Confidence doesn't just come, it's cultivated.

There’s this really interesting dynamic that I’ve seen in my own journey, in the women I’ve supported, and the collective.

See I used to just think if I believed in it hard enough, gave away enough sessions, provided enough “valuable” content, practiced, honed my gifts, had the right strategy/ plan & perfected it that everything would just come together.

Can you relate?

But what I realized is that lack of confidence just like so many other patterns can be a wolf in sheep's clothing. While there is definitely a time and place for those things, it goes much deeper.

Underneath my ‘lack of confidence’ was beliefs tied to my programming/ conditioning that it wasn’t possible for me.

That I wasn’t worthy. That I wasn’t enough.

That it was wrong for me to charge for my gifts.

That I was taking from people if they paid me.

That it wasn’t safe for me to be heard and seen.

Fears of judgement. That I would leave people behind. My family wouldn’t accept me. It would be lonely at the top.

That either I or the people I love would be hurt if I stepped into my true power, gifts, destiny.

Lack of trust in myself, my path, my gifts, others, God.

Beliefs that people couldn’t or wouldn’t value my work or want to pay me.

The list goes on and on and on.

Absolutely none of this is true. Unless we want it to be. See we are truly that powerful.

Yet as long as I fixated on ‘building my confidence’ I didn’t have to look at the deeper stuff.

The true work. Because here’s the thing I already knew what to do. We have the blueprint inside of us. I’ve easily been able to access mine since the beginning. I see it as a beautiful Golden Book. Yet I didn't believe that it got to be that easy. That I could just follow these simple steps and have the life I really wanted. So I created more work, struggle, and things to do.

Because my programming is that you have to work hard. That I needed to work at least twice as hard as my counterparts in order to get ahead in life. Can we just take a moment to address the f*ckery of this? I obviously no longer subscribe to this paradigm.

So for a while I did all of the things. Went from strategy to strategy, plan to plan, program to program, free thing to free thing. Listening to all of the things, absorbing all of the content. What to do, what not to do. 1 person’s belief /system of what it takes to be successful to another. Then I realized that this was exhausting, frustrating, and simply not sustainable. Not to mention the lackluster results.

I was even more confused than before. Plus I had all of these additional conflicting beliefs on top of the ones that were already there. Great!

Reflecting on this, it’s really interesting the way our brain & programming works. I had justified and convinced myself that I was ‘learning & growing’. That I needed to know/ learn/ understand all of these things and the list just continued to grow before I could have the results I desired. But hey I was ‘building my confidence’. Do you see the complete irony in this?

I just want to clarify that I’m not saying don’t do programs, have strategies, create plans, or consume free content. All of these things definitely can be supportive and have a place. What I’m saying is to know what your intention is and why you are doing these things.

This allows us to move forward with the things that are truly aligned. It’s also really supportive if you have shiny object syndrome or the fear stops you from moving forward.

So ultimately this is what I did and what actually worked for me to Cultivate my Confidence:

• I went within and did the deeper healing work around what was truly underneath the surface. The stories, beliefs, experiences, generational stuff, & collective consciousness pieces I healed & released it.

This alone shifted so much for me. Because those beliefs & the programming is what was ultimately holding me back. No matter how much I thought better thoughts or how badly I wanted to do the things it ultimately held me back.

It’s actually been scientifically proven that we move & make 95% of our choices and decisions from our subconscious programming. Pretty crazy right?

• I decided what it was that I truly wanted. This can be a big one especially for women. The resistance around actually deciding and acknowledging what it is that we really want can be strong. Ultimately in most cases the fear of being disappointed or that it’s selfish is underneath this.

• I started to show up consistently online. Posts, live-streams, and now this Blog.

Say What? I know but hear me out. What I now understand on a deep level is it’s ultimately the message that’s in our hearts that we are called to share is what matters. Allowing God/ Source/ Soul (please use whatever resonates with you) to work through us.

Our ability to trust and fully back ourselves and our decisions. To follow the guidance and intuitive nudges regardless of whether it looks like it’s working or makes sense. (In most cases it doesn’t make logical sense and it will not feel like the safe option)

Show up consistently and unapologetically. Because our truth, our light, our message is needed.

Continue to do whatever inner work is required in order for you to actually believe that what you want is possible and align with it.

Know that you are worthy and enough as you are.

Sending you Infinite Love,

XO Jasmine