Healing

Whoever said time heals all, lied. Time is not a healing process and pain lingers as long as there is vulnerability. Realizing that time is only going to hurt more with each day if you do not make a change, is the first step to actually healing. Allowing time to cover your wound will only create an emptiness later on. Covering something is not treating it. Allowing time to fix your emotions, is simply letting different events and expieriences that may happen , be more current in your life to distract you from actually healing. Lets think about growth, enlightenment, and peace. Rather than trying to forget our most traumatic moments. Which is impossible.

Healing is different for everyone. We all need to heal for different reasons. Its ok to have emotions and express them. You have to always remember that you have control over your own body and mind. Even when you feel lost and overwhemled, they are only obstacles to get over and there is always a way over. Not easy, but possible. As long is something is possible, you will never go wrong trying.

Temporary situations are major for you to identify. Almost all traumatic experiences are temporary and dont last forever. Things like depression and anxiety have a special way of making us feel like terrible things will last forever. Depression and anxiety are a result of "letting time heal all". Sometimes you can predict, or estimate when things will change using common sense. Putting an experation date on your troubles helps cope and make sense of why it is happening. Small example: you have little money and need to make it stretch. You know this difficult time will change once you get your next paycheck. Its a temporary situation. Realize this and dont allow it to damage your mind by stressing. You have an experation date on this problem. You can apply this to major traumatic experiences as well. Realize you have an experation date for your situation even if you dont have when that will be. Its your job to then do everything you can to make sure that date is sooner then later.

Personal Investigating and Digging is toxic and will never allow you to heal. We have to learn that sometimes what we engage in, entertain and search for are only causing us more pain. It is ok isolate. Isolation does not have to be negative. Eliminating what brings you negativity or doesnt benefit you at all, despite your specific trauma, allows the mind to heal quietly. Without anything else to focus on. Nobody can text while driving and drive 100% safe. Nobody can endure more damage trying to heal and heal 100% safely. There is such thing as unsafe healing. Like trying to change who you are to fill your desire to be accepted. You can only heal from rejection, by finding where you belong and are accepted without having to change. Sometimes after losing something, our mind will want to keep tabs on it. Even though we know that no longer having is whats best. Like an ex boyfriend. Looking for any and everything because you arent 100% dettached. Finding information as the only way to still feel connected to someone or something. Or looking for any indication that they or it are suffering as well. Maybe you are waiting to see something, expecting the worse to happen. This is obsessive validation. You want to be right about your emotions so your willing to put yourself through more pain by digging for an answer. This is why isolation an be important. Removing the tools and resources around you that allow you to dwell on the past.

Escaping our trauma doesnt seem real. Truthfully we cant really get away from it, but once a wound is healed only banging on that closed door would eventually break it open. we all have something we strive for. Something that we would go to the ends of the earth to have. Success, stability, career or family. You dont lose motivation. You lose desire. We all have something that we keep or have as motivation but with trama, those motives becomes less desirable. Our motives are the bridge between suffering and being healed. For me, my motives are my children. I couldnt imagine my children ever taking on the pain that i have. So i ask myself what is more desirable. Drowning in mental and emotional damage or having happy children. Obvious answer. So this is my escape. As long as i have children i desire to make happy, i have a way out of this pain. I can not focus on my motive if i do not heal. Motives do not have time frames. It is something you wish to have for the rest of your life. That would be influenced negitivity if you didnt take the time to grow and heal.

Healing doesnt have a time frame either. It can take as long as it needs to. Only your mind and your body can tell you if your okay. Healing in nutshell is no longer being disturbed by what you cant change. Healing is being okay with not being able to control your surroundings and other people. Healing is knowing how to find the next step forward after being stuck. Healing is knowing that everything happens for a reason and you dont have to know the reason. Healing is finding light when your in the dark. Healing takes focus and determination. Especially for those that may have to do it alone.