I Can’t Live Without Her, How Do I Get Her Back?

You quarreled, you broke up and all you can think about is, "I can't do without her, how do I get her back?" Which of you got it wrong, from what started the quarrel that led to the separation? If you are the one who made a mistake and caused the separation, you can try a few ways to make her forgive you. But if she wanted to break up, maybe you have nothing to do, maybe that's how it should be and you have to accept that. In the first case, in which you made a mistake - at least from her perspective, you can try to make her change her mind.

I can't do without her, as I recapture her:

• Regret. It is very important to think from her perspective: how did you go wrong, how did you make her feel, why did she react so badly? If you want forgiveness, you need to show them that you can understand where you went wrong. You need to show them that you will never make the same mistake again. It is also important if you think you are wrong or just that she is overreacting. Put yourself in her shoes and see how you feel! It is not enough to tell him that you are sorry and that you will not do what you did. Send her a long email or, better yet, a real letter telling her that you understand, show her that you regret it, explain to her how you feel and that you understand and how she feels! Explain why you did what you did and why you didn't do it again. Lay your soul down in that letter, and if she cares about you, she may be willing to talk.

• Ask for advice from her girlfriends. To be able to put yourself in her place, to be able to understand how she feels and why she reacted like that, talk to a good friend of hers! See if you have a chance, see what she said to her friends, what she thinks about the relationship, and the breakup. An understanding friend can also give you some ideas on what you can do to persuade her to come back to you. But if he tells you you have no chance, don't be too good!

• Gestures. When you think "I can't do without her, how do I get her back", it takes a romantic gesture, something that impresses her. Don't think of nonsense as threatening to hurt you - it just shows you're a kid! Think of something romantic and something she would like to do - for example, if you have had a long relationship, you are over the first phase, you are mature, an engagement ring could solve the problem! If you are too young for that, another gesture may show that you regret it and that it is worth a try; send him a list of all your flaws (this way you show him that you are aware of them), but also of all your qualities - including "no one will love you as I love you".

• Change. Show them that you can and want to change! Tell him you want to behave differently and ask him to take it easy, from the beginning - to go out for a few months without any promise, to show him that you can be better! It takes time and patience to convince her that you have changed, so think about it if it's worth it.

• Give her a nice gift. When she agrees to at least talk, give her something, something you know for sure she wanted! It is superficial, but a gift can have a positive effect. But don't give it to him as if you are forgiven; give her the gift, saying, "I know it doesn't mean anything, but I want you to have it, and if you can't forgive me, at least keep it as a keepsake."

• Do not insist. If all your efforts have no effect, you may have nothing to do - you may try to play a little jealous. If you always show her that you desperately want her back, she may be vengeful, she may think that you will always want her and that she may make you wait. But she arranges in such a way that in a place where she is, to talk a little flirting with another. See how he reacts! But don't take the flirtation too far, because that will annoy her. If he doesn't react in any way, then you probably have nothing to do.

• I can't do without her, how do I get her back? Yes, you can! If she was the one who wanted to break up without you making a mistake, then think that maybe that's better! Yes, you are suffering now, but you must realize that all emotions, no matter how unbearable they seem now, will pass away. In time, you will forget the suffering and continue your life. And if it wasn't for her, maybe you weren't right, she wasn't the best girlfriend for you. Think about it, there isn't just one person for everyone (this is just a fantasy) - there are several right people with whom you can have a happy relationship. And if it wasn't for her, it will be another one!

Do not insist and do not punish yourself by staying in the past - if she wanted this breakup and does not want another try, then you have nothing to do. The more you bother to think of new solutions to make her change her mind, the worse you feel. You will see, as you have other friends, that the first breakup is the worst, but get over it in time!

Remember: rarely does the first relationship remain alone, and this is positive: you have to experience how young you are, go out with a lot of people, so that when you meet the right one, you know that and have no regrets!