True strength begins with working alone

True strength begins with working alone

When it comes to loners, many people's first impression is "unsociable".

Zhuang Zi said, "To act alone means to be unique; Unique people, is the most expensive."

Therefore, being a loner or "unsociable" is, on the other hand, the behavior of the strong.

Observing the people around you, you will find that the weaker the people, the more they like to hang out with others.

On the contrary, it is those who are truly strong in heart and strength who always like to be alone.

1, strong people, have long given up ineffective social

This is a common scenario.

Go to a party and greet a group of strangers with warm greetings, smiling, exchanging pleasantries, toasting, scanning wechat and leaving phone numbers.

But after three days I couldn't remember who it was......

This kind of low-quality social interaction is best described as "ineffective social interaction".

Those who spend their energy on "ineffective networking" are either filling up their loneliness or covering up their own incompetence.

They seem to have friends all over the world. They add thousands of friends on wechat, but they can't find anyone to talk to when they are upset.

They seem to be well-connected and know all kinds of cool people, but no one will help them when they need help.

Zhou Guoping's passage hit the nail on the head:

"Social people tend to think they have a lot of friends, but they know that it's not friendship that rules the social scene. It's fashion, profit or boredom.

True friendship is not noisy."

Powerful people know this and have given up on ineffective socializing long ago.

Ren Zhengfei, Huawei's founder, has disclosed that he has no personal relationship with any government official;

With the exception of Liu Chuanzhi and Wang Shi, he has no contact with any other Chinese entrepreneur.

I didn't interact with any media or any reporters.

Many people are always afraid of "not fitting in" and think that "having more friends makes life easier".

So in order to be sociable and sociable, non-stop to rush to a lively and bustling.

Strong people understand that the world is their own and has nothing to do with anyone else.

Instead of spending time and energy drinking and making "friends" that don't matter, learn to spend time with yourself.

The world is very fair, how strong your ability is, how wide your connections will be.

Instead of indulging in social crap and imagining that others will pull you up, learn to stand on your own feet.

Mr. Lu Xun said: "Wild animals always walk alone, cattle and sheep only in groups."

Give up those useless social, improve yourself, your world will be bigger.

2. Being a loner is living your true self

Being alone is not rebellious or arrogant.

But in the life of people coming and going, can always keep a clear mind, listen to the voice of the heart, follow the choice of the heart.

At the turn of Song and Yuan, the world was in chaos.

It was a hot and dry day. Xu Heng was out and thirsty.

Just roadside a pear tree, passers-by have to pick pears, only Xu Heng unmoved.

Someone asked: "Why not pick pears to quench your thirst?"

Xu Heng replied, "How can you pick a pear that is not your own?"

The man smiled and said, "These are troubled times, who cares whose pear it is?"

Xu Heng color way: "pear without master, my heart alone without master?"

Solitary is a kind of posture, is some people walk in the complex world posture, not urgent not slow, enjoy a season of flowers bright, waiting for a season of pure Che snow;

Don't be blind to the name, don't let hypocrisy cover the heart.

Going it alone is a kind of courage, not going with the flow, not following the crowd.

In the troubled real life, maintain their own heart, with loneliness and loneliness in the face of reality, they just know more clearly, what they want.

A loner, humble, gentle, aloof from worldly affairs.

But they have pride, have edge, they always know their own direction, has been moving forward.

For us ordinary people, there is no need to deliberately gregarious, of course, also do not have to be specially in order to appear extraordinary, and deliberately not gregarious.

The right approach is to fit in if you can, and to scatter if you can't. Neither drift with the crowd, nor be pretentious.

Being a loner is just a form of life and has nothing to do with character.

It is better to choose loneliness alone than to be vulgar together.

3, deliberately gregarious, as alone

In fact, being ostracized and isolated by the group is only a survival worry for the weak, who cannot face the risks brought by being ostracized by the group.

In ancient hunter-gatherer times, our ancestors faced a harsh test of survival.

In nature, snakes and beasts are rampant. There is no group cooperation, and individuals fight alone. It is easy to die under the fangs of beasts.

Therefore, the more weak, the more desperate to stick together.

It's a way of life handed down from our ancestors.

People today are the same, the weaker the person, the more afraid of being abandoned by the group.

Lin Huiyin once said that the real calm is not to avoid the noise of horses and cars, but to cultivate fences and plant chrysanthemums in the heart.

If you want to measure how strong a man is inside, you can see if he can be alone.

With others, we are always in a social state;

Only when you are alone can you truly find yourself, recognize yourself, and return to your true self.

Alone, is a person's best value-added period.

The height of a person's life, often depends on the quality of alone.

If we just listen to music and play games when we are alone, without doing anything meaningful, then it is meaningless to be alone.

The real meaningful solitude should be to improve and enrich oneself through continuous learning. It should be to turn back and think seriously.

Look back at the path you've taken and reflect on the lessons it has taught you.

What makes you strong is the accumulation and progress of thinking and learning alone.

In the entertainment industry, Chen Daoming is a person who prefers to be alone.

In his spare time, he rarely participated in social parties, but would sit in front of the window only to see the sky to play the piano;

Or think of their own experience in filming, quietly painting, such a life, he felt comfortable and quiet.

In an interview with Yang LAN, Chen said: "Solitude is a virtue that can purify one's heart."

Enriching yourself is far more meaningful than pleasing others.

Don't care about other people's eyes, in solitude savings strength.

Constantly stronger, in order to bloom their own luster.