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Society Often Teaches Us to Suppress Our Sad Feelings, Branding Them as Negative.. Top Story - January 2026. Content Warning.
Allow yourself the time to feel, process, and let go. What a journey we’ve traveled together. You can relate to that pain that appears out of nowhere and wants to linger in our minds. Once fear moves in, it takes root—spreading doubt, loneliness, and confusion It’s that kind of pain that overtakes your mental health, gradually making a home within you. Your thoughts can create a space filled with fear, a feeling that we often cling to because it’s the one our minds use against us—leading to a fierce battle between your thoughts and your feelings. It’s a struggle no one wants to lose, yet losing yourself feels like an ever-present threat. Isn’t that a trick life plays on us?
By Johana Torres9 days ago in Psyche
When Love Feels Like Anxiety
Caleb loved Iris so much he couldn't sleep. Not in the romantic, staying-up-talking-all-night way. In the lying-awake-at-3-a.m.-heart-racing-mind-spiraling way. In the checking-his-phone-every-five-minutes-when-she-didn't-text-back way. In the can't-eat-can't-focus-can't-function-unless-he-knew-she-still-loved-him way. People said he was in love. And maybe he was. But it didn't feel like the love depicted in movies or described in songs. It felt like standing at the edge of a cliff, constantly terrified of falling. It felt like his entire nervous system was wired to one person, and if she withdrew even slightly, his whole world collapsed. It felt, more than anything, like anxiety. They'd been dating for eight months, and Caleb had never felt this way about anyone. He thought about Iris constantly. Needed to know where she was, who she was with, whether she was thinking about him. When they were together, he felt euphoric. When they were apart, he felt like he was suffocating. "You're so intense," Iris said one evening after he'd texted her fourteen times because she hadn't responded for two hours. "I was just at dinner with my sister. I'm allowed to not text you for a few hours." "I know. I'm sorry. I just... I worry when I don't hear from you." "Worry about what?" Caleb couldn't articulate it. That he worried she'd realize he wasn't enough. That she'd meet someone better. That she'd wake up one day and wonder why she was with him. That every moment she wasn't actively choosing him felt like she might be about to leave. "I don't know," he said instead. "I just love you a lot." But it didn't feel like love. It felt like drowning while pretending to swim.
By Ameer Moavia10 days ago in Psyche
Are You an Otrovert? The New Personality Type
I’m sure you’ve heard someone describe themselves as either an introvert or an extrovert. Two personality types on opposite sides of the spectrum. The eccentric and outgoing extroverts and the quiet and mysterious introverts, it seems wherever we look society tells us we are either one or the other. This leads many of us to pick a side that we may not associate with completely but feels closest to who we are. Nothing in the middle.
By Dave's Your Uncle!11 days ago in Psyche
The Year She Forgot How to Be Around People
Emma had been alone for 347 days when she realized she'd forgotten how to have a conversation. It wasn't intentional isolation. It started with the pandemic—everyone retreated into their separate spaces, and Emma's one-bedroom apartment became the entire universe. Then her remote job eliminated the casual water cooler chats. Her best friend moved across the country. Her weekly book club dissolved. One by one, the threads connecting her to other humans frayed and snapped. And Emma told herself she was fine. She had video calls sometimes. She texted people. She scrolled through social media seeing everyone else's lives. She wasn't truly alone. But when her neighbor knocked on her door to ask about a package delivery, Emma opened her mouth to respond and the words came out wrong. Stilted. Like she'd forgotten the rhythm of human speech. "I... yes. The package. It's... I haven't..." She couldn't form a complete sentence. Her neighbor looked at her with concern, and Emma felt a wave of panic. What was happening to her? After he left, Emma sat on her couch and tried to remember the last real conversation she'd had. Not a transactional exchange with a delivery person or a scripted work call, but an actual spontaneous human interaction. She couldn't remember. And when she tried to imagine having one now, her brain short-circuited. The social scripts she'd once known automatically—how to read facial expressions, when to laugh, how to know when it was her turn to talk—felt like a foreign language she'd once been fluent in but had somehow forgotten. Emma wasn't just lonely anymore. Loneliness had physically changed her brain. And she had no idea how to change it back.
By Ameer Moavia11 days ago in Psyche
The Kuntilanak Files
Indonesia is a country where the modern world never fully erased the old one. Glass towers rise beside centuries-old banyan trees. Smartphones glow in villages where spirits are still spoken of in whispers. In many parts of the archipelago, the supernatural is not dismissed—it is managed, respected, avoided. Among these beliefs, few names carry as much fear as Kuntilanak. Traditionally, the Kuntilanak is described as the spirit of a woman who died during childbirth—her grief twisting into something violent and restless. Pale-faced, long-haired, dressed in white, she is said to appear at night, often announced by the sound of soft laughter or a baby crying. In folklore, she haunts forests, abandoned houses, and roadside trees. She is not a metaphor. She is a warning. For generations, these stories remained where stories usually belong: around fires, in village advice, in cautionary tales meant to keep children close to home after dark. Until the deaths began. In the late 2000s and early 2010s, a pattern emerged across parts of Java, Kalimantan, and Sumatra that unsettled even seasoned investigators. The cases were not identical, but they echoed one another in troubling ways. Young men—often students, amateur paranormal investigators, or urban explorers—were found dead near abandoned locations tied to Kuntilanak lore. At first, authorities treated each death separately. Accidents. Exposure. Falls. Natural causes compounded by risky behavior. But local communities noticed something else. The locations were wrong. The timing was wrong. And the behavior of the victims before death was… off. One of the earliest widely discussed cases involved a university student in West Java who had joined a small group dedicated to documenting haunted sites for social media. Their goal was not worship or provocation—at least publicly—but proof. They filmed night visits to abandoned houses, cemeteries, and forest edges. Their content gained traction. Fear, after all, travels well online. According to friends, the student began experiencing disturbances weeks before his death. Sleep paralysis. Nightmares involving a woman laughing behind him. Sudden mood shifts. He became withdrawn, irritable, convinced that something was “following” him. They assumed stress. One night, he returned alone to an abandoned colonial-era building rumored to be a Kuntilanak site. His camera was later found intact. The footage ended abruptly, mid-sentence, as if he had turned suddenly toward a sound. His body was discovered the next morning beneath a staircase. There were no defensive wounds. No signs of assault. The autopsy cited internal injuries consistent with a fall. But the locals focused on something else. His face, witnesses said, was frozen in terror. More cases followed. In Central Java, two young men were found dead in a forest clearing after attempting a ritual they had read about online—one meant to “summon” or “record” paranormal entities. One died at the scene. The other survived long enough to be hospitalized, where he reportedly screamed about a woman sitting on his chest at night. He died three days later from organ failure. Doctors could not link the deaths to toxins or known disease. Stress-induced complications were mentioned. The files closed quietly. But the stories did not. By this point, Indonesian social media had already connected the dots. Videos surfaced showing shadowy figures, unexplained sounds, distorted faces caught in reflections. Most were easily debunked. Some were not. Then came the Kalimantan case that changed the tone entirely. A group of construction workers clearing land near a long-abandoned village reported nightly disturbances. Tools moved. Voices heard. One worker fled the site claiming a woman in white followed him through the trees. Days later, another worker was found dead near a large fig tree. No visible injuries. No signs of struggle. The project was halted after elders from a nearby village intervened, insisting the land was known Kuntilanak territory and had been avoided for decades. This was no longer just internet folklore. Authorities were placed in an impossible position. Acknowledge supernatural causation and risk panic—or reduce everything to coincidence and offend deeply held cultural beliefs. Official explanations remained clinical. Accidents. Psychological stress. Mass suggestion. Environmental hazards. Privately, some investigators admitted discomfort. What made the Kuntilanak Files different from typical ghost stories was the consistency of behavior before death. Victims reported similar experiences across regions that did not share immediate cultural circles. Nightmares. Pressure on the chest. The sensation of being watched. A fixation on returning to specific locations. Psychologists proposed sleep paralysis combined with cultural expectation—a known phenomenon where the mind fills terror with familiar symbols. But that explanation weakens when the final outcomes are fatal. No drugs. No poisons. No physical attackers. Just bodies and fear. The Indonesian government never officially linked the cases. But internally, some law enforcement documents reportedly advised officers to consult local religious leaders when dealing with deaths tied to supernatural belief systems. Not for investigation—but for prevention. The advice was simple: Don’t provoke what you don’t understand. In traditional belief, the Kuntilanak is not mindless. She appears when disturbed. When mocked. When summoned without respect. Modern behavior—cameras, flashlights, viral challenges—violates every boundary these stories were meant to enforce. This clash between digital bravado and ancient taboo may be the true heart of the mystery. Whether the Kuntilanak exists as a literal entity or as a psychological weapon shaped by belief, the outcome is the same. People died. And they died believing something was with them in their final moments. Today, many of the most notorious sites are quietly avoided. Content creators move on to safer myths. Elders still warn travelers not to laugh at night near certain trees. Not because they expect outsiders to believe—but because belief is not required for consequences. The Kuntilanak Files remain open, unofficially. Not because science failed. But because some questions refuse to stay within neat categories. In Indonesia, the past does not sleep easily. And some legends, when dragged into the light, do not fade— they follow.
By The Insight Ledger 12 days ago in Psyche
The Psychology of Emotional Neglect
Sophie was eight years old when she stopped crying. Not because she stopped hurting. But because she'd finally learned what her parents had been teaching her all along: her pain was an inconvenience they didn't want to deal with. She'd fallen off her bike that afternoon, scraped her knee badly enough that blood soaked through her jeans. She'd run inside, tears streaming, looking for comfort. Her mother was on a work call. She'd glanced at Sophie, held up one finger—wait—and continued talking. Sophie stood there, bleeding and crying, while her mother discussed quarterly projections as if her daughter wasn't falling apart three feet away. After twenty minutes, her mother finally hung up. "What happened?" "I fell. It really hurts." Her mother barely looked at the wound. "You're fine. Go clean it up. I have another call in five minutes." Sophie went to the bathroom alone. Cleaned the wound alone. Bandaged it alone. And something inside her went quiet. My pain doesn't matter. My needs are a burden. If I want to be loved, I need to stop needing things. She didn't think those words consciously. She was eight. But her nervous system absorbed the lesson completely: To be acceptable, I must need nothing. By the time Sophie was ten, she'd perfected the art of emotional self-sufficiency. She stopped running to her parents when she was hurt, scared, or sad. Stopped sharing her excitement because they seemed annoyed by her enthusiasm. Stopped asking for help because they were always too busy. She became the "easy child." The one who didn't cause problems. The one who took care of herself. Her parents praised this. "Sophie is so independent," they'd tell relatives. "She never needs anything from us." They said it like it was a good thing. Like self-sufficiency at ten years old was maturity instead of survival. What they didn't see—what they never asked about—was the little girl inside who'd learned that her emotional needs were unwelcome. Who'd concluded that love was conditional on not requiring emotional support. Who'd started building walls around her heart to protect herself from the pain of reaching out and being ignored. Sophie wasn't independent. She was neglected. And she'd learned to call it strength.
By Ameer Moavia12 days ago in Psyche
Why Some People Feel Alone Even in Relationships
Lena woke up next to her husband of seven years and felt like a stranger was sleeping beside her. Not because Tom had changed. But because somewhere between the wedding and this Tuesday morning, they'd stopped being two people who knew each other and become two people who lived in the same house.
By Ameer Moavia12 days ago in Psyche
Why Some People Apologize Even When They’re Not Wrong
Emma said "sorry" seventeen times before noon. Sorry for asking a question in the meeting. Sorry for walking through a door someone was holding. Sorry for her email being too long. Sorry for her email being too short. Sorry for needing to use the bathroom during a Zoom call. Sorry for existing in spaces that other people also existed in.
By Ameer Moavia13 days ago in Psyche
