My Ex Hasn't Contacted Me Since The Breakup (Why Hasn't My Ex Tried To Contact Me)

Are there "secret" words that you can use to get your ex to call you back? Sounds crazy but there are words that can compel your ex to return your phone call. Interesting, huh?... I am going to share this little "secret" with you because this is one of the most frequently asked questions from people trying to get back with their ex.

So, I am going to answer..."How do I get my ex to call, text, or IM me back?" But... If this is the only way you are going to try and mend your relationship you may cause more problems than if they never called you back. Just giving you a heads up...

Before we start talking about what words to us I would like to talk about what two different messages almost never work and puts you into an awful psychological position. They are the PLEAD and the EMERGENCY message.

The PLEAD message is where you are just begging your ex to call you back and sounds like this... "Matt please call me. I have been trying to get in touch with you all day. I need to talk to you." This just annoys your ex and gives them no reason to return your calls.

The EMERGENCY message is where you are trying to trick your ex into calling you back by making them think something terrible has happened and it sounds like this... "Matt, something terrible has happened! I need you to call me back as soon as you get this." This gives them a reason to return your call but when they find out nothing is wrong more than likely you are going to get into an argument or they are just going to hang up.

These two messages don't do anything but push people further away then they already are. So, try and resist using these tactics if you truly want to work things out.

OK, now onto what to do... If you really want someone to call you back all you need is to things: CURIOSITY and SELF INTEREST. These are two of the most powerful forces in the human mind and if you put both of them together... PRESTO......you have the "secret" tool you need to get that returned phone call.

So, here are some things that you can say that works almost every time:

In a calm voice: "Hey Matt. Its Sara. I just wanted to let you know that I am thankful for what you did for me. Call me. I would like to thank you personally."

This message uses both CURIOSITY and SELF INTEREST. Matt will be wondering "what did I do that she is so thankful for" (CURIOSITY) and it will make him feel good about himself (SELF INTEREST) causing him to want to make that phone call.

Now... Before the phone call you need to figure out what he/she did that you are so thankful for. It can be anything, but it has to be legit. It needs to be something that he/she can actually take credit for. But, another very important thing you should understand is that this alone is not going to fix your relationship. In fact, if this is all you do you might as well not even try because you are going to make things worse. But if you are serious and use other strategies who knows maybe things will work out, but you have to try other things.

So, what I am trying to say is that what you do before, during, and after you get them to call you back is more important than getting them to return your call.

How to Avoid One of the Biggest Breakup Mistakes

The impact of arguing with your ex could be total disaster! It could put an end to any possibility of you ever getting back together again and should not be underestimated!

Put simply... don't Argue or Debate!

Have you ever seen someone win an argument? I think we've all seen or been a part of arguments where one person states their views more effectively or convincingly.

But that doesn't mean they've won!

Look, you only "win" an argument if you can change the other person's point of view. It's pretty rare for one person to say to the other - "you know, you're right. I was wrong but you've shown me the error of my ways. Thank you"

Now, if you throw in the added emotions caused by a break up - rejection, anger, sadness, jealousy, defensiveness, (just to name a few!) - It's pretty clear it's almost impossible to win an argument after a breakup.

Arguments simply cannot be won where there's resistance, and after a breakup there's always resistance, isn't there? All that happens is the other person ends up feeling more resolved in their position than ever before.

Look at it this way...

From your point of view... Your logic suggests you can change your ex's mind by presenting the facts as you see them. Once your ex hears your case they will be left with no choice but to return to you because not doing so would be foolish! Right? Dream on!

From your ex's viewpoint... All they're hearing is "words, words, words!" All they're really hearing is that they are being second guessed and criticized. It doesn't matter how delicately you try to state your case. By the simple fact you're questioning their decision at all, you're disagreeing with them. Their natural reaction is defensiveness and resistance!

It's a no win situation. When I look back at my own relationships and the times I tried to argue my side and make my partner change their mind, I realise I had no chance of getting them to change their mind. So why did I argue and criticize? Probably for my own benefit, to let off steam or release frustration. But that doesn't work either. No one walks away from an argument feeling relieved. Instead, they tend to end up more frustrated than they were before the argument.

So look, if you decide to argue with your ex, you lose twice. You don't get the relief or satisfaction you think may come from airing out your side of the situation. And you don't bring your ex any closer to you - in fact, you push them away.

Arguing is a natural human reaction, so don't beat yourself up if you've already argued with your ex after a tough breakup. However, it's time to understand that arguing ruins any chance you may have of getting back your ex.

You have to be better than that. Walk away. You'll re-enter the picture soon enough and in a much more positive light. One that will attract your ex back to you and lead you both towards a stronger and closer relationship.

If your best efforts at getting back together, aren't working. Consider a new approach.

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