breakups

When it comes to breakups, pain is inevitable, but Humans thinks that suffering is optional.

Married at 18
I was 18 and dumb. I started to date this guy who I went to school with since middle school and everything seemed normal and like it was going well. We got along and I felt comfortable enough to let him read my song book and poetry book. I will be honest and say that I originally didn't want to date him at first and something inside of me was telling me that it would be a waste of time and well, I should've listened. There were red flags here and there but I tried to ignore them because I believed that they would be things we could work through and become stronger but unfortunately the things that I let slide became way bigger problems in the middle and end part of our relationship. For instance, his ex girlfriend came into town and wanted to see him. They were good friends which is okay, a little weird but okay, but he cheated on one of his ex girlfriends with her and she would always invite him over to her house and try to be sexual with him but didn't want to actually be with him which messed with his mind a lot. He asked me how I felt about him seeing her and I knew I had to be as honest as I could because honesty is the best policy. So, I said, "I don't want to be that girlfriend that says you can't hang out with your friends but the history with this friend is a little more sensitive than just a friend so I don't feel comfortable with it at all. I'm sorry."
By Camille6 years ago in Humans
The Words My Silence Wishes It Could Say
You were the first person who’s come into my life in a very long time that I thought would actually stay. “You stole pieces of me in all the love I have you and never got back. Keep it now, it is my gift to you for you will not get anymore - and that, my love is my gift to me.” -Atticus
By M F6 years ago in Humans
Top 5 Thing's I Wish Before I Had My Heart Broken
Everyone get's their heart broken at some point. There are thousands of song, books, films and rubbish poetry written about it, so you'd think we'd be better equipped to deal with it. Apparently not, I'd like to lie and say I threw myself into work re-invented my character and now I'm a lot slimmer and funnier because of it. That's what I'd like to be typing, but that would not be the truth. A little context. I loved the man, we'd been together coming up four years but I could feel that the heart break was on it's way. I knew before he did but in no way did I get ready, besides secretly removing my thing's from his apartment months on end. Arguments after arguments and a sock of mine would go missing, my perfume mysteriously ended back at mine and finally my tooth brush. Gone. I wasn't against bringing it back, I was just never given the opportunity. When you know, you know. It's like being in an earthquake, everything around you is rattling falling out of place and all you can do is hope that it'll get better or at least the plates won't totally smash into pieces. It's been two months since that hopeless text (how very gen z) and this is what I know now. Just about.
By Aaingel Nathan6 years ago in Humans
It's Crazy What a Little Distance Can Do
I have let someone walk all over me, even though it felt like they were supporting me. And no matter how much I care and no matter how much I know this is unhealthy, why do I stay?
By Emmalee Edwards6 years ago in Humans
Marriage Fallout
Marriage. It can be such a wonderful thing. If it's meant to be, it's mean to be. Right? Well this will go into a few points of why I feel like my marriage is over and done. Sit back and enjoy! Giggle along with me as I tell you all about my story and life today.
By Friday Vibes6 years ago in Humans
Beautiful Man
Have you ever met someone so beautiful, that you have no other word to describe them? Un-romantically I met him on Tinder. At first, I was super sceptical of him, throwing all sorts of curveballs at him to test the waters. But after a couple of weeks of messages and video calls, I knew I needed this person in my life. The care and love he had for me right from the start was something I had never experienced, and I ate it up happily.
By Nila Dear6 years ago in Humans
18 Years Part 4
Finally, we were on even ground and grown-up! A month later I was back in my hometown. Single, confused and in a mess of a place. I had left my heart behind with someone I loved very much, and moved home to get my life together. I was in severe emotional pain of all kinds and wanted a distraction. Him. See this is where the lines blur and my confusion happens with him. I had left someone in the city I loved and wanted to be with, but couldn't as I had to return home to the country. He had encouraged me to be free and single, to do as I want, even to hook up with *Jonathon. All I needed was an excuse to see *Johnathon and I was there, and what I did was wrong. I met him one arvo, and he told me to jump in his car, as he drove out into the bush I felt anxious, knowing what I was doing was wrong, but I felt I was already there so I might as well do it. He looked so unwell, the worst I have ever seen him look. His face was drawn and his beautiful sheen was dull. I felt so worried for him as he explained his ex was making his and his daughter's life hard. I felt pain for him as he told me. There was no way he was lying, excluding major details maybe, but nobody could look that unwell and be lying. We had a quick pash, then he bent me over his passenger seat from outside the car and did me quickly from behind. All he wanted was to get off. He didn't give a shit about my pleasure or my needs, just his own, blaming his current situation on having to leave so fast. As he drove me back to my car he asked all the questions he could, trying to make me feel needed and important. My gut churned. I felt like I had cheated and possibly you could count it as that. I hurt myself, and he hurt me by treating me like some random piece of arse. I did that to myself and I deserved the sickening feeling that comes with being used. What was I trying to prove? That I was single and could do what I wanted? It wasn't worth it that's for sure.
By Nila Dear6 years ago in Humans
1 + X = L
It has been three years since they both parted ways after what seemed like an eternity. The distance was decent but when feelings are heavy everything drags.
By Sherly Villatoro6 years ago in Humans
But What If They Changed?
What we can mourn more than an actual person, is the loss of what we thought could be with them. I had a long distance boyfriend years ago. I loved him SO MUCH. We spent HOURS—literal hours—fantasizing about our future life. What we would do, how we would spend our afternoons, what evenings would be like with our kids, the cars we'd drive, the house we'd live in, the sex we'd have, the vacations we'd take, to who would check us in at the airport and how cute we would be with our travel gear. I spent SO MUCH TIME in this make believe world I had created with him, that I don't think I even saw my reality. And here was the reality in this specific case; he wouldn't be done medical school for YEARS to come, wouldn't marry me because of religious differences, we would never live together, never mind have children, or travel to all the destinations we talked about. The reality was, we also fought—a lot. DAILY. And we'd argue over the kids we didn't even have. The marriage we hadn't even consumated yet.
By ashley sirianni6 years ago in Humans
The Princess and the Pauper
I had a friend who I loved and trusted very dearly. I feel like we all have had that kind of friend many, many, many times. And it usually ends the same. Something breaks that bond, that loyalty, and you're left with nothing but some anxiety for the next one to come.
By Kaelyn Fair6 years ago in Humans
The Pain of Falling out of Love
There's no falling, only fallen. When you know, you're already there. The realization, the clarity, the awareness; it all comes after when it's too late.
By M F6 years ago in Humans
I Can't Love Anyone After You
I can’t love anyone after you. It’s weird because I feel completely ready to move on. No, I don’t just feel ready to move on, I know that I am ready. There have been numerous guys after you, and I doubt there will be any less any time soon. So why can’t I love anyone after you? Good question, because I don’t actually know.
By Donna Sczygelski6 years ago in Humans