Wound Formation and the Appearance of Masks in Our Lives

I would start by saying that any person is given a path, given the time of birth, the family in which he appears, dependent on personal acquisitions in childhood, the models he follows in adolescence, the decisions he will make once. with maturity.

These moments allow the individual to live a series of experiences until he comes to understand them, to integrate them and to accept them, and then to accept them as parts of himself. This acceptance can be seen as a mission for everyone that involves recognizing all the events and the positive or negative emotional charge as part of the life experience.

As long as an experience is lived in non-acceptance, overshadowed by feelings such as guilt, fear, anger, regret, or sadness, people attract people around them or create circumstances that lead them to relive the same experience.

First of all, we can talk about the power of choosing between good and bad. How can we do this? We must become aware of the consequences of our experiences, because everything we think or not, everything we say or say, everything we do or do not are consequences of our actions.

But why is it so hard for us to choose or understand each other from the beginning and live the acceptance? The answer comes from our ego and our beliefs. Our ego represents the totality of our memories, which become very important and very powerful to invade our individuality.

The ego is strengthened the moment we live an experience, happy or less happy, and this experience remains stored in our memory. From here, things get trickier, and this is where the true meaning of life lies.

Blocking our needs, desires, and emotions leads to four stages: a person experiences the pain of not being able to be the way he or she wants to be or expressing himself or herself the way he or she wants, and then experiences a period of crisis, going through a state of revolt. but kept under a valve by his own beliefs, ending up living an inner conflict and finally to alleviate his suffering, he adopts resignation, and through a creative adaptation learns to survive by building a part of the personality more easily accepted by himself, but also of others.

During the last stages, we create masks that represent that new part of the personality, suppressing the authentic one, which has the role of defending us in the face of another suffering.

Thus, Lise Bourbeau, in one of her books, accurately describes these creative adaptations as masks, which from personal studies correspond to important injuries experienced by human finances.

There are five of them, the first of them being caused by rejection and the mask that a person needs to defend himself is that of the fugitive, manifested in the form of not taking responsibility, not accepting those around him, to avoid a future rejection.

The wound of abandonment creates a mask of the addict, who tends to cling to others and do what he can to be recognized as an extension of the other.

The wound of humiliation creates a person disguised as masochism, directed at himself or others on the principle: it is better to hurt myself than to hurt others.

A person with injuries caused by betrayal will be marked by insecurity, fear, or a feeling of inferiority after experiencing aggression and he chooses to attack and dominance to show control, thus avoiding a possible relapse of betrayal.

Injustice as a wound, comes with feelings dominated by frustration and beliefs, as I am not listened to, my emotions do not matter, I never get what I deserve, and the mask for this type of wound is the rigidity, which allows it to work within limits. easily acceptable to others and from a social point of view so that they can live the injustice.

The importance of such a mask depends on the intensity of the wound and has a very important role in protecting people from the deepening of the cracks in the mirror of their soul and psyche. A mask must be a type of personality, which has its character, due to the many covers that have developed and that influence the inner attitude but it also becomes visible in our physical appearance.