In the world of adults, the only person you can rely on is yourself

Age, year after year, increases.

I thought that even if you are older, as long as the mind is young enough, there will be plenty of time to continue to play.

The fact is that you can find a lot of people who are not only in the market but also in the marketplace.

The man in his middle age often feels lonely because he opens his eyes and is surrounded by people who want to rely on him, but there is no one he can rely on.

After the age of dependence, you can only rely on yourself.

1. when sad, do not confide in

Some truths perhaps should have been understood long ago.

The fact is that when you are young, you are too well protected, so you don't understand.

Until I met, I found that Lu Xun was right, "human joy is not connected" your joy and sorrow to say more, the next person can not empathize with, nor help.

There was a time when I was so sad that I couldn't sleep every day, always thinking about things, and sometimes I cried when I thought about it.

At that time, I want to find someone to talk to but find someone to talk to, but the other party can not talk with me, she said with chagrin: "I am not you, I do not know what to do." She wanted to help me, but she didn't know what to do either.

At that moment, I realized that no one can save me except myself, even if someone can understand, but they have the heart and power, telling them will only add to their worries, why drag the people who love them?

So, instead of confiding in others and adding unnecessary distress, you should try to get through it yourself.

You'll find that the problems you thought you couldn't get through, but then you grit your teeth and get over it by yourself.

In the second half of life, you can only rely on yourself, and then sadness will pass, and get through to achieve better.

2. When the trough, do not complain

Complaining, bad we all understand.

However, when you encounter a low point, it is difficult not to hang your head, it is difficult not to complain, it is difficult not to be sad, and then how to tell yourself "try to get over it", you still can not stop wanting to complain.

The blame is placed on others to avoid reality.

As those who gnaw at the elderly, they are not unaware that they should work, but just out of the social blow, can not stand the suffering, so they can only nibble at home, the mouth also chattered "if not ...... do not know the goods, I have long... ..." refuses to admit that he or she is running away, and can only keep complaining that he or she has not met a booster.

The parents will always be old, they always have to come out to make money to support the family.

In the end, it will be back to square one, but the wasted time will eventually come back to haunt you, and you will be able to work in an office building, but now you can only sell your labor.

Life can not start over, do not knowingly do so, "too much", hurt is their own, complaining more will not help, will only make their mood bad.

Instead of wasting time complaining, you should take the time to solve the problem.

When complaining about "too much work for too little money", try to improve your ability and wait for the opportunity of promotion and salary increase.

When you complain that your partner doesn't understand you, put yourself in the other person's shoes and learn to understand them.

When complaining about the lack of time to rest, learn to improve efficiency, so that you have more time to do other things.

Everyone has a low period, as long as you are willing to work hard, there are always more ways than problems, bite the bullet and persevere, and everything will slowly become better.

In the second half of life, do not complain, try to boil, and eventually, become better.

3. By yourself, one step at a time

Milan Kundera said in "immortality": "life is to carry the pain of me through the world."

Life road, then difficult to walk, but also to walk.

Relying on others, it is better to rely on yourself and walk more slowly, and solidly.

The idiom of "fox pretending to be a tiger", we have all heard of it.

The fox, relying on the tiger is pretending, prestige for some time, but put into reality, but not a permanent solution, there is always a day to be demolished.

When the time comes, will only end up more miserable than the original.

As the saying goes, the mountain will fall, people will run, only their own most reliable, do not fear that one day there is an accident to the bottom.

Life is never complete by itself.

Life is hard, rely on their efforts, step by step, after the storm can eventually see the rainbow.