I Do Not Need Validation

Hi everyone!

Today, I’d love to share my opinion that I believe is really important in our daily lives.

It's all about finding that inner sense of happiness, confidence, and fulfilment without relying on others for validation.

Before you jump to conclusions about this being just another self-help post, maybe yes, maybe not, because I'm ready to explore something much deeper with you.

As people, we've grown up learning to look for approval from those around us since we were little.

I'm not going to deny it.

When we did something good, our parents, teachers, and friends would shower us with praise, rewards, or recognition, making us feel special, appreciated, and loved.

And that's wonderful—it's so important for our emotional development and growth.

As we get older, the desire for validation can turn into a habit that influences our actions, decisions, and relationships without us even realising it.

Have you ever noticed how often you look for likes, comments, or shares on social media?

Have you ever found yourself seeking compliments or approval from your friends, family, or significant other?

Have you done that?

How often do you find yourself comparing to others, feeling like you should meet someone else's expectations?

If you take a moment to reflect, you might find it's more frequent than you’d like to acknowledge.

Now, here's the thing that I'm going to tell you.

This constant seeking of validation can be tiring, wearing, and can really take a toll on our self-esteem, mental health, and relationships.

When we depend on others to boost our self-esteem, we're allowing them to influence our emotions, happiness, and sense of self-worth.

And that's quite a concerning thought, if you ask me.

Let's take a scenario where someone you really admire or care about suddenly stops acknowledging you.

It’s possible they’ve stopped replying to your messages, or perhaps they’ve begun to focus more on criticism rather than giving you compliments.

How would you feel about that?

Feeling lost, anxious, insecure, or maybe even a bit down?

It seems like you might be linking your self-worth to what they think, and without their approval, it can feel like you're not measuring up.

What if I shared with you that you are already enough without needing anyone else's validation?

You're already worthy, deserving, and lovable just as you are, without needing anyone else's approval or recognition!

It may seem straightforward, but it really makes a big difference!

When you stop looking for approval from others, you begin to concentrate on your own inner strengths, passions, and values.

You start to see that your value comes from within, shaped by your own special experiences, talents, and qualities.

It's wonderful to realise that you're on a unique journey, and there's no need to compete with anyone else.

It's important to remember that this journey isn't necessarily simple, and it's perfectly normal to seek validation from time to time.

Breaking old habits can be quite a challenge, and it often requires time, effort, and practice to move away from seeking external validation.

But the payoff is truly rewarding.

When you learn to validate yourself, you'll discover a wonderful sense of freedom, confidence, and self-love that you never imagined could be yours.

What are some ways to begin letting go of the need for validation?

I've got a few tips that have really helped me along the way:

Take some time for reflection.

It's a great opportunity to discover more about yourself, your values, and what you truly love.

What inspires you?

What do you believe in?

What are you hoping to accomplish?

Emphasise what you do best:

Instead of looking at what others are doing, take some time to appreciate your own strengths, skills, and achievements.

Take a moment to celebrate your wins, even if they feel small!

Establish some boundaries.

It's important to say no to things that take away your energy and yes to those that uplift your spirit.

Spend time with those who encourage and inspire you, and create some space from those who don't contribute positively to your life.

Be kind to yourself.

Show yourself patience and understanding.

Keep in mind that you're human, and it's perfectly fine to make mistakes.

Embrace mindfulness.

Focus on being in the moment, free from judgement or the need for external approval.

Pay attention to your breath, your body, and what’s around you.

To wrap things up, seeking validation is a normal aspect of being human, but it's not something we have to depend on to feel happy, confident, and fulfilled.

As we learn to validate ourselves, we unlock a world filled with possibilities, freedom, and self-love.

Next time you find yourself looking for validation from others, just remember that you are already enough, just as you are!

You are already worthy, deserving, and lovable just as you are, without needing anyone else's approval.

You are, and always will be, more than enough.

Thank you for taking the time to read, everyone!

I'd love to hear your thoughts, experiences, or insights!

Feel free to leave a comment below.