Sarah Pinheiro

People-Pleasing

It’s not easy being a people pleaser. I would know since I used to be one. You have this need deep down inside of you to do what makes other people happy and you never even consider what you want. It’s exhausting. Saying yes when in reality, you want to tell them no and saying no when you actually want to say yes. You just want validation to be and feel accepted and wanted, because maybe in the past you were bullied so you decided to act like someone else so others would like “you” or maybe a family member tried so hard to make you into someone else so you listened and decided to go their way, because you thought that they were right. It’s not always a family member or a bully that causes you to make decisions revolving around other people not thinking once of yourself. It could very well be a friend, too. A friend that probably wants you to date a friend or sibling of theirs, because they just want the best for you or maybe your friend thinks that you’re making a bad choice even though you may feel differently. If you’re a people-pleaser or are a recovering people-pleaser you would know how hard it is, no, close to impossible it is to just say NO and of course if you were to say no or I don’t want to it could risk disappointing those closest to you which will then cause a pain in your heart. People sometimes lose friendships or risk distancing from a family member due to doing what makes them happy and whoever you disappoint may see you as a villain for not doing what they want you to do, but you know what?