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Advice and tips on managing mental health, maintaining a positive outlook and becoming your happiest self.
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To say “well, this has been a hell of a year” when looking back would be a massive understatement. Considering my last published post on my personal blog was in April of 2020, it’s fair to say that things have changed. Some of those changes have been large, others have been small. Losing my job was a large change. Making adjustments to my personal hygiene routine is a small one. Beginning pursuit of a degree in counseling psychology? Large. Learning a few new chords on a guitar and getting my fingers on a Casio keyboard again? Not so much.
By Blue Ink Alchemy5 years ago in Psyche
Being in denial and fighting for survival
Have you ever known a sweet and caring person that is receiving treatment they do not deserve? Whether you like to admit or or not I would probably guess that most of you have. Why do so many caring people let themselves be the subject of this treatment? Are they insecure and just think they deserve it or do they decide to deal with the treatment because, they are afraid of conflict? Perhaps they are just in denial of what is happening to them. Even if a person in an abusive situation subconsciously knows what is going on they still do not want to believe it a lot of the time. Do they feel this way because, the fear of being hurt more? We can ask as many questions as we want to but, the truth is we do not know what others are thinking or feeling.
By Karly Krull5 years ago in Psyche
Morning Monster
Waking up was a rough patch this morning, I felt a pressure on my body that I was starting to get used to. It was like the gods were wanting me to show how angry I could get today. Though thus far I have illuded the idea of anger, but at the same time, I want to give into it. There has been little feel that I could ever change the way that I want to.
By William L. Truax III5 years ago in Psyche
Are a narcissist person?
Narcists? What does this word really mean? Let's see here; it means that a person who has an excessive interest in or admiration of themselves. But here the true meaning of this word and the actual meaning of the word; Narcissism, in its most basic terms, is self-absorption to the point of being unable to empathize with others. It is a generalized personality trait that can be thought of as selfishness and self-centeredness which is taken to the extreme. Well we got that out of the way. I lived a normal life since the age of 10 years old, since I can remember. I don't remember much around that age but as I started to grow up little by little I started to notice how my own mother started to treat me? She never once called me her daughter she always called me by my name Alice. I always tried to be the miss perfect daughter towards her and did what I was spouse to just so she can be proud of me as a child that she can call me her own daughter, she didn't even budge.... I always tried getting good grades in school, I always made sure I did my homework once I got home, and I made sure the house was clean! But it was never enough for her to even once call me "daughter". That made me sad but I didn't think to much of it till I got into my teen years that is when I really got into depression, and anxiety hit. I once even tried killing myself but something told me to call for help and I ended up calling the police and told them exactly what I was doing and I needed help and if I didn't I wouldn't be here today. My mother didn't know what was going on 'cause she would always tell her friends every little fucking details about her kids. It was fucking so damn stupid, she would tell them exactly what I told her a couple of hours earlier. I stopped telling her shit, and I was happy that I did. So I ended up in a Mental Hospital for two whole months, which was a good thing it was during summer, 'cause I didn't want to miss school. So two months past and I am back at home with my parents, my mother Lora took days off of work to watch over me and make sure I didn't do anything. It seems sweet and all in the beginning, wait till I get into my high school years and after high school. So time went on and I started getting older by time and etc. There have been times when my mother wouldn't be home and I had to ask my father where she went? Around this time I was probably close to being 18 years old. She never tells me shit especially where was going when you think your parents will be home but turns out they are gonna be home super late. So my dad told me that my uncles was hurt!? Honestly I forgot on what he got hurt for... Me and my friend Annie, we had always been friends since late middle school years and we been super close in high school. Next thing was when my mother would always forced me to study for my drivers license none stop. Especially when I was 16 years old and she never stopped doing that! This might not be a narcissist family in your eyes but there is always a whole different part in other peoples life who have it a different ways! Here's couple of things to look out for while I tell a few little areas I have been. Here we go;
By Ms. Thomas5 years ago in Psyche
Emotional Dependency in Relationships
Emotional dependency creates an inner emptiness where the person abandons themselves and expects their partner to fill their emptiness and make them feel loved and safe. In emotionally dependent relationships, normal ups and downs become artificially steep. The stability of the relationship becomes compromised by one’s dependency traits. The dependent person sets up conditions for pleasure that are impossible to maintain, guaranteeing failure and the distress which accompanies it. The emotionally dependent relationship occurs with significant overlap between the physiological effects of love and addiction. Social addiction nurtures defeatist ideas that cannot be changed because of altered thinking and behaviors, disconcerting dependency. (Jantz, 2015). Factors, both, emotional and physical, contribute to certain behaviors, either within a single relationship or switching relationships. The emotional dependent individual succumbs in relationships both romantic relationships and parent-child relationships. Whereby, the dependent person does not take full responsibility for their own feelings, e.g.; nurturing painful life feelings of loneliness, helplessness over others, heartache, heartbreak, sorrow and grief. Furthermore, the dependent does not define their own inner worth, instead, makes others' approval and attention responsible for their sense of worth. Dependency relationships makes unhealthy relationship situations that causes wounded feelings of anxiety, depression, victim hurt, guilt, shame, anger and jealousy (Paul, 2010).
By Shanie Walker5 years ago in Psyche
Mindfulness
Mindfulness-integrated Cognitive Behavior Therapy offers a practical set of evidence-based techniques derived from mindfulness training together with principles of Cognitive Behavior Therapy (CBT) to address a broad range of psychological disorders and general stress conditions. Valuable mindfulness exercises of both RAIN and STOP embeds central principles and mechanisms of mindfulness to include equanimity and impermanence. Mindfulness involves paying attention to each event experienced in the present moment within our body and mind, with a non-judgmental, non-reactive and accepting attitude (Cayoun and Elbourne, 2019). Depression, anxiety and stress disorders are among the most common illnesses in the community and in primary care. The mental health practitioner is well placed to identify and take a primary role in treatment of these illnesses, to facilitate better mental health outcomes (Zarcone, 2009). In learning to be mindful, through RAIN and STOP, the patient can begin to counter many of their everyday sufferings or symptoms of stress, anxiety and depression. Both mindfulness practices aid with peoples doubts, fears or difficult emotions to mitigate negative effects with a healing presence.
By Shanie Walker5 years ago in Psyche
2nd NEW DRAFT - Anxiety, Signs, Symptoms, types
What is Concern or Anxiety? Anxiety is your body's natural response to stress. It is a feeling of fear or anxiety about what is to co me. Most people may be scared and nervous the first day of school, go to a job interview, or give a speech.
By Sarfraz Hussain5 years ago in Psyche
Beyond "Going for a Run"
At some point in our adulthood, many of us are faced with the uncomfortable reality that our depression is here to stay. Maybe it's seasonal, triggered by external factors, or ongoing, but it's clear that it's not leaving any time soon. For those who live alongside depression long term, here are some tips from personal experience that I hope can enrich your life.
By Eriko Jane5 years ago in Psyche
How to deal with Emotional Burnout for the future
The hard part about depression is the unpredictable nature that happens with the various ways depression can effect in the aftermath. Emotional burnout is one of the worst kinds of depression without having to have depression in the term.
By Samantha Parrish5 years ago in Psyche
Weight a minute...this works?
I am in a deeply committed, wonderfully happy, relationship with my bed. It's my safe place. When all else in the world seems overwhelming, I know my memory foam mattress and pillow will be there to soften the crushing blows dealt to me on the daily by reality.
By Nati Saednejad5 years ago in Psyche
