healing
How to heal fully and properly.
Growing in the gloom
Growing in the gloom I was born with a plastic spoon in my mouth! I wasn’t one of the lucky ones that are born with a silver spoon; my spoon was definitely made out of plastic! For many years during my life I have lived at or near the ocean, and, because of that, I have a special kind of admiration for some of the trees that grow on the cliffs above the sand. In one area, all of the trees grow at a slant because they are constantly being blown by the wind. They are all big, strong trees that have weathered many storms; even though they are slanted they still stand strong and tall while continuing to grow. I have always felt similar to those coastal trees because I am big, strong, and slightly slanted. During a really hard time in my life, I was crying, while I prayed, and I asked, God, “Why do I always have to suffer so much?” The reply I received in my heart was “you are not suffering, you are struggling. The struggle is what makes you stronger!” At that very moment I understood and accepted that response with gladness; I like the idea of becoming stronger. Oddly, I now look forward to whatever I will have to face next with excitement and anticipation. I wait for the next inevitable proverbial “shoe” to drop with the newfound knowledge that when that happens, it will build me up and not tear me down. I am finally learning how to live without worry, doubt or fear and have a feeling of excitement! My usual anxiety is gone and I am very thankful that God changed my “suffering” into just a struggle! Leave your troubles with the LORD, and he will defend you; he never lets honest people be defeated. -Psalm 55:22 “The Lord replied, ‘My presence will go with you, and I will give you rest.” Exodus 33:14 God’s presence is powerful and strong. It is never dependent on how good we are, he is faithful even in our hardest struggles only in Him can true rest and peace be found. "Come to me, all of you who are tired from carrying heavy loads, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke and put it on you, and learn from me, because I am gentle and humble in spirit; and you will find rest.- Matthew 11:28-29 When I finally gave my heavy burden of anxiety, frustration, complaints, worry, doubts, fears, and sufferings over to Jesus, as he tells us to. He did exactly what he promised to do, and now I feel at ease because my burdens are light and much easier to carry. I narrowly escaped the “gloom”, and now I am living “The Kingdom life”, from Glory to Glory. I know firsthand how deep and dark depression and despondency can be, I have a desire and a desperate need to share what length, height, and depth of love, that a miraculous, everlasting, and perfect God has for me and all His children. “Where there is much light there is also much shade.” Masashi Kishimoto "Every flower, even the fairest, has its shadow beneath it as it basks in the sunlight." Anonymous
By Tricia4 years ago in Motivation
The Effects of Optimism on the Brain
Being optimistic today becomes a difficult threshold to reach. We tend, overwhelmed by worries and daily stress, to characterize ourselves as "pessimistic." We no longer have the power to approach life positively, we close ourselves in a world of our own, of negative thoughts. According to psychological theories, the only thing you need to learn in life is to think positively; all other things come naturally.
By Beck Davidson4 years ago in Motivation
Covert Love
This year on New Year's Eve it was different, I hadn’t been alone since I was 16 and before that I had family celebrations, even if I had a severe dislike of my family’s way of celebrating, I wasn’t truly alone. I’d love to say that I had a great reason for my recent break-up, like he cheated and disrespected me so I get to be my own hero, but it is all circumstantial when you like the idea of children and not the actual wanting them, all the while believing it meant you did. What I really wanted was to make him happy and realizing that if I went on as I was, I’d end up with a husband I resented along with the picture-perfect lifestyle I detested. Most probably a divorce and a sad man that feels wronged when I give the truth so late, he doesn’t deserve that. It’s not that I am inherently anti, I simply never wanted this responsibility and with the impact a delusion of a loving family I never had, mine would suffer immensely. So, the truth of my wants left me on my balcony, holding my roommate’s cat so he could see the fireworks over the city. He didn’t like the commotion, but the cuddles won out.
By S. L.4 years ago in Motivation
The trouble with falling..
The problem is you don’t have to sit with me and I do. It doesn’t matter who has what to own, I have have to sit with the memory of my mistakes. It can break you, in the morning alone over coffee, in the middle of the day, at night by yourself in the dark. But you can’t allow it to break you forever. You have to stand up within yourself and you have to forgive yourself. It could be one of the hardest stubborn apologizes to make and take. But you have too. You can’t keep drowning it away in the abyss of things that can’t change and can’t take the pain away moment to moment. If there is a light you’ve been to passed out with eyes wide shut to see it. Maybe it’s time to feel it. It will hurt at first and you will not have the crotches to hold you up. But maybe overdose in positive change and see that a life full of love is a full life. Let go and embrace. Let the mechanical mental doctors tinker and twist as you shout. There’s cigarette burning through pours of your mind as you let it all out. It’s poison in a kiss and danger to a touch. You miss it, you love it but it’s been taken to dust. To be alone can be scary, a horror film really. But as you can count away the minute and days. You grow weary and stronger for the better ways. Calm now it’s still, a drop with no spill. There is more in the making and it’s only yours for the taking. So trouble truly still with falling… your stalling. We drift and make mistakes, buts the truth that can change everything.
By Zac B James4 years ago in Motivation
Stop Making It Pretty
One change I decided to make this year is to diversify my writing. Writing on cinema is where I am most confident: I love good cinema, and I enjoy taking part in the "discourse" (blistering rants) about bad cinema, too. I also have some background in the subject — I studied it at university.
By James Lanternman4 years ago in Motivation
But am I truly living ?
If you can't make "you" happy neither can life's circumstances, is something that I have consistently told myself over the past few years, like how can I ever truly be happy if I'm allowing the things outside of me to control my narrative, who am I without the status that I uphold, where would I be without the difficult times in my life that made me to who I am today ? I personally believe that obstacles character and failure breeds success but sometimes I forget that my life doesn't always have to be perfect for me to feel complete, for me to feel whole, for me to feel free, for me to fully bathe in the essence of who I am and truly take care of myself, sometimes I forget to put myself first but this year I refuse to allow my heart to be overwhelmed with feeling the need to be doing more, feeling the need to go out of my way to please other people, feeling the need to be depleted of my own energy and drained to the point where I'm not able to be fully present with myself. This is the year of self reflection, of self redemption, the year I clear the debt that I owe myself, it's truly time to pay myself back for giving away my power during the times that I needed it most, for giving up my personal freedom for materialism, this is the year of forgiveness. I forgive myself for settling for less than I deserve, I forgive myself for overstepping my own boundaries to please other people, I forgive myself for not taking care of my mental health and placing worry, fear and blame in front of my self worth, this is the year that I replace fear, with hope, with faith and with self love, this is the year where I stop allowing grief to make homes out of the remnants of temporary moments, that I wish would of lasted forever but instead they submerged themselves into my bones and created a shelter in my sacred space but this is the year that I release my burdens and free myself from feeling obligated to hold up the weight of the world, the weight of my own fear of failure. I consciously choose to wake up and love myself through it all, to wake up and choose me. I choose rest over everything, I choose to rest my my spirit, to rest my heart, my mind and my body, I choose to live for me and not for other people. I choose to wake up with a peace of mind, a clear conscious and a open heart. I'm taking my power back and making amends with acceptance, I'm taking my power back by choosing to make peace with my past self, by choosing to heal my inner child, by transmuting my trauma into beautiful music, transmuting my darkness into lyrics, into love, into harmonies, into light, into life. I release my attachments with ease, grace, gratitude and faith. I understand that through healing myself I am able to heal others, through loving myself I am able to love others and through acceptance I am able to find peace within my heart, within my soul and with my physical body, this is the year that I am coming into my own and into acceptance that every stage of my life is important, and I am truly at peace with the process, I am at peace with the step before I bare the fruit, this is the year that I stop putting conditions on my own happiness and accept that true happiness is not conditional and I'm okay with rejection and I will stand effortlessly in my power whether people accept me for who I am or they do not. I refuse to dim my light for anyone, this is the year that I choose me.
By Chasity Londyn4 years ago in Motivation
Mindful Making Is What You Make of It
What Brings You Regenerative Healing In Your Life? We were tasked to define "Mindful Making" in reference to threading the needle of our lives. The challenge may be over, but we invite you to read our perspectives and try journalling your own experience.
By The Vocal Creators Chronicle4 years ago in Motivation
Lessons in Awe. Runner-Up in We Have a Dream Challenge. Top Story - January 2022.
I’m sitting on the bus on my way to work. My headphones are plugged into my ears and I’m looking down at my phone. I enter my workspace. It’s a glorious building, built in the 1930s and decked out like an underwater haven. A sea of emerald meets my eye as I walk through the front doors. Though I’ve seen the architecture many times and often take it for granted, when I stop for a moment to look up the sight before me is truly magnificent.
By Outrageous Optimism 4 years ago in Motivation
Be Present for Yourself to Be the Best "You" Yet
Be present. Be present. Be present. These words came over me in a way I have never experienced before. They are broad, yet impactful. Hearing these words in my mind brought a sense of peace. A sense that is right. That it needs to be my driving force. My theme of this year. But why? It required me to step back to understand why two simple words made me feel so strongly. It wasn't apparent at first. There was a reason this was grabbing onto my heart, and I needed to figure out why.
By Nani Cruz4 years ago in Motivation
Learning to take better care of oneself
These past couple of years have been rough on everybody. With that being said, a lot of people(like myself) have been trying to find coping mechanisms and habits that produce better quality of life. I personally have found it exceptionally difficult to not be so hard on myself in this journey of trial and error. It seems that every time something goes “right”, another thing goes “wrong.” I’ve dealt with moving around a lot and fighting the feeling of not belonging anywhere, trying various jobs to find an environment that I genuinely love, dealing with grief and passing of loved ones, and overall finding my peace of mind in the midst of it all. I am a people pleaser and find it hard to advocate for my own feelings and well being. Now more than ever I’ve pushed things, people, and feelings away so that I can keep the feeling of perseverance. In hindsight, survival in our modern society is a more prominent instinct than actually living when you had to learn how to survive first. In this learning process, I’ve learnt that by pushing things away is denying what my body, mind, and soul need. I am still struggling to accept the fact that nobody else is living my life but me. People can advocate for you, teach you things, and help you through the process, but you can only help someone so much before asking yourself if it is worth putting your energy towards. Putting up those boundaries is something that others have to do to protect their piece of mind. “So, why is it so hard to put those boundaries up for myself?” is a question that I have to keep doubling back to every time I let someone push their limits with my boundaries. Nobody prepares you for how much trauma can effect not only your mental, but also your physical. I’ve had long nights where I’ve had ruminating thoughts and emotions that affect the amount of sleep I’ve gotten, just to turn around and prepare myself for the long work day ahead of me. I’ve also had short days because it feels so much easier to not deal with those thoughts and emotions by sleeping them away. Eventually, you have no other choice but to deal with those thoughts and emotions that you tend to push away. It’s very overwhelming to finally clean all the messes you’ve made, start caring more about your hygiene, cooking for yourself, allowing yourself to socialize and open yourself up to others all at once. I get very overstimulated from functioning like a “normal person” usually does on their day to day basis because I decided to push everything back. After all, it was all I knew how to do. I can’t fully say that I’ll promise to get better sleep or that I’ll be able to “properly” take better care of myself, but what I can say is that I promise to try to the best of my ability, at any given moment. I will at least try to give myself the effort that I give others. I will try to improve my quality of life for myself. I will try to work on old patterns in hopes that I can supplement it for new ones. I know that I no longer want the grogginess from improper sleep, but I am only human and can only pride myself in knowing that I am finally showing up for myself. Let’s face it, resolutions only work if you have the skills to make them work for you. So in conclusion, my resolution to improve my sleeping patterns is to try to work on obtaining the skills I need in other aspects of life. Here’s to creating patterns that will set me up for the life that I’ve always dreamed of, but never knew I could actually have.
By Q Fishel4 years ago in Motivation
A Mind's Wander
A Mind’s Wander The mind is the key to everything you can and cannot obtain or what you have versus what you need. This is a short, but long, one sided discussion or rather spoken word poem for all to remember. You either seek out your inevitable destiny or you seek out your mind's continuity.
By Erica Potter4 years ago in Motivation
