breakups

When it comes to breakups, pain is inevitable, but Humans thinks that suffering is optional.

My Ex Girlfriend Has A New Boyfriend But I Want Her Back (How To Get Your Ex Back When She Has Moved On To A New Boyfriend)
Can you get your ex girlfriend back after she has a new boyfriend? Well, this question is difficult to answer. I know that you still love her and it is not easy for you to know that she has decided to move on with someone else already. In this situation, you might feel that it is impossible for you to get her back. Actually, it doesn't have to be that way. It depends on the situation as well. If she is dating with a new boyfriend and you still want to get your ex girlfriend back, then it is very important that you need to have a plan in order to know exactly what to say and what to do to get her back.
By Jade Aubre4 years ago in Humans
Giving Ex An Ultimatum (Should I Give My Ex An Ultimatum)
Going through a break up is like a terrible bad dream that you do not want to experience again. It is not easy since it is full of emotions like jealousy, anger, as well as regression, but all you ever think about is how to get your ex back into your life, despite of everything that has happened when the two of you were still together.
By Jasmine Noral4 years ago in Humans
How Long Will It Take For My Ex To Miss Me (How Long Does It Take For An Ex To Miss You After A Breakup)
Yes, you are ready to wait for your ex to get back to you, but how long does it take to get your ex back? You can't possibly spend all your life waiting for your ex! Here are some factors that can influence the waiting time.
By Jasmine Noral4 years ago in Humans
My Ex Hasn't Contacted Me Since The Breakup (Why Hasn't My Ex Tried To Contact Me)
Are there "secret" words that you can use to get your ex to call you back? Sounds crazy but there are words that can compel your ex to return your phone call. Interesting, huh?... I am going to share this little "secret" with you because this is one of the most frequently asked questions from people trying to get back with their ex.
By Jasmine Noral4 years ago in Humans
Unsent Letters
To the one who turned my world upside down: I've often thought I'm too understanding, too much of a pushover if you will. But more often than not it's simply a fleeting thought, one that disappears right after I decide that it's better to be understanding and sorry for it later than not understanding enough and sorry for that later. I guess I always figured I'd rather be the one who suffers because I was too "understanding" and later hurt because of it than be the reason, or another reason, someone else suffers. I guess I always figured I could handle it. I'm tough. Right? Wrong. You. Oh you. You've made me question that decision. A number of times, I might add. And yet here I am, still trying to be understanding. Still coming up with excuses for you. Because maybe one of them is true. Maybe you're not a bad guy. Maybe you mean well and I'm just misunderstanding. Maybe you didn't mean to. Maybe you're scared of losing me. Maybe if I come up with the right excuse I won't hurt over you anymore. Maybe maybe maybe. It's always a maybe with you. Never a certainty. Do you do it on purpose? Maybe. I know I have a tendency to be overdramatic. You may not know that, though. In fact, most people probably don't know that about me. I keep it to myself. I guess that's not what you'd expect of an overdramatic person. I cry at the drop of a hat for what often ends up being no good reason, certainly nothing to justify sobbing over for hours at least, and definitely nothing to warrant jumping to extreme conclusions over, but I keep it to myself. In my own room, in my own bubble, where no one can see my pain. Even if it is just fleeting or imaginary. Or self-imposed. I know without a doubt that I overthink everything. And I do mean everything. But just this one time, with you, I think maybe I'm justified in doing so. I don't think my overthinking is "overdramatic" this time. You threw me a line, a thin one, to keep me afloat. But I think that line you threw is what's drowning me now, slowly. It's wrapped around my neck, suffocating me as I tread water and try to keep my head above its surface, holding on for dear life to that one pesky little line you've thrown me. You confuse me. More than anyone I've ever met, really. I'm an understanding person, as I'm sure you're well aware by now. I give chance after chance after chance. You've had so many chances to fess up. To just be open with me. Even if all you wanted from me in the end was friendship, isn't that what friends are for? A person with whom you can be open, a person you can trust? So why can't you just be open with me? If I haven't judged you thus far, it's certainly safe to say I won't judge you for much. I get it. So maybe you're not deserving of more than one chance. Yet I'm still willing to give you another chance. One more to finally prove you were, or weren't, deserving of so many chances. I gave you months of my life. And quite honestly, I think it's fair to say you pretty much knew what you were getting into with me. I, unfortunately, did not. I'm an open book. I've done nothing significantly wrong in my life. Nothing huge was happening to me when you came into my life. Nothing huge was coming up in my life either. Nothing that would affect you as severely as this at least. Standard vanilla life if you will. But you. Oh you. You came in with baggage, and lots of it. And you weren't upfront about any of it. Even the small stuff, you sort of just threw it out there after a while, so nonchalantly as if I wouldn't notice- or god forbid care. And the big stuff? You didn't share any of it until it was too late. I was already hooked. And of course I'm understanding. You probably thought I'd get it, why you didn't tell me sooner. The worst part is, I did. Mostly. But that line you threw me? That brief little "tldr" of why you're going through what you are? It's fucking useless. At this point, fuck the feelings I have for you that go beyond friendship. I don't need those. I can move past those just like I always have. Maybe with more difficulty than usual, because you really did seem so. much. better. than anyone else who has ever shown an interest in me, but I could. And I'm sure eventually I just might. All I've ever wanted was honesty. And every single line you spewed for not divulging bag number x sooner, I was understanding of. It made sense to me. Maybe that means you are telling the truth. Or maybe I'm just really fucking dumb. But the fact of the matter is, you've withheld so much that I don't know what to believe anymore. Everything I'm finding online about what you've said is proving contradictory to the things you've told me. What aren't you telling me? Why aren't you telling me? I desperately want to believe you, mostly for my own sanity. I don't want to believe I was stupid enough to make a mistake of this proportion. I'm just having a lot of difficulty doing so now. And the fact that you pretty much sent me your goodbyes already, neatly packaged in a nice text thanking me for our time together and idly promising that you will be back one day, gives me no hope of any closure now. So thanks for that. I didn't fucking give months of my life to you for you to just leave me in the dark like this. I honestly don't know if this is better than being ghosted. At least being ghosted would give me a solid answer on something: You're done with me and it's time to move on. But this isn't ghosting. This is leaving, an actual scheduled leaving, with the promise of return. A return that has no set date, no set intentions, no set anything. Yet. And to make matters worse, you'll be the only one between us to know that return date, whenever you're able to find out. But what about me? What the fuck am I supposed to do with that? Everything that's happening is happening to you. It's easy to adjust accordingly, even if it sucks. But me? I have to keep living my life. I have to maintain that sense of normalcy. And you've gone and made that already difficult task so, so much more difficult. Is this a goodbye? A see you later? Some weird in between mashup in which we expect it to be a see you later and it becomes a goodbye without the proper goodbyes? I have so many fucking questions and no clue where to begin. Not that you'd answer them anyway, probably. I guess I just wish things were different. Part of me loves you, dear. Really. But most of me, maybe even all of me, is extremely bitter toward you right now. Either way, see you on the other side, maybe?
By Cora Mack4 years ago in Humans
Three ways to know if the time is right for a good bye; burning slow doesn’t help!!
Like everybody else, I could realize the spoil only when it was too late. But I spared myself the anguish for I knew it’s never too easy to see it from the inside. Sometimes it’s blindingly true, yet we couldn’t see the red flag or smell the rot.
By Sharat Misra4 years ago in Humans
27 Yr Old Lady Explains How Boyfriend Disfigured Her Because She Rejected His Proposal
Today's story is simply HORRID. It's a story that while I was reading, I could not believe it. How can a man that says he loves you, that went to the extent of proposing marriage to you turn around and pour acid all over your face and body?
By Jide Okonjo4 years ago in Humans
How to Get Through a Breakup
a few years in the past, I thought i might found the one. He appeared candy, type, and he had desires. As time passed, i found he wasn't the man i would notion he changed into. i used to be sad, but I feel ashamed to admit that I hadn't picked a winner. I knew we weren't right for every different, but I could not convey myself to end the relationship because I nonetheless loved him. when we subsequently broke up, it harm.
By Zeref4 years ago in Humans
How Not to Get Divorce Part 2
While my last installment talked about the possible pitfalls of sharing your iPhone location with a significant other, this installment focuses, ultimately, on the pitfalls of sharing an Apple ID.
By Christiana Mandler 4 years ago in Humans
3 Sure-fire Ways To Move On After A Breakup
It must be noted that there are people who have never experienced a breakup, so, they have no idea how hard it is to move on after it happens. Though it is hard, it is clearly not impossible.
By Suppoman4 years ago in Humans
The Tower of Fear
One The Tower of Fear. Prince Charming rescues the princess and they all live happily ever after. We all look for our soul mate so we too can have our own happy ending. We hope for the one person who will ride in on the white horse, slay the dragon for us, destroy our problems and carry us away to bliss?
By Denise Parton4 years ago in Humans
6 Proven Ways to Get past a Breakup
Who said Love don't cost a thing? A breakup can make you feel like your heart is literally being broken into pieces. While it will hurt in the meantime, it will not always sting that bad. There are proven ways to get past a breakup, and in this article, I’ll show you how.
By Mary Adeola Scott4 years ago in Humans