You’re Not Behind—You’re Becoming
A Journey Through Doubt, Growth, and the Quiet Power of Becoming Who You’re Meant to Be
I used to believe life was a race.
Not because someone told me it was—but because that’s how it felt.
In my mid-twenties, I watched my friends checking boxes: careers blooming, engagements happening, babies on the way. Meanwhile, I was still figuring out what I wanted from life, moving from one job to another, unsure if I was moving forward or just walking in circles. Social media didn’t help. Each scroll was a parade of other people’s “milestones,” each one whispering, You’re falling behind.
I didn’t realize it then, but I wasn’t behind.
I was becoming.
The Day It Hit Me
It was a Sunday afternoon, the kind where the sunlight gently presses through the blinds and the silence feels heavier than usual. I had just declined another invitation to a baby shower. Not because I wasn’t happy for my friend—but because I couldn’t bear to be reminded of how different our lives looked.
I sat there on my floor, knees pulled to my chest, comparing timelines. I wasn’t even sure who I was comparing myself to anymore. Everyone? No one? Some imaginary version of who I thought I should be by now?
And then, for whatever reason, I opened an old notebook from college. Inside were pages of messy handwriting, wild dreams, song lyrics, doodles of stars and open roads. I smiled without meaning to. That girl didn’t care about timelines—she just wanted to create, to explore, to grow.
That’s when something inside me softened.
I wasn’t lost. I wasn’t failing.
I was still becoming.
Becoming Isn’t Glamorous
There’s a reason we envy other people’s “after” pictures—we rarely get to see their “during.”
The becoming stage is messy. It’s full of false starts, dead ends, and slow progress. It looks like working a job you don’t love while pursuing a dream you can’t fully describe. It looks like healing from heartbreaks, learning hard lessons, and choosing growth when it would be easier to stay numb.
Becoming means building a foundation that no one claps for.
It means developing inner strength when no one is watching.
It means letting go of who you thought you should be to make space for who you really are.
And it’s hard. Because the world is loud. It rewards speed and visibility. But growth? Growth is quiet. It happens in small, sacred moments—often invisible to others.
A Quiet Conversation
One day, I was talking with my grandmother. She’s in her eighties, gentle and wise in the way only time can teach you to be. I asked her if she ever felt like she was “behind” in life. She laughed—warm, genuine laughter.
“Oh honey,” she said, “I didn’t figure out who I was until I was well into my forties. And even then, I kept learning.”
She told me stories of starting over, of losing herself and finding herself again in different seasons. She said life isn’t about being on time—it’s about being true.
I remember asking her, “But what if I never figure it out?”
She took my hand and said, “Then keep becoming. That’s all life really is.”
The Truth About Timelines
The pressure to be “on schedule” is one of the most unkind myths we’ve ever been told. Life isn’t a checklist. There is no universal timeline. There’s only your path—and no one else can walk it.
Some people meet their soulmate at 22. Others find love at 52.
Some people discover their passion in high school. Others stumble into it after their third career change.
Some bloom early. Others bloom quietly, deeply, and later than anyone expected.
None of them are wrong. None of them are late. They are just… becoming.
You don’t need to match someone else’s pace. You’re not here to follow a script. You’re here to unfold in your own way, at your own rhythm.
What I Know Now
Today, my life still doesn’t look like the highlight reels I used to compare myself to. I’m still figuring things out. But now, I do it with more peace.
Because I finally understand something: becoming is not about arriving. It’s about growing, evolving, and allowing yourself the grace to be a work in progress.
I’ve learned to celebrate the small wins, the unseen growth, the moments of quiet courage. I’ve learned to trust the process, even when it doesn’t make sense yet.
And most of all, I’ve learned this truth:
You’re not behind. You’re becoming.
And that’s a beautiful place to be.
The Takeaway
Moral of the Story:
Don’t let the noise of the world drown out the quiet miracle of your growth. You are not late. You are not less. Every season you walk through—especially the uncertain ones—is shaping you in ways you can’t yet see.
Be gentle with yourself. Your path is unfolding exactly as it should.
Keep becoming.
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Fazal Hadi
Hello, I’m Fazal Hadi, a motivational storyteller who writes honest, human stories that inspire growth, hope, and inner strength.
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