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What Are the Aspects That Betray That Your Boyfriend Is Cheating on You

And What You Should Do

By Morison CervantesPublished 4 years ago 4 min read
What Are the Aspects That Betray That Your Boyfriend Is Cheating on You
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Do you feel that something has changed between you, do you suspect that he has someone else, and ask yourself "how do I know he is cheating on me"? Before giving any suggestions, think about it: why do you have such doubts? Do you have an objective, practical reason or are you too jealous and used to making dark thoughts?

People often tend to think of the worst! For example, if your girlfriend cancels a few dates or if she has her phone off, you jump straight to the most horrible explanation, you start thinking "how do I know she's cheating on me", without stopping at more rational explanations. But the explanation can be so simple: it can feel bad, it has a lot of work, it has no signal… Betrayal can only be in your mind!

So how do I know I'm cheating?

Change. Has the way he talks to you changed, looked at you, behaved? You can't find a reason for that - you may just be having a bad time. Does he avoid looking you in the eye, dodging personal questions, preferring to hang out with other people instead of just the two of you?

It could be a sign! Behavioral changes if they deceive you can have two meanings: either they look nicer or they look uglier! In the first case, he cheats on you, but he doesn't want to end your relationship with you and he feels guilty!

So he behaves much nicer than usual, he gives you small gifts, he likes you and he agrees with things he used to dislike. In the other case, he cheats on you and thinks of finishing it: so he starts behaving badly, to make you finish it

He is distant. Among the behavioral symptoms that can be answered to the question "how do I find out that he is cheating on me" is distance, emotional distance. Is he no longer willing to talk, is he no longer as close to you? Do you avoid any sentimental discussion and always seem to think elsewhere? Haven't you been talking about caress and love for a while? Another sign - but this is not conclusive either.

"Disappearance." Do you know his usual schedule and know where he is usually, but lately he is not so easy to find? Does he not answer the phone often or does he hang up and make some weird excuses? Did it happen that it wasn't where you knew it was normal?

Check his schedule; if you know what he usually does, pay him a surprise visit to the school/college/service and see if you can find him/her and who he/she is with; if you know what is his / her night out in the city with the boys/girls, go to the places where he/she usually goes and see if you can find him/her and who he/she is with; if he tells you he can't see you, ask why, where he's going and go and see if he's really where he said he will be!

But be careful, don't do this too many times, because if he sees you, he/she will catch you checking him/her and you will have a horrible quarrel. Knowing that the other person doesn't trust you is not a good thing for the couple.

Phone and email. You can find clues on your mobile phone. One day, as a joke, takes his phone and starts buttoning it. See how he reacts - does he take it back from you scared, indignant or annoyed, or does he let you play at will? If it is the last case, either he has nothing to hide or he has already erased any accusatory evidence.

But watch carefully the reaction when you look through the messages and see if you can see any signs of concern. Just as if you don't care, if you check your email or enter the Net in your presence, look out of curiosity what messages it has. But be careful, don't insist, and don't become obsessed! If you always check his messages, he will feel controlled and can distance himself from you, even if he is not mistaken!

Sex and gestures of intimacy. How do I know he's cheating on me? How is your sex life lately? Has there been any change? Do you have sex much less often or do you notice that he doesn't feel like it and does it just out of complacency? Likewise, how do you deal with intimacy, physical closeness? Did he give up some gestures of affection: kisses, kisses, holding hands, hugging?

Suspicious friends/colleagues. Does he/she have a friend or colleague with whom he/she gets along very well, talks often, and goes out for coffee? He may be the №1 suspect! Because if he cheats on you, he is most likely cheating on you with someone close to him, with whom he has a connection! So, talk about this friend or colleague by chance and see how he reacts.

Praise his qualities and see if he hurries to change the subject or seems uncomfortable with the discussion. Ask her out well if she is no longer absorbed in the connection. If you know your boyfriend/girlfriend, his / her reaction to such questions can give you an answer to the question "how do I know he is cheating on me"! If you fail with the first person that comes to mind, try other people you know have spent time lately.

Talk to him! If you start to get obsessed and keep thinking "how do I know I'm cheating", if you're almost sure, but you can't find any proof, why not try talking to your boyfriend/girlfriend? Sure, isn't it good to simply ask him/her: "Are you kidding me"?

Poor chance to tell the truth and most likely he will get angry! But start a discussion in which you explain to him that lately, you feel that he has changed, that something has happened, that you are afraid, that you feel bad because you do not know how he/she feels. See what he tells you and how he tells you!

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