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Dating, married, single, divorced, and more. Advice on the relationships you have in life. Dear, Humans..
Do You Feel Like It’s 2 Steps Back for Every Step Forward?
I’ve been looking at my stats on Medium and there’s only one conclusion. I suck as a writer. I’m not making any excuses. I wrote a story. After editing it, I think it’s not too bad. The idea for the article is good, and it should get some attention from readers. I’m pretty sure I’ll make a few dollars. It might even go viral.
By Dayton Parks5 years ago in Humans
Take More Photos
Every year on my dad's birthday, I post a picture of him on my social media, and every year there is this sudden broken feeling when I re-realize that the picture I am posting is one that I have posted a dozen times before. It's a good picture, it's from when he was young, and happy, and doing what he loved. But it's still just one old photo.
By Angel Duncan5 years ago in Humans
How an innocent "ringtone" brought me right back to a place, I'd rather FORGET!!
So I recently went back to an Iphone after literally six years of boycotting anything Apple. Well long story short, Mama found her way back home. As I held my new MacBook Air in my hands, I knew my Galaxy days were numbered. The next day I made the trade in, and came home with the new Iphone SE, 2020 edition of course. It's a beauty and I was happy to be back together. We were Reunited, and it felt ohhhhh so good. It took me a couple days to get it customized to my liking. After about a week i felt confident that I had taken care of all the bells and whistles Iphones have to offer. Then I came across a Feature that helps and tracks your sleeping habits, I set myself up with what my goal was and hit DONE!!! I usually don't use alarm clocks, I have severe diagnosed Anxiety so I get up in the A.M with little to no ease. So Monday morning was when the bed schedule feature kicked in and I was awaken by a familiar but paralyzing sound. As I was slowly waking up to the alarm tone "Early Riser", I was rushed right back to the room of an ex lover who I'd rather not name. So we will call him "little shit". This was the alarm tone I would use to wake me when I would sleepover there. It brought me right back to all the negativity, all the passive aggressiveness, the lies, the cheating, it was all over whelming! I grabbed my phone and If looks could kill, my new SE would've burst into flames. One of the ways I've found that keeps my peace of mind, is that I try not to give people, places and things that no longer serve me any more than the initial thought. I pride myself on not giving it anymore than that. But this was different, this was a traumatic time for me. I was very active in my drug addiction at this time. I'm almost four years clean so NEVER AGAIN, plus I'm way to fearful of the Lord's wrath. Have you seen what He can do? Any who, back to "little shit". My drug use was rampant and I'm sure he knew, but he was an alcoholic, so tomato, tomato. The combo was toxic at best. The sex was good, that was the least of the issues. "Little shit" was insane in the membrane, we lived 40 minutes away from each other, but I still felt like he had eyes on me. He hated that I had more guy friends than girls and would get bent out of shape if I didn't respond in a timely fashion. I hated that he was always broke and would smoke all my cigarettes after I just drove almost an hour to see him. One night when I came to see him after working an 8hour shift, he decided to get pissy and pick a fight with me that was just a mess of everything he wished he would've said but "little shit" was a little shit so had bottled it up.The verbal attack that ensued was verbally abusive to say the least. I ended up driving home at 3 A.M alone and crying my eyes out!! The only thing that kept me going was knowing that I had enough drugs on me to keep me numb, because sleep wasn't in my cards that night. After that night we talked here and there but that night was the camel that broke "little shits" back. I can NEVER use "Early Riser" as a tone for anything, he ruined that for me!! It's amazing how fragile and delicate our memories are. You try so hard to forget people, places and things. But all it takes is literally one tone to activate your memory rolodex, and bring you to a place in time, you prayed you'd forgotten.
By Jacqueline Medina5 years ago in Humans
What Losing My House Keys Taught Me
It was a simple Friday, I had gone to school, attended my lectures for that day, did a few things around the school, went to visit my friend's house, and attended tutorial class in the evening. Finally, I was walking back to my apartment by 6 pm, I couldn't wait to eat some noodles, jump on my bed and sleep for about six hours and get ready for tomorrow.
By Enoch Azariah5 years ago in Humans
Why You Don't Complete Me
It’s that time of year again- every box of chocolates is decked out in pink and red, stuffed bears are suddenly popular again with those over the age of ten and greetings card companies are doodling little hearts across their profit forecasts. I am, of course, talking about Valentine’s Day. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not immune to a little romance and I genuinely enjoy buying gifts- cough, support small businesses, cough, but there is a phrase that has been popping up on sparkly cards and trinkets for years now that never fails to set my teeth on edge.
By Louise Clark5 years ago in Humans
Feng Shui Tips for the Bedroom, to Enhance Romance.
In Feng Shui, your bedroom is always a romance hotspot. There is a good chance that another part of your home is where Relationships & Romance officially sits in the Bagua — and you should pay attention to that area too.
By Hilda Carroll5 years ago in Humans
Be evenly yoked
We as humans want everything to go our way. We want a relationship when we feel like it. Want to be loved when it is convenient for us. However, we put ourselves into situations that aren't ideal for us. We are to be evenly yoked with our partner. So being unevenly yoked isn't going to make for a great match. Yet we don't see that because our heart wants what it wants and to love who it wants to love.
By MICHELLE SMITH5 years ago in Humans
Foolish (Ignorant) Relationship
In a way I can’t consider this a relationship. It was a waste of three months of getting to know someone. Especially after letting the person know from the start that I wasn’t looking to get into a relationship. This is the one I regret the most but also the one that I have received surprises from. One surprise is my son that is on the way. In a way I am happy that I will have two boys but this is definitely not how I intended to do it. I wasn’t planning on being alone, left out of the blue because the other person decided they weren’t happy. This relationship has really made me pull back, really made me open my eyes and show me where I went wrong and how I didn’t follow through on the plan for me. I know I am loved. No matter what I know that when this relationship ended that I was not alone. As we all should remember when a relationship ends. We are not alone; our walk is with some special and he is always there. Never forget who stood by your side.
By MICHELLE SMITH5 years ago in Humans
Choices Made
Have you ever noticed that life resembles - albeit a complex and extended version, of a 'pick-your-own-adventure'. Now, I'm not saying it's healthy... but I confess, I spend a considerable amount of time imagining the possibilities, if I had made different choices in pivotal moments throughout this journey. Somebody please tell me that I'm not the only one?
By Madeline Tetzner5 years ago in Humans
I was sexist today
I woke up on the wrong side of the bed today, as you see it wasn't my bed. It was my "hospital" bed reserved for when I make too much of a fuss and can't sleep with my spouse for one reason or another. It allows me more control and to be closer to things I might need like food, water, medicines, and on the good and bad side, is minus one person.
By Karalynn Rowley5 years ago in Humans
