Being in denial and fighting for survival

Have you ever known a sweet and caring person that is receiving treatment they do not deserve? Whether you like to admit or or not I would probably guess that most of you have. Why do so many caring people let themselves be the subject of this treatment? Are they insecure and just think they deserve it or do they decide to deal with the treatment because, they are afraid of conflict? Perhaps they are just in denial of what is happening to them. Even if a person in an abusive situation subconsciously knows what is going on they still do not want to believe it a lot of the time. Do they feel this way because, the fear of being hurt more? We can ask as many questions as we want to but, the truth is we do not know what others are thinking or feeling.

If you witnessed your friend get hit by her significant other, what would you do? Would you stand up and confront the situation or just hide in the shadows and act as if nothing is going on? Some may say to just hide in the shadows because, it is not our business but, it is our business! It is our responsibility to be a good friend and talk to them about what is going on. Maybe all they need is someone to listen to them and talk about what is going on from their point of view. Whether you get in a bad argument with your significant other or not, violence is never the answer. You do deserve to be treated with respect. Any person that results to violence as the answer is most likely not a good person to be in a relationship with or even be around.

The correct thing to do is use your words and not your fists. At times people do yell at others and say things they do not mean but, even words can turn into wounds. It may be hard to believe but, although the tongue has no bones it is still very powerful! Take it from me, I used be a very blunt and inconsiderate person. I still do speak my mind but, I try to think of my words first now before I let them come out of my mouth. Verbal abuse is bad in a way that it scars the heart and causes sad thoughts to linger in the mind. If you have read my articles prior to this once, you know that I have spoken about this in the past. Words can turn into wounds and things you say can stay in a person's mind forever. So, if words can cause that much damage, physical violence can probably cause a lot more!

People who engage in physical violence are abusive. Keeping people like this in your life never ends well. An argument in a relationship can go from things being said that break your heart and next time maybe you'll be leaving the argument with a broken arm. Do you really want to wake up in the morning and look in the mirror just to see yourself with a black eye? I would say, no probably not. I bet you would not want to meet your friend for coffee and see them with a black eye either. When we see people in our lives being hurt, it also makes us hurt. Keeping quiet about something may seem okay short-term but, please consider the long-term effects as well. Please stand up and speak out before it gets to a very serious point. Usually, these kind of things always end in tragedy.

My advice to you is if you get in an argument with your boyfriend and he gets violent whether by calling you stupid and worthless or he punches you and leaves physical bruises please take it as a warning. Get out before it turns into something worse! If you witness a friend going through this behavior please speak up and help them out of the negative situation. Help your friend escape the bad treatment. If you see the signs listen to your gut. It tells you when you're hungry and it will also tell you if you are in danger. If your boyfriend hits you and then comes over to hug you and say he really does love you, think logically. Be alert to what is going on if you want to believe it or not. I personally believe the "apologetic persona" is just a fascade to hide who this abusive person really is. If you see something abusive going on or have a suspicion something is going on trust your gut feeling. Always see the signs and do not be in denial! Doing this could help you or someone else from being hurt!