Your 30's are not the end

In our teenage years, the thirties seem far away. a lot of people think that at the end of their twenties they should have achieved a set of goals, according to what they've seen and read about successful people on social media.

That's what I thought too back then in my early twenties; I was the highest achiever in my school as well as college, I got a scholarship to get a bachelor degree in architecture, and before I reached my thirties I had a masters degree and I was married with two kids;

But I was mentally exhausted; I felt so young and I am still till the end of my forties so why have I been running chasing goals like it was my last day on earth! and it might be someday but I will rather be enjoying that day instead of stressing out about random daily life; what is the point of all of this?

The media always polish the image of young success, but why don't we hear about those who succeed later in life?

"Renowned fashion designer Vera Wang didn't design her first dress until she was 40. Henry Ford was 45 when he created the revolutionary Model T car in 1908. Writer Harry Bernstein authored countless rejected books before getting his first hit at age 96".

here's what I have learned is that might help you through your choices

• don't compare yourself to others you might seem similar to your pairs now, but as you grow older each one will have a path that suits them
• you haven't failed, you've just got new experience
• your young years are precious and you should enjoy your life; don't overwork yourself or lose yourself in endless studying; these can be compensated later in life, but you will regret not going to that trip o family gathering because some of those people might not be around for long
• try new things; the older you get the harder it will be to accept failure or have the courage to try something new

Anxiety disorders are the most common mental illness in the U.S., affecting 40 million adults in the United States age 18 and older, or 18.1% of the population every year.

People with an anxiety disorder are three to five times more likely to go to the doctor and six times more likely to be hospitalized for psychiatric disorders than those who do not suffer from anxiety disorders.

Anxiety from a complex set of risk factors, including genetics, brain chemistry, personality, and life events. pressuring yourself by a set of tiring goals to be reached at a seemingly impossible age causes Anxiety and Depression.

Does the mid-life crisis begin in the mid-30s?

Persistent depressive disorder (formerly called dysthymia) is a form of depression that usually continues for at least two years.

"Affects approximately 1.5 percent of the U.S. population age 18 and older in a given year. (about 3.3 million American adults). Only 61.7% of adults with MDD are receiving treatment. The average age of onset is 31 years old" (Source: National Institute of Mental Health)

A survey suggests that work and relationship pressures make the mid-30s the start of many British people's unhappiest decade. Of the 2,000 people quizzed, more aged 35 to 44 said that they felt lonely or depressed than in other age groups.

Of those surveyed, 21% of men and women aged 35 to 44 said they felt lonely a lot of the time, and a similar percentage said that bad relationships, either at work or home, had left them feeling depressed.

Dr. Jane McCartney, a chartered psychologist with an interest in adult mental health, said that the results for 35 to 44-year-olds might be slightly skewed by the willingness of people in that age group, to be frank about depression and loneliness, compared to older people surveyed.

There are higher expectations of people of this age in terms of what they've achieved in their careers and family life.

As a result, people feel lonely and depressed because they've imagined themselves to be in a better position in life by their thirties. Remind yourself that you still have time. Some goals need a whole life experience to be achieved but don't ignore your social relationships