advice
Advice and tips on managing mental health, maintaining a positive outlook and becoming your happiest self.
Advice on Sleeping like a Baby from Insomnia Experts
Insomnia is a condition that affects so many people who try to get to sleep each night. The lack of sleep not only affects them in bed but also throughout the day. Don't let this be you each day! You need some good tips about insomnia to help you understand why sleep eludes you. Keep reading for the help you need.
By Marry James5 years ago in Psyche
Panic! 5 ways to Alleviate Panic Attack Symptoms and Tips on Dealing with their Aftermath
My first panic attack was during my sophomore year of college. I had experienced anxiety before, the rapid heartbeat, sweaty palms and numb fingers, loss of appetite and spinning thoughts. But I had never had a panic attack. I was sitting on my bed and noticed my breathing was shallow and rapid, restricting oxygen from my brain. My thoughts became cyclical and I wasn't able to focus fully on any one particular notion that could explain these unfamiliar feelings. I felt disconnected from my body, a physical dissociation from the world and the items around me. I was paralyzed. I realized, with no small amount of terror, that I couldn't bring myself to even move a finger. I was stuck sitting on my bed, feet dangling and teeth gritted shut, my jaw protesting under the pressure. After about 5 minutes I finally was able to turn and grab my laptop, tears starting to stream down my face. I opened Google and typed into the search bar, "feeling crazy." The first result was the Wikipedia page for Panic Attacks:
By Carly Doyle5 years ago in Psyche
How scammers exploit realities shortcomings
The story and the lessons I will share are not unique. They are lessons told by a relatively bright man whose academic credentials would suggest that his financial downfall should have been avoided. Being this man, I can verify that the loss of funds easily could have been avoided had I been more cynical in my treatment of a specific online relationship. It would be easy to blame the impact of failed book sales, and the ineptitude of the IRS to function at a level that could even remotely be described as adequate. To be sure, had either the IRS delivered my late father’s tax refund of three thousand dollars or my book sales reflected the capital I had invested in the self-publishing process, my financial situation would not be catastrophic. Still the totality of funds from either the IRS or the potential royalties that I hoped to accumulate from the self-publishing of my political satire would only have served as a psychological disguise, an avoidance technique that would have left the issue of my own emotional susceptibility unexamined. The simple truth is that from the moment I was contacted by a stranger on Facebook, ostensibly seeking to expand their communities, my instincts were already sounding the alarm. To date I have not been able to determine the credibility of this individual was in fact a genuine scammer. In many ways their actions fit the classic profile of scammers who rely on what is known as the love scam. Yet there were at times when they own actions seemed to run counter to the aims of a true scammer. In the end the question of identity became secondary to understanding the Faustian bargain I had made, and which I suspect represents an internal pact with fantasy that has been replicated by more millions of individuals who utilize social media platforms. I came to see that it is not merely the construction of elaborate fictional narratives that allow their victims to feel value or needed. Such narratives may result in short term gains, but they are unlikely to provide the financial pay-off that law enforcement has documented in past cases, and which can run into the millions. The true grifter who operates through the internet seeks to develop relationships with individuals who have come to see the contemporary world as inherently incompatible with providing spiritual, emotional and or physical sustenance. Fantasy, not reality becomes the preferred mode of existence. During my written interactions with a scammer, I was perfectly aware of the ludicrous nature of the scammers alleged story. My decision to maintain a dialogue reflected a cynical attitude towards reality, rather than a belief in the pseudo identity of the scammer whose narratives came complete with promises of an idyllic future.
By jon frederick5 years ago in Psyche
Creative flow
I don’t know who needs to hear this, but if you want to make it through this life with your chin up, own your fucking self. Be who you are supposed to be. Let go of what anybody else is telling you to do, and just live your life for yourself. I don’t care who you are or where you come from or what you look like, if you lead with a good intentioned heart and do good for yourself and treat others with respect and you’re doing what feels right for you and you alone...you WILL flow into the next life with a sense of fulfillment. Because that’s the point of life. It’s going on your own journey. It’s fucking up along the way while you figure out who you are, and what you want out of life. There is no beauty without ugly. And there is such beauty in the ugly. Life is not meant to be lived working 40+ hours a week with hardly any time to do the things you’re really passionate about that make you happy or not having the time for your family and friends. Life is not all about money. Money is easy to get. This year taught me a lot of truly valuable lessons that caused me an ungodly amount of pain. And that’s okay. There is no pleasure without pain. Forgive yourself for making mistakes. Forgive yourself for acting like someone who is not who you are. Forgive yourself for lying. For faking. For being an asshole. It’s not weak to cry. It’s not weak to break. And you know why you should forgive yourself? Because no matter what, you create the life you live. And there is always light in the dark if you’re willing to look for it. For all my people who struggle with mental health? You’re my people because I understand. I understand being afraid of appearing weak because all you want to do is cry or sleep. I understand what not eating feels like. I understand what not sleeping feels like. I understand what it feels like to not give a fuck about your appearance. I understand what it’s like not feeling comfortable within your body. I know what it feels like to be abandoned by those you love. I know what it feels like to want to just end it. I know what it’s like to be afraid of being put in a glass box in clothes that aren’t your own (psych wards), surrounded by people who think you’re suffering from a disease and want to put a label on you and shove pills down your throat. I also know what it feels like to be my own light in a dark world. It takes courage, strength, and an iron willpower. If you’re feeling lost, look up at the stars and make your inner light shine just as bright. Be kind. Be compassionate. Dance. Sing until you run out of breath. Paint. Draw. Play games. We don’t need clubs and bars to have fun. You can prance down a sidewalk just fine jamming out like the fiery spirit everybody has in them. Take ALL the pictures. Fucking laugh til you cry. Roll with all of the punches and get the fuck back up. You are strong. You are worthy. And I don’t care what you’ve done up to this point, just forgive yourself, learn from lessons no matter how many times you have to make the same one, and do better every day. Know that you’re not alone. You can be the most beautiful person on the outside looking like they got their shit together, and be a completely broken person on the inside without anyone knowing. You. Are. Not. Alone. There are people, like myself, who would be very willing to listen if you needed someone to just simply talk to who isn’t going to judge you or make you do things that arent in alignment with yourself or make you feel afraid to be yourself. There is only one you and you are uniquely yourself and you should be proud of that. Everything is always working for you. You just have to believe in yourself.
By Rachel willette 5 years ago in Psyche
