The Best Advice for Self-Love & Confidence, So You Can Stop Struggling

"Your vision will become clear only when you can look into your own heart. Who looks outside, dreams; who looks inside, awakes." – Carl Jung

After years and years of trying to fill an internal longing with the comforts of the external world, I am pleased to say I never, ever found it.

For the bulk of my existence I felt inadequate. I looked to others to tell me what was "acceptable" or "normal" and asked them whether I was worthy of love. I had no idea I was asking those who were just as much made of skin and bones as I was. Those with no authority over another soul.

I dated, finished college, worked a job, traveled to all of the places on my bucket list, and to my amusement and horror, the feelings of a dark, indescribable hole became even denser.

While looking outside of myself all these years, it is no wonder why I did not feel confident. The hole I didn't consciously know I was trying to fill stayed empty. Even traveling, which is one of my greatest loves (along with music), did little to fill it. While it genuinely helped me feel more like myself, it still magnified my feelings of loneliness, confusion, and emptiness. One of my dreams was to live abroad and never come back.

Yet, why was I still so sad?

Wherever you go, there you are is right.

The final trip to my favorite place actually shook me to my core. One day, I felt so overwhelmed that I felt like the walls were closing in on me. I felt so defeated I started crying in the streets, frantically calling every therapist I could find to see if they would take me as a client. It brought forth to my conscious awareness that my old life was crumbling once and for all. The tower collapsed. I had to start anew. This time with tools that actually came from within. It was not long after this that I found out the explanation for a lot of my life's experiences: I was a highly intuitive psychic.

When you look outside, you don't really find what you're trying to find. You feel a longing, a yearning, a lack that no relationship, career, or dream can fill. Everything seems vacuous and superficial. There is always something missing. When you truly believe that you are the present, past, and future, that you are what you have always sought that is when this life becomes clear. I came to the conclusion that this world would never bring me that little piece I was seeking. This is not bad! No, not at all. It has given me the greatest gift I have found so far: myself.

I love that my soul decided to come to this Earth. I love this world. I have so many beautiful creations I want to bring to this planet. So many people to meet. Yet my confidence did not come from conforming to this Earth. Not putting on makeup to please others or from climbing any corporate ladder to please others or doing anything worldly. I do what I want. I do not love myself based on what the physical world says about me. I care about what *I* think of myself. My confidence & self-love are bomb because they are unconditional.

So here are some tips on how I developed so much love for myself. 😌 I am so excited I get to share this advice with you. Please take what resonates and leave what doesn't.

1. Be honest and release all shame about who you are and your past. Embrace every part of yourself especially your shadow side. Love yourself even more in your darkest moments. The shadow just wants love.

2. Spend time in solitude figuring out what *you* actually value not what you’ve been conditioned to think.

3. Celebrate all of your qualities and what you naturally love. Put your opinion of yourself first.

4. Recognize that most situations are neutral and never a reflection of your worth. You are always whole and valuable.

5. Remember you are an eternal, conscious being existing on a physical plane who once floated around in multiple dimensions and is not limited by anything.

6. Know your presence is a blessing. Your energy is immaculate. In every lifetime, you are the shit.

7. Life is subjective. Allow other people to have their own opinions and remember they are on their own path. Their approval is not necessary because they are not any different than you. There is no hierarchy and you are equals. The most fulfilling approval you can receive is your own.

8. Love yourself as you are in this moment without condition and without any reason. Feel joy just because. Your love of self is what you have been seeking all this time.

9. Do not cling to the external world as it is not your source of happiness. YOU are your source. You are the ultimate, infinite source of love. Your belief in yourself is your greatest triumph.

10. Commit to yourself and your missions in this life. Then do whatever you want.

Rinse, repeat as needed. ♥️😘

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