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It's all relative
One might look at my life – if I could lay it out up to today in a neat and traceable fashion – and judge it boring. They wouldn’t be wrong; I’ve not had much in the way of exciting adventures, chances taken or run ins with the law. I spent my first 18 years trying not to be noticed, and the next 8 trying to be something worth noticing. Not get off on the wrong foot here, but I’ve heard all the doom and gloom about being young and how quickly it fades, and with that in mind you might sympathise with being Mr. Depresso over here.
By Wray_written4 years ago in Motivation
Ocean Breeze
Every Part of a Story is Important. But nothing is as Captivating as the Opening Scene. Do you have a favorite book or novel you just cannot get enough of? It does not matter how many times you have read it; each time you want to read it the vibe just hits you differently. Your fingers start to tremble, and heart begins to beat a little faster. The excitement overtakes your body, and you become a kid in a candy store. The tranquility of inner peace and harmony awaits your soul as you position yourself to divulge in your all-time favorite classic. That feeling is unexplainable yet very enjoyable. For me, the moment is like an outer body experience. You are physically present, yet unconsciously unaware of your surroundings. It is like, that joy of waking up by the seaside and watching the water waves slowly hit the rocks/sand. My adrenaline instantly kicks in just from seeing the view of a shoreline. The clear blue water on a bright sunny day is to die for. Like a Folgers breeze in the midst of sunrise, I inhale deeply enough to absorb the aroma. I instantly begin to imagine taking a long walk along this seashore. As the water drifts away and the sand touches the sole and or palm of my feet, my hair swiftly whisks away from the back of my earlobes. As the bird chirms hits the sun ray, a prolific sound is created, that resembling of a wind chime. I slowly close my eyes just to soak it all in and bask in the moment. As the taste of the ocean breeze simmers in, I deeply exhale enough to release any tensions or toxins from within. The taste of mid summers eve come to mind, as my body begins to tremble and shiver from the fresh breeze. The air gives way, as my hair slithers gently off your shoulders and begins to be fully wind-blown. The world seems to be at a standstill as the cool breeze whisks me away into lala-Land. I cannot help but notice that the sand is in fact hot, being that it is in fact summertime. My mind is at ease, my body is relaxed, and my heart begins to tremble at the touch of a ray of sunlight. The waves continuously push the ocean water along the shoreline and the feeling is bitter-sweet. In juxtaposition, the water-waves pushes slightly enough to touch the palm of your feet then withers away drastically. Nevertheless, I manage to escape the heat waves as the clouds gradually begins to clear and the sun is now positioned mid-center of the sky.
By Pam Zee4 years ago in Motivation
Finding My (Writing) Voice
When I was younger, I always dreamed of being a writer. Maybe that was because I had spent my childhood with my nose buried in books, but that dream shifted and adapted as I grew older. Who knew that my love of film would shape my writing ambitions? Definitely not me.
By Ted Ryan4 years ago in Motivation
Why Being Insecure Helped Me Be Confident
--- I heard this saying a couple of years ago " confidence isn't, they'll like me. confidence is I'm fine if they don't." That. Is. Power. "I'll be fine if they don't." As a recovering people pleaser, this left me starry-eyed and gave me an epiphany that the world doesn't end if you aren't able to please someone. I remember in my p.e class in ninth grade if the girls didn't like you, suddenly you were supposed to stop existing just because you didn't fit in their idea as being "acceptable." Well, I sigh for, ever falling into that trap and giving them my power. It was eye-opening to see years later that they themselves had that same fear that tried so hard to project onto me.
By Vanessa Sanchez4 years ago in Motivation
5 Ingredients To Live A Happy Life In The Modern World
It’s pretty challenging to live a happy life in modern times because everything seems to be happening really fast. Your life is changing unexpectedly fast, and that’s overwhelming you. You feel left out of things, and that’s making you sad and depressed.
By Harmeet Singh Bhatia4 years ago in Motivation
The Importance Of Self-Confidence
When we have a passion for something, we often compare ourselves to the experts around us. Not understanding that they've been doing it for years. It's important to keep in mind that your first few attempts won't be what you expected. Sometimes, however, we want to stop altogether when things don't go our way. This doesn't mean that you should give up, though. Only practice makes perfect.
By Anike Ayeni4 years ago in Motivation
Overwhelming Mindset
Have you ever thought of all the things you have to do and get overwhelmed? Being in the state of mind that leads to an exaggerated series of thoughts that are running around throughout the day can be mentally exhausting. I used to think of all the things that needed to be done and cram them in my mind as if they all had the same due date. This lead to mental stress and an overwhelming feeling. It is not a negative thing to be overwhelmed, it can have a negative impact if you are not organized. Creating a system in your day that works for you to keep your tasks in order is key. Systems such as planners, calendars and note pads are examples of ways to keep your day organized. Think about your tasks and the deadlines you have to meet and start prioritizing them. For example, you have a job that requires you to complete the workload in a certain time, but you also have your best friend's birthday party later that night. Knowing you have a deadline to meet for work, would you hang out all night to "celebrate" your best friend's birthday? Person A would prioritize their job before their friend's birthday party. Person B would go ahead and "ride or die' for their friend and risk completing the assignment before the am for work. Now, there is no right or wrong answer here because everyone's circumstances are different. Back to the mind. Either person in this situation can get overwhelmed allow me to explain. With person A, they could be getting swamped with work and thinking about what their friends will have to say about them being a workaholic. Think about it, the massive work load you are given and a deadline that you have to meet to stay in good metrics is a lot within itself. That is just work. Having to reject the invitation to your best friend's birthday party is also a tough one. Thoughts of "I hope my best friend is not mad at me for missing their birthday party" and "Maybe I will come over tomorrow after work and take them to dinner". Person A, knows that work is essential and has to be done while special events are optional. With person B, there is a completely different approach to the situation and mindset. Person B may be thinking of how important their relationship with best friend is. By this, they will show up at their friend's birthday party to prove their value of the friendship. Thoughts of "I'll just finish the work when I get back home from the party" and "they showed up to my birthday party so I must go to theirs". This can lead to conflicting thoughts of their loyalty to their best friend and their dedication to their job. I am both person A and person B. I am creating this post today to let you know that these thoughts can come up and slap you off your priorities. With this, I can say that both are dedicated and committed whether it is to the job or the friend. Do not forget there is always work to be done and if you do not have personal events and business lined up ahead of time, then you will try to cram everything in one day as if you need to be in all places at the same time. You are one person and cannot be omnipresent so stop packing your day full of activities that needs your one hundred percent. If you decide to have your Monday set for work, then dinner with a friend, 2 phone calls with different clients, grabbing coffee with an old friend and watching a movie with the family... then your day will most likely end at the phone calls with the two clients. If you try to do all these things in one day then your performance will not be at its best. Please understand that all of these things require your best performance and not half. Taking things day by day is very important. Try to schedule things accordingly. For example, if you know you have a 9-5 and still have to communicate with a few clients after work, then time management is key. Understand that it can take up to 2 extra hours for both clients on separate calls and they may even be scheduled an hour away from each other to give you the extra hour for yourself. That does not mean take that hour and turn it into getting dinner with a friend. You do not have time for that unless you two are going to a drive thru. No quality time was spent with your friend, instead it turns into checking this off your "to-do" list. As for that dinner with a friend, you may want to reschedule for a Friday night or Saturday night so that you will have the weekend to schedule personal relationship activities such as family events and dinner with a friend. Now, going back to that hour that was in between the next call, you can use that hour to have some personal development. There is nothing wrong with taking breaks to stop and think. Breaks are beneficial to you mentally, physically, and spiritually. During this time, you can read a book, meditate on God's word, have a healthy snack or even take a nap. YES A NAP! Many of us are stressed out and drained due to so many things that we are running around trying to fulfill when all we need is rest. Do not let social media entrepreneurs tell you sleep is for the weak. I tried going without sleep but it only made me more overwhelmed and later on drained causing me not to give anything my one hundred percent. I write all this to say, you are not capable of being omnipresent like God. It is ok to reschedule things accordingly. Do not be a busybody... TAKE A BREAK!
By Tashara stokes4 years ago in Motivation
After Saying "Yes," How to Say "No"
Consider this scenario: a colleague approaches you and asks if you would like to lead a new committee that they are forming. “Sure,” you say without bothering to consider. I'd be delighted!” In the future, you'll find emails building up in your inbox and a rush of events on your calendar. It dawns on you that you are overworked. You know you should say no after saying yes, but you're afraid to back out of the commitment after you've already said yes.
By Lem Pora4 years ago in Motivation
The start of a journey
The journey of a thousand miles begins with just one step. The start of every journey begins by starting, your destination can't be reached without you starting out first. The destination, reward, and many other things will keep waiting until you finally start that journey and you arrive at where they are.
By Olalekan Adeeko4 years ago in Motivation
