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Toxic and Abusive Relationships (Part 2)
So you realized you were being abused, and you did what you had to do: You left. Now what? You're lost, hurting, you miss your partner, you're doubting your decisions, and you feel as if you are falling apart at the seams. For some people, leaving the abusive partner is not always that breath of fresh air or the feeling of relief. And many people do not and will not ever understand that. In this article, I am going to give you the "Do's and Don'ts" of healing, and tell you just a little bit of my own story.
By Hope Martin6 years ago in Humans
Childhood Friendships
Childhood friendships are a gift to the world. Remember the days when you could make fart jokes, and nobody judged you? Those were the days, nobody called you juvenile because you were, in fact, juvenile – just a kid who didn’t know any better. Through the years, our innocence fades, and we become judgmental little teenagers who thrive on misery and pain. Little satanic demons if you will.
By Keane Neal-Riquier6 years ago in Humans
Toxic and Abusive Relationships
So what defines a toxic relationship? It is a relationship when one or both people in the relationship display behaviors that are aggressive and controlling and negative. A toxic relationship is oftentimes physically, emotionally, and mentally harmful to one or both people involved. Relationships should be full of compromise, communication, encouragement, support, and understanding. This applies to friendships, family relations, and romantic relationships.
By Hope Martin6 years ago in Humans
People-Pleasing
It’s not easy being a people pleaser. I would know since I used to be one. You have this need deep down inside of you to do what makes other people happy and you never even consider what you want. It’s exhausting. Saying yes when in reality, you want to tell them no and saying no when you actually want to say yes. You just want validation to be and feel accepted and wanted, because maybe in the past you were bullied so you decided to act like someone else so others would like “you” or maybe a family member tried so hard to make you into someone else so you listened and decided to go their way, because you thought that they were right. It’s not always a family member or a bully that causes you to make decisions revolving around other people not thinking once of yourself. It could very well be a friend, too. A friend that probably wants you to date a friend or sibling of theirs, because they just want the best for you or maybe your friend thinks that you’re making a bad choice even though you may feel differently. If you’re a people-pleaser or are a recovering people-pleaser you would know how hard it is, no, close to impossible it is to just say NO and of course if you were to say no or I don’t want to it could risk disappointing those closest to you which will then cause a pain in your heart. People sometimes lose friendships or risk distancing from a family member due to doing what makes them happy and whoever you disappoint may see you as a villain for not doing what they want you to do, but you know what?
By Sarah Pinheiro6 years ago in Humans
3 Tips to Manage Your Expectations of Your Partner
Before we dive into managing our expectations of our partners, or other people in general, I want to explain that there is a difference between having standards of how you want to be treated and having expectations of how others should react to you.
By Alicia Lynn6 years ago in Humans
Long Distance Relationships: What If There's No End in Sight?
Let's start with a generally accepted fact: Long distance relationships are hard. Really hard. If you've been in one, you can understand what it means to love and long for from a distance; there's a piece missing, not of you, necessarily, but of what you love, of home, of belonging, and even though you know exactly where it is, you can't just go and get it and hold it close. It's frustrating and lonely and fragmenting, and only the strongest couples make it through. These are couples who have somehow lucked into the perfect trifecta of love, circumstance, and timing.
By Bethany Elliott 6 years ago in Humans
Who Really Gives a Fuck?
Sometimes it’s someone whose opinion you couldn’t care less about. But sometimes it's someone who you couldn’t care more about. No matter what you do, they always have something negative to say about you and always assume the worse about any of your actions. And sure, you have people who tell you the opposite every single day, but that’s just because they have to, right?
By Stormy Robertson6 years ago in Humans
