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Why Are Adult Children Cutting Ties With Parents?

Discover the Spiritual Shift Behind Family Estrangement

By PhilipM-IPublished about a year ago Updated about a year ago 5 min read
Why Are Adult Children Cutting Ties With Parents?
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Have you ever felt like family ties are more like chains holding you back?

It's a feeling many young adults are experiencing today, and it's changing the way we view family relationships.

A Personal Reflection

I remember the day I chose to step back from my relationship with my mother. It was two decades ago, and I felt like a lone wolf blazing a new trail. Today, it's not just me. Many millennials and zoomers are forming their own families with friends, stepping away from parents who impact their mental health negatively.

Recently, I had two co-workers, both parents, confide in me. They were heartbroken. Their adult children had chosen to disconnect from them completely. This scenario is becoming more common as young adults prioritize their well-being over familial obligations.

A Metaphoric Tale

Imagine a tree shedding its leaves in autumn. The leaves, much like these adult children, drift away to find their own place under the sun. My friend John once told me about his daughter, who had chosen her own path, leaving him behind. It was tough for him, as it is for many.

The Bigger Picture

Why is this happening? Studies show that 7% of adult children are estranged from their mothers, while 27% are from their fathers.

These numbers used to be shocking, but now they're growing. Why?

Because millennials and zoomers are no longer shackled by the past; they're choosing mental health over toxic relationships.

Social media plays a big role in this shift. It's a platform where people share experiences, making it easier to understand and accept these choices.

Young adults today are empowered to say no to relationships that harm them, even if it means disconnecting from their parents.

A New Perspective

This isn't just a story about estrangement. It's about self-discovery and growth.

By choosing who to keep in their lives, young adults are manifesting their own dreams and realities. It's a brave new world where mental well-being takes precedence.

So, think about your own relationships. Are there ties that need to be loosened? Maybe it's time to let go of what's holding you back, just like leaves in the wind, seeking their own ground.

• Understanding Family Estrangement

Here's a step-by-step guide to understanding why adult children are choosing to become estranged from their parents and how spirituality, dream manifesting, and metaphysical perspectives can offer insights and solutions:

4 Step-by-Step Actionable Solutions for Transformation

1. Reflect on Personal Boundaries

Begin by considering the importance of personal boundaries in maintaining mental and emotional well-being.

Many adult children decide to distance themselves from parents to protect their inner peace.

Reflect on the boundaries you need in your life to foster positive relationships and spiritual growth.

Setting these boundaries is not about severing ties but about nurturing a space where you can thrive.

2. Embrace Emotional Healing

Emotional wounds from family dynamics can linger.

Engage in practices like meditation, journaling, or energy healing to process and release negative emotions.

This can lead to a profound sense of relief and spiritual awakening.

Remember, healing is a journey, not a destination, and every step forward is a step toward creating a life of authentic happiness.

3. Cultivate a Supportive Community

Forming a chosen family or community can be a powerful source of love and support.

Surround yourself with individuals who resonate with your spiritual and metaphysical beliefs.

These connections can provide the emotional warmth and guidance often sought from traditional family structures.

4. Practice Radical Acceptance

Accepting the reality of family estrangement can be challenging. Embrace the idea that separation might be necessary for personal growth and transformation.

Through the lens of spirituality, recognize that every relationship, even challenging ones, serves a purpose in your soul's journey.

Acceptance allows you to move forward with grace and gratitude.

By reframing family dynamics through a spiritual lens, you can navigate these complex situations with compassion and clarity.

FAQ: When Family Ties Unravel - A Journey of Estrangement

1. Why are more young adults choosing to distance themselves from family?

In recent times, young adults are prioritizing their mental well-being over traditional family obligations.

This shift is largely driven by the realization that some family ties can be toxic, impacting one's emotional health negatively.

With the influence of social media, people are now more open about their experiences, which encourages others to seek healthier environments even if it means stepping away from family.

2. How does estrangement affect both the parents and the adult children?

Estrangement can be emotionally challenging for both sides.

Parents often feel heartbroken when their children decide to distance themselves, as they struggle to understand the reasons behind it.

On the other hand, adult children may experience a mix of relief and guilt as they navigate their newfound independence.

This separation can lead to personal growth and self-discovery, allowing them to manifest their own dreams and live authentically.

3. Is there a spiritual or metaphysical perspective on family estrangement?

From a spiritual viewpoint, estrangement can be seen as a path to self-discovery and growth.

By letting go of relationships that hold them back, individuals open themselves up to new possibilities and personal empowerment.

This journey can align with the pursuit of manifesting dreams and realities that are in harmony with one’s true self.

It's about embracing change and finding one's own place under the sun, just like leaves seeking new ground.

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Reflect on Your Journey

You might be feeling the weight of family ties, questioning if they're chains holding you back.

This journey of estrangement isn't just about distance; it's about embracing a new path, one where mental health and personal growth are the compass.

Positive Outcomes and Benefits

By choosing to prioritize well-being, many are finding peace and a sense of fulfillment.

Studies show that making these tough decisions can lead to healthier, more authentic relationships.

People often share stories of newfound happiness and freedom, which inspire others to follow suit.

Consequences of Inaction

Remaining in toxic relationships might hold you back from realizing your potential. Imagine the burden of carrying emotional baggage that prevents you from flying. It's time to consider what's best for your soul.

Ponder This

What ties do you need to loosen in your life?

How might letting go lead you to a brighter future?

Thank You for Reading.

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  • Kathleen Serra4 months ago

    I feel like the advice you are giving in this article is so wrong! I am a mother of one child. She is 35 and I am 73. For most of my daughter's life we were very close. We had a wonderful, close, open relationship. Then trouble started. Her father announced he wanted a divorce after 40 years. And around the same time, my daughter met a man she eventually married. Everything between us changed. I was always there for her, always supportive, always there to talk to, to run things by, to ask advice of. Now, she has a man to talk these things over with. I am no longer in the loop. And, on top of that she has decided, after going to therapy during covid which was offered through work for free, that she needs "boundaries" and distance from me at a time when I need her! These are words she never used before in connection to me. But I do know that therapists all over are using these words and twisting the heads of kids to cut off their parents! The people who have done everything for them! It's unconscionable to me! I grew up in an extremely dysfunctional family, and because of that I made it met business to raise my daughter with all the love and support I could possibly give her and I feel good about that. She moved a plane ride away and is having a child, my first grandchild and I will probably never have a close relationship with that child to get to watch him grow up. When my parents got old and needed help, I didn't stop to think about what they put me through as a child, I just went to their aid because I had a sense of duty and responsibility and I had empathy and compassion for them, even though my childhood memories still haunt me today. But I did the right thing, and now kids are being told just walk away. I think that is simply wrong and it is not God like at all. In fact, one of the Ten Commandments is to honor your mother and father! Your advice is very damaging to our society!

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