Here’s How Compliments Can Strengthen Your Relationship With Your Partner

At their first meetings, the partners compete in compliments: "how beautiful you are", "what gorgeous eyes you have", "what a fantastic dress you wear", or: "how skilled you are", "what a perfect style you have", " I have never met a man so intelligent and handsome at the same time ", etc, etc. But this cascade of compliments - which may come from the heart or the desire to conquer - at some point dries up.

Why do partners stop complimenting each other? Because they have already conquered the person they wanted because they think he/she already knows how great they think? But wouldn't it be nice to express his admiration verbally from time to time?

Compliments have a huge power to strengthen a relationship, a nice word at a time can make as many as a thousand bouquets or bottles of wine… First of all, if not your partner should complement you, then who? A stranger at the opposite table?

What does a man or woman think when he is told that he has not made any remarks about what his partner looks like? "But of course, he/she knows how attractive he/she finds it, no need to talk." Maybe he knows, but after a long time you don't tell him anything, he may end up doubting it. And she may end up appreciating the fact that a stranger seems to be noticing nice things about her/him while her partner seems blind…

A few compliments to your partner from time to time increase his / her self-confidence and make him / her ambitious to always look good so that you will notice this.

Their absence can make him / her neglect his / her appearance, believing that you do not see or hear anything anyway. Moreover, the compliments show the partner that you appreciate him/her and that you are still paying attention to the small details - which are important for him/her: a new blouse/shirt, a new haircut, a new make-up, a new after-shave and so on.

Feeling appreciated in a relationship is essential: a partner who begins to feel neglected and ignored may seek that appreciation outside of the relationship…

And nothing good can come of it! Here are some examples of compliments about your partner's appearance; not only the appearance can be complimented, but also the personality traits or skills of the partner.

Remember what you like about him/her so much and remind him/her too! For example: "I forgot how funny you are and how you make me laugh", "I haven't told you how much I adore your sincere sincerity", "since when did I not tell you that you are good at tennis?", " I miss your pie, you cook wonderfully "! Or anything else you loved for the first time at your partner…

Attention, compliments are good for the relationship, but they have to be said from the heart, there is no point in complicating yourself with dishonest words…

For example, don't tell him how much you love his haircut if it's terrible, don't tell him how much you love her figure if she has gained enough weight! In these situations, and only if you are asked, "Honey, how's my haircut?", "Honey, have I gained weight?" it's ok, but you looked great with that haircut from a year ago "," you gained a little weight, but you still look very sexy "!

Better a poor horse than no horse at all. You can't say you have nothing to compliment your partner on; Maybe she didn't take anything new, maybe she didn't change anything for the better, but remember what you liked about her/him and tell her! Stop thinking that "she/he knows for sure what I like and why I love her", tell her and remind her/him and you will see that she will respond accordingly!

It is human nature to react in the same way as the one you interact with: if someone behaves aggressively with you, you become aggressive, if someone laughs non-stop, you are also in a good mood, if someone compliments you and appreciates you, a / you will appreciate it too.

Both pronouns, feminine and masculine, were used in this article; this is because the power of compliments is manifested in both women and men. Many believe that only women need to be assured that they look good, that they dress nicely, and that they are interesting.

Wrong! Although, at least in terms of appearance, women want to hear more often (as often as possible) how good they look, and men feel the need to be appreciated and told. If you think you don't have to tell your partner that you still find him attractive, you still find him funny, you still find him interesting and smart, you're wrong!

You think he sees these things in your behavior towards him, but a nice word from time to time will comfort his pride and remind him that he is in a relationship full of affection. If you don't appreciate him and he starts to feel ignored, he will end up paying much more attention to the girls who smile at him, seeing that they like him while you don't even look at him!

And when a girl tells him how great he is, he will fall into the trap and it's all your fault! Because you don't constantly remind him how much you love and appreciate him and you haven't complimented him since you were a child!

And the reciprocal is valid, by the way! A woman who feels unattractive in the eyes of her partner will fall on the floor with joy when a nice stranger tells her how gorgeous she looks tonight!

And it's not about stupidity and naivety, it's about the need for appreciation that every human being has. To be appreciated and admired is not only a desire of your partner but a necessity in his personal development. Give him what he needs and he won't look elsewhere!

Take a look at Maslow's Pyramid of Needs and draw your conclusions!