Read This Before You Take Revenge

In movies, vengeance is a common theme. There's something satisfying about seeing the wronged hero make things right by annihilating his adversary. You may even fantasize about doing something similar in your own life, albeit on a smaller scale. Revenge is not a wise course of action. It accomplishes nothing and only adds to the difficulties.

There are several drawbacks to vengeance:

1. Vengeance prolongs the conflict. Obviously, if you're thinking about vengeance, there's a problem. Revenge does not put an end to the problem. It exacerbates the problem. Consider the possibility that the other person will seek his own vengeance. Where does it stop? Someone must be willing to let go of it.

2. Revenge isn't going to make you feel any better in the long run. For a few moments, vengeance is satisfying, but nothing has changed. Whatever was done to irritate you is still there. You cannot change the course of your history by going back in time. In the long run, vengeance accomplishes nothing.

3. Revenge does not come cheap. There is always a price to pay. The other person's subsequent actions may cost you. If you go too far, you may lose your sleep, your self-esteem, or even your freedom. Your peace of mind is also jeopardized.

4. Revenge only adds to the agony. Time can heal all wounds, but only if they are not reopened. By moving on, you can allow your wounds to heal. Giving too much attention to the situation only makes you more miserable and prolongs your misery. Revenge is never a good way to deal with a problem or an injury. There are wiser and more effective ways to deal with your pain and anger.

Instead of seeking vengeance, consider the following options:

1. Forgive. For most of us, this is easier said than done. But what other choices do you have? The only way to get over your feelings about the situation is to let them go. You are not required to forget. After all, it would be a pity if you didn't learn anything from your bad experience.

* It may not seem fair to let the other person off the hook, but forgiveness is beneficial to you.

2. Take what you can from the situation. Did you do something stupid? Were you overly trusting? Was it a problem unique to the other person? How can you avoid repeating the same mistake in the future?

* Do you have to cut the other person out of your life? Were you too na•ve or uninformed to make an informed decision? Determine the cause and then consider a reasonable prevention method.

* Make the most of a bad situation by learning from it. You'll be a stronger and more capable person as a result of it.

3. Pray or meditate. Meditation and prayer can help you get your mind back on track. You'll feel more at ease, relaxed, and in control. Clear your mind and return to a rational state of mind. You can't be upset unless you give yourself permission to be.

4. Engage in an activity that you enjoy. Remind yourself that there are good things all around you. Spend an evening catching up with a friend, reading a good book, or preparing your favorite meal. What are your favorite pastimes?

* It makes no sense to devote any more time to the negative issue than is absolutely necessary.

The theme of vengeance has been explored in films, books, and plays. It's a common theme throughout history, and it's a natural human reaction. However, vengeance appears to be a better idea than it is. Revenge is more harmful to you than it is to the other person. Leave vengeance to the movies. Forgive those who have wronged you and live your life to the fullest.