grief
Losing a family member is one of the most traumatic life events; Families must support one another to endure the five stages of grief and get through it together.
Cheyne-Stokes Respirations
He fell on July 19th, 2019 while walking the damn dog. After people in the 70’s fall and break a hip, their life expectancy is typically three-to-six months. However, the end did not begin with the fall. His gasping for life began years ago, perhaps even before I was born. Smoking didn’t help but innate self-uncertainty, insecurity, unfulfillment fueled the breaths of discontent.
By chris miskec-rhymes-with-whiskey5 years ago in Families
The emotions connected to grieving a spouse
As I write this my husband has been dead one week and we had his service yesterday, My emotions are all over the place and I’m going with them. Up down and all around this has been a rollercoaster ride and I want off. At times I’m in shock and want to scream because my life partner of 45 years is gone. I only spent the first 17 years of my life without my late husband and that’s a lot to reflect upon.
By Cheryl E Preston5 years ago in Families
Grief must be dealt with alone
Once you announce a loved one’s passing, the condolences begin. People call, text, visit, inbox and instant message. They give cards, some with money, send flowers and load you up with food. This is commendable and appreciated but it does not go on forever. Once the casket is closed and the deceased laid to rest, however, things begin to change. It’s true counseling is available and that some people may keep up with you for a while. What is also real and factual is that thetr are some things you must do alone.
By Cheryl E Preston5 years ago in Families
I am now a widow
My husband passed away this week and we had been married 40 years and together 45. To say I am devasted is an understatement. This man was in my life every day for 4 decades and now I feel lost without him. I know I will make it but there are so many things that are different now that I am a widow. I feel vulnerable to situations that I did not pay attention to before. I brushed off men who flirted because I had a man, but things have changed. As I was getting into the car today I saw a neighbor with 3 other males sitting on his porch. I wondered if they knew and would they be looking at me differently?
By Cheryl E Preston5 years ago in Families
I love my wife
Romance Sacrifice. Martin Phillips the perfect example of a man’s man, caught up in something he was frightened of. He was only thirty seven, he had so many other plans. He would like to think that people saw him as a loyal honest man, he certainly tried. Oh, sure he did the big tough job as a builder, he spent four nights a week in the gym, and loved his Saturday night pint. But underneath the exterior there was a family man who loved his wife dearly.
By Nigel Dougill5 years ago in Families
The Matrix is real! Sort of.
Be Careful what you want to know. What few people truly know is this. The Matrix is real. Ok, maybe not like in the movies. We don’t have the choice to take the Blue pill or the Red pill. Obviously we also don't have cool ships, telephone escape locations, super abilities or oracles with magic cookies. Well, that last one is more readily available in some places! And of course we don’t have Keanu Reeves and no way to loan Sam Jackson our sleeves. But, in order to become one of the very elite few who know this information you will have to be in a situation that NO ONE wants to be in no matter how secret or elite. In fact, this is rare knowledge that absolutely no one who finds out actually wants to know but can never go back once they have it thrust upon them. There are no Red or Blue pills to choose from. This information is part of a body of knowledge that is rare even in its own uniqueness. Only the elite chosen can know, but once they do, there is not one person who doesn't wish with every single ounce of their being that they never had to know. Or, who doesn't spend the rest of their lives wishing they could go back and unlearn it. Most of the time you never even know or think about this club of people who are now "In the know" at all. That is, if you are one of the lucky ones. One of the ones who are allowed to be in the dark about it. Who never, ever have to experience either the membership or, and this is key, the absolutely horrifying and life altering Initiation situations that are required to even know about it much less to join. But, here I am, Come what may. And for your sake, and indeed for my own, I will speak. And Blessed be the damned consequences of my actions.
By Johanna de Boer5 years ago in Families
A Definition of a Role Model: Jacqueline Dickens
What makes a role model, an individual whose amazing spirit brings joy to those around them, and bring thats same spirit to their work with the best intentions for those around them. For me, that individual is Jacqueline Dickens, who is a founding figure of A New Leaf, a homeless residence located in Mesa, Arizona.
By Michael Nowotny5 years ago in Families
The Alchemist's Practice Chapter 3
Her eyes always captivated him. As blue as the sky, even in the dimmest light, but only on the surface. It only happened on rainy days or rarely when the clouds were just right, but Wynn's eyes were a fierce smokey grey. Not many seemed to notice, or if they did, none had mentioned it when they were young.
By Jeremy McLean5 years ago in Families
Lost
Loss of a loved one is a curious thing; for so many people, the end of that person’s life means they will never see them again. Many religious people believe they will see their loved ones again, but when the actual moments of passing happen, it is the time when they are simultaneously most sure, and most unsure. They are sure because they hope with all hope that they will be able to see their loved one again, and yet the sting of loss can cause even the most devout to wonder even a little.
By H. M. Pack5 years ago in Families
