breakups
When it comes to breakups, pain is inevitable, but Humans thinks that suffering is optional.
My Boyfriend Said He Cheated Because I Did It First
He said I cheated first. And that’s why he decided to cheat on me. It had been a week since the day I caught him cheating. At the crack of dawn, I could hear the roosters crowing and the city coming to life as I sat on the bed, holding his phone in my hand, about to snoop.
By Eshal Rose4 years ago in Humans
Letter 11/15/21
11/15/21 Dear Unnamed, I hope you’re doing well. I hope you’re happy. I know things ended horribly between us, and part of me still blames you. It was because of your actions that things went so wrong, but assigning blame is so pointless, so I’m trying to stop and just let things be as they are. I’m not angry with you anymore. When I think of you, I am not overwhelmed with anger or sadness like I was before. I do try to avoid thinking of all the good things about you, though, because when I think of the good, I get sad. I get jealous of myself for having had something so good and letting it slip away. Not that I let you slip away. You violently pulled away, so it was not my choice. But saying this makes it sound like I am unhappy where I’m at now, which I’m not. I have found a man who loves me perhaps just as unconditionally as I love him. He is kind and smart and thoughtful. Let me tell you about him.
By Emery Pine4 years ago in Humans
Tape Recorder Theory
Up to eighty percent of divorces are filed by women according to statistics and I suspect that actually falls far short of how many long term sexual/romantic relationships (married or not, living together or not) are ended by the woman of the relationship. My guess would be that it's closer to ninety five percent of long-term relationships are ended by the woman but that I simply my conjecture based on both personal experiences and observations of the termination of relationships I've witnessed over the years. Men tend to fall into relationships like a habit never considering that anyone can leave anyone at any time for any reason. Women, however, have the emotional equivalent of black belts in relationships and psychologically and emotionally are much stronger than men and it's almost always the man that is psychologically devastated by the termination of the relationship and somehow, he almost never saw it coming. It hit him, it seemed, out of the blue. The following is a speech I've given over and over to friends that have just experienced the sudden, permanent break up and by the way, if she drastically cuts her hair, it is absolutely, positively over with no chance of resolution.
By J.D. Bradley4 years ago in Humans
Signs You Have Emotionally Broken Up with Your Partner
What does a breakup look like to you? Is it moving out of the apartment you shared with them, or is it deleting their contact from your phone? We can almost always point out the exact physical moment of a breakup. When does an emotional breakup happen?
By Eshal Rose4 years ago in Humans
A letter to the one who hurt me the most
Dear Him It's been 2 months now since we separated, I saw that you already have a girlfriend after a week of us breaking up. makes me think if you have been talking to her way before we broke up. I loved you, I spent 2 years loving you and giving you my all. I thought what we had was special, unforgettable. I guess it was only like that for me. we have been through so much together, I told my whole family about you, you know how hard and sad it is to tell your father that the man you once called love left you and got over a 2-year relationship in a week. It's killing. you told me you loved me and that this time you changed. I believed you, I did, but you left again. you made me wait 1 year for us to start dating, I YEAR JUST IN THE TALKING STAGE because you said you had commitment problems because of your last relationship. if that's true then tell me to love why after 2 years you wait a week and you already have another one, it took me a year to call you to mine and it only took her a week. did you love me? or did you only love the love and attention I gave you because I gave you my all. I let you use me because I didn't see the real you, I only saw what I wanted to see but I'm done. I can't keep fighting anymore, you hurt me so bad that not even words can explain what I'm going through right now. I can't keep hurting myself, I hope you feel what I felt when you shattered my heart. I hope you grow up mentally and realize how bad you messed me up. I can't even love anymore because I fear that your going to try to come back and ill let you...again, but losing you made me realize one thing, that I loved you more than I loved myself, but I'm done I'm so tired of not being enough for you. I was never enough for you. you always wanted more, more than I had and I gave it to you and left myself with nothing because I thought you would have done the same for me too but instead you left. you left me with absolutely nothing but hate for you and me. you were my first love and I wanted you to be my last, so badly. the reason why I don't believe in love anymore is because of you. I don't understand how you can live knowing you hurt me without an explanation. I trusted you with my all and you knew that and you still hurt me. you left like what we had was nothing but it wasn't just nothing, those late-night phone calls weren't just nothing, the times you walked me home just to keep me safe weren't just nothing. I know that if you didn't love me you wouldn't have done that, so why I ask you, why did you do that to me. made me believe that you loved me. it's so hard to move on. I keep telling myself since you did I can too but I can't, I cant and I don't know why but all I know is that I will soon, I'm ready to love myself again I'm ready to let you go. for real this time because you won't and I won't let you win. one day you're going to miss what we had, it may not be now but one day you are going to try to come back and I won't let you because ill be happy with someone else, with someone who deserves my all, someone who loves me. so I hope you are happy love because I know you'll never get anything from me ever again.
By Celeste Sanchez 4 years ago in Humans
The Bridge
The Bridge by: Dennis R. Humphreys The importance of certain things become less so many times as we get older. A few things become more so when we were younger. I guess it's because we become wiser with age and supposedly that makes decisions easier. The problem is, wisdom reflects an accumulation of information we obtain through experience over time with more information that gives us more options. That to me represents a condition for hesitancy and the inability to make decisions even though the decision should be a sounder one.
By Dennis Humphreys4 years ago in Humans
