The Blindness to Love: Why Narcissists Can’t Feel What We Can

Because they cannot feel the injury to

harmony

Peace

love

joy

loyalty

faith

because these things don’t exist to them.

If I can feel harmony, the loss of it is palpable. In fact, I use this to detect anti-harmony types.

If I can feel peace, the loss of it is palpable. I would rather be all alone in a room for the next 20 years than spend it with people who like to play ‘poke the bunny’ (but I will need the internet).

If I can feel love, the loss of it is palpable. If I caused it, it will torture me for the rest of my life. That’s why I have to be extremely careful with someone like that. I fear losing their love. The loss of their love is an emotional singularity event for me.

If I can feel joy, the loss of it is palpable. I will start getting depressed.

If I can have someone truly loyal to me, the loss of it is palpable. I might never forgive myself for betraying them.

If I can have someone who has faith in me, the loss of it is palpable. Are you aware how few people who ever lived ever had anyone have faith in them?

Wantonly injuring these things results in a permanent loss of my own self-esteem that is irrecoverable.

Therefore I have to be very careful how I tread in life.

NPD types live in an ungracious universe.

There is no

harmony

peace

love

joy

loyalty

faith

in it. Hence these qualities cannot be lost. They also do not exist. You cannot injure them. Nobody loves anybody. It’s impossible because love is a myth that only fools believe exist.

They do not miss chocolate they’ve never tasted.

Abusive behavior kills off someone’s goodwill towards you. That’s the consequence. It kills love.

The ultimate consequence is, eventually, there is no one left who loves you anymore.

But NPDs are blind to this consequence. Love doesn’t exist to them. It makes absolutely no difference to them whether you love them or not. It makes no difference whether five people love them, or all five have permanently left in disgust.

That’s why NPDs do what they do. And that’s why what they do always has the same consequences. It always ends up senselessly killing love.

That’s why they always return evil for good.

If we liken love and goodwill to chocolate, then

NPDs do not miss the chocolate they’ve never tasted.

They do not miss the chocolate they’ve never tasted.

NPDs are blind to love and goodwill.

They believe there are no consequences for the exact same reason why they are ungrateful, for the exact same reason why they return evil for good.

There can only be consequences when there is something to lose. When there is nothing to lose, there is only everything to gain.

This is true even if it’s purely a matter of perception. They failed to perceive a loss, so they failed to perceive consequences.

Someone gave them an ugly brown crumpled paper bag.

Hidden within that ugly, trashy looking bag is $500, tightly rolled and tied with a rubber band.

The NPD wasn’t aware of the $500. They only saw a useless, trashy brown paper bag.

So they tossed it into the bin, and walked away.

They didn’t know that they’ve just lost $500. The loss didn’t bother them.

A colorblind person picks colors senselessly.

A tone deaf person sings atrociously.

A benevolence blind person responds to love and goodwill senselessly.

In each example, the correct ability to sense is needed.

Anyone who lacks the suitable sense organs would make senseless choices and fail to respond correctly to stimuli.

It makes absolutely no difference to a color blind person whether they wear mismatched outfits or all grey clothes. Nothing of color offends or excites their senses.

Likewise, a benevolence blind person cannot see what’s so bad with alienating good people.

Anyone who is morally disordered is blind to love. Love doesn’t work for them, on them. Because morality is the study of benevolence. Without benevolence, morality is superfluous. Being morally blind is equivalent to being benevolence numb. Anyone who is benevolence numb sees no point in being benevolent, nor do they acknowledge ever having received benefit from others. They live in a cold cold, senseless, insane universe.

That’s why I keep calling such people spiritually worthless. They are like a vending machine that keeps swallowing coins but fails to dispense snacks.

One more thing, consequence and narcissists are arch-enemies. Narcissists

hate the concept that consequence exists (although they aren’t aware of it)

hate thinking in terms of consequences (but since they have no self-awareness, they do not realize this)

and hate thinking about anything truthfully in terms that lead to seeing the big picture and consequences (they aren’t aware their thinking always contains no truth, so they cannot become aware that they think in falsehoods)

always default to convictions within 1 second (they have no idea about this, they believe this is how absolutely every one else also thinks like)

their convictions are always based on magical thinking and falsehood rather than following the bread crumbs of incremental truth to arrive at incrementally improved paradigms

how they feel is what they think (low self-esteem equals toxic thoughts, high self-esteem equals uber benevolence and love bombing) (therefore due to their characteristically unstable self esteem, they have manic depressive or bipolar thoughts, either psychotically toxic or psychotically exuberant, either way, always psychotic)

Psychosis makes pondering consequences impossible because the definition of psychosis is, ‘not living in reality’.

Narcissists are always either in some form of negative, toxic psychosis, or positive, exuberant psychosis. This causes them to be impulsive and epic rather than sober and consequential.

Narcissists don’t live in reality, they live in a fairy tale of moral magical thinking devoid of rules and consequences.