Who Really Gives a Fuck?

Sometimes it’s someone whose opinion you couldn’t care less about. But sometimes it's someone who you couldn’t care more about. No matter what you do, they always have something negative to say about you and always assume the worse about any of your actions. And sure, you have people who tell you the opposite every single day, but that’s just because they have to, right?

Wrong. If I've learned anything in the 20 years I've been alive, it’s that no one—absolutely no one—is required to care about you. You are not guaranteed anything. Which sounds extremely bleak and a little “2014 Tumblr-esque,” but it is true. The people in your life, they’re there because they want to be. You have something about you that is making them stay, whether it’s long term or short term. Whether it’s a good reason or a shitty one. They are not required to stay, you can’t make someone stay if they don’t want to. Everyone has one life, it’s not just you. You aren’t the only person that doesn’t want to waste their time. Sure, maybe that boy a couple years ago only stayed because he thought you had a fat ass. So what? Your ass had the power to keep someone in your life for a series of months, without them caring about anything else besides that. That’s something. You know that you have a good body. Maybe a boy only stuck around because he thought y'all were going to bang. That kid wasted his own time, because the possibility of fucking you was more important to him than his time. He could've gotten that somewhere else but he decided on you. So you know you’re fuck-able. So who cares? He wasted his time. You at least learned something about yourself throughout all of it. Why let that one person’s stupidity dictate how you think people view you for the rest of your life? Yes, it hurt at the time. But it doesn’t hurt anymore does it? So why would you waste your time and dampen your relationships with the people that do truly care about you, just in case something goes wrong? Isn’t it more of a waste of time to potentially ruin your relationship with someone because you were constantly asking them to prove something they don’t have to? If someone is telling you that they care about you, believe them. Don't let past experiences ruin future experiences. No one is the same. Just because he hurt you, does not mean every “he” will. Just because they didn’t love you back doesn’t mean no one is ever going to feel the same way about you that you do for them.

Plot twist: people care about you because they want to. Don’t push that away. Who really gives a fuck if you’ve been hurt before? Not them. Your past hasn’t changed how they feel about you, so don’t let it change how you feel about them. When you push everyone away because you’re scared of the same result, you end up exactly how you would if it did. Alone. Distrustful. Scared. Take a fucking chance. Have some fucking hope that something will change and stick around long enough to watch it change. As adamant as you are that you aren’t dwelling on the past, when you let those negative experiences with people get in the way of positive experiences with new people, you’re dwelling. They’ve stuck around because they want to. Fuck everyone and everything else. It does not matter. Stop overthinking. Stop the damage control. They love you. Let them.