begin...
By Shareena McKinzy5 years ago in Humans
Closure
Giving yourself closure is like being in the wilderness. How do you know for sure because you're not the person? Yet, one thing for sure people come and go. It is sometimes difficult to let a person go without getting the answers, but there is a way to give yourself closure.
By Opal5 years ago in Humans
Dealing with Me
We have all heard the saying “I love hard, but I am hard to love”, but do we actually know what it means? How it feels? Is it real? Or do we make it real? How do we fix it? What if there’s something wrong with us? These are all questions that go through my already jumbled up thoughts. Here’s my take!
By Kaylee Davis5 years ago in Humans
6 Signs You’re Absolutely Not Ready for a Serious Relationship
I fell into my first serious relationship when I’d just turned eighteen. Fresh in my first year of college, living abroad in England, I hadn’t even started classes when I met my future boyfriend.
By Zulie Rane5 years ago in Humans
Dating App Bios and the Implications They Might Give
We all know dating apps suck. Don't lie. If you can name one person who genuinely likes, or even... loves (yikes), dating apps for the purpose of actually dating, you might actually be required by law to receive a whole $5 from each dating app. That's how much they suck.
By Cora Mack5 years ago in Humans
New Year, New Ring?
Twenty-twenty has been a year of self-discovery to say the least. I'm in my mid-thirties, still not sure how I got here but here I am! I've had quite a few partners in my lifetime because marriage has never been a realistic goal of mine. I was in a "quarantine relationship" that ended abruptly, since my partner went back to his home state. This left me interrupted and I found myself single again but not just single, alone. I'm still new to this big city, I have no family or close friends here. As I write this, I sit here thinking of all the ways I've passed the time since he left... Too much social media, a fitness boot camp, not enough time meditating. I like goals, I like reaching them even more but it seems impossible for me to plan with someone else in mind. I've seen two zoom, livestream weddings this year and I still can't quite see myself in the white dress saying "I do" to the love of my life. It seems like an unattainable goal for me. Last week, after my second livestream wedding, I decided that I'm going to get married... To myself. I've even started writing my vows and chose a song. I look forward to my ceremony. It took me about 5 days to decide on a ring that felt like me. I've worked with brides as a bridal stylist and my Mom loves being a bride (third time's the charm) so I'm familiar with wedding rituals. Let's put it this way, I could never commit to anyone without first committing to myself. This New Years, I will be making my first ever commitment. I will commit to celibacy until I find "the one." The One will then replace my celibacy ring with an engagement ring and I hope to one day be ready for the commitment to someone else for a lifetime of togetherness. In the meantime, here's to a new year of self-love and commitment to myself. My ring has the citrine gemstone signifying personal will, joy, abundance, success and most importantly, happiness. Black Spinel is a protective stone that repels negativity and grounds the user while evoking inspiration and empowerment. It is also thought to help one find calmness and let go of resentments to re-establish relationships and dispel sadness. I wish I could explain the instant feeling of "YES" when I laid eyes on my ring. I wanted to be a boho-style ring girl so badly but I couldn't choose one. I finally got a taste of how brides actually feel about the ring. What better way to celebrate a rather uncertain year and what is to come! A commitment to being my own source of happiness, protection and re-establishing a relationship with myself. New year, new ring, new me, I do!
By Leah Ella5 years ago in Humans
Old Shoes
How many times in your life have you been in love? I am even talking about the puppy love crushes you had as a young kid in school.
By James Sims5 years ago in Humans
Improving And Spicing Up Your Relationship
There is no such thing as a perfect relationship when it comes to love. There are times when there’s a side in the relationship that gets frustrated and thus fighting can happen. It is normal for couples to argue and fight as long as it doesn’t end up being too physical. There are also times when the relationship is in a slump. Basically, the love isn’t there or isn’t as hot as it usually is. Don’t worry because here are some things that you can do when you want to improve or spice up your relationship.
By Tyler5 years ago in Humans
Undeniable Signs That He Is Cheating In A Relationship
Undeniable Signs That He Is Cheating In A Relationship The happiness that comes with a relationship might be the sweetest thing that has ever happened to anyone’s life. However, the coin is two-sided, and one can never know when to expect the dark cloud. The feeling is uneasy, ‘unthinkable,’ but truth be told, hurting from a betrayal especially from someone dear and trusted, love seems like a utopian dream. But the reality is, it happens quite frequently, and it is only wise to start noticing the signs once they appear. If not keen, cheating in a relationship can tear you apart, whilst these signs are common; it is good to flag a few that way anyone can understand what to look for.
By Pat B5 years ago in Humans
Lending Money to Friends — Strengthening the Bond or Destroying It?
The conventional wisdom goes that one must never lend to a friend — or risk losing the friendship. Does this wisdom still stand in a time where having a stable income and some savings is something only a few of us are blessed enough to have?
By Priyanka Mashelkar5 years ago in Humans
Learning From our Losses and Thinking for our World This Christmas
2020 has been a very unusual year. We lost our socializing lifestyles, our freedom, our jobs and even our loved ones. In all these shortfalls, there were many lessons to be learnt.
By Sumera Rizwan5 years ago in Humans