To Fall in Love with Yourself

The biggest problem of the female part of the population is non-mutual love. And men are not to blame here. What about women’s love for their bodies? How many women are who hate their figures and spare no effort to change or hide them?

The modern world is full of standards, especially those related to women. It requires a weak gender to be high-skilled and educated employees, who build a career, caring mothers who raise at least two children, faithful wives, beautiful, sporty, and always cheerful and young creations. If they fall short of these standards, they cannot be considered true women. 90-60-90, marriage until 24, the first child until 25, and career achievements until 30; many motivating courses and books that focus on female self-development – these standards drive women into cages. They complicate women’s lives and make them strive for a life they never dreamed of and achieve the things they never wanted.

When I was 6, I heard that girls should not have played with cars. At 16, almost everyone told me that work in the police was not for women. Now, when I am 21, and I am supposed to have a boyfriend, practically finished my education, and visit various meetings with youth, there are only a few people who do not ask me, 'When will you marry?,' 'Why don’t you have a partner?,' 'Why do not you seek him?' and 'Why are you sitting at home?'. In the modern world, it is easier for women to understand why they should not love themselves than why they should.

In fact, only one person can force you to alter your habits and lifestyle. This person is you. Therefore, the main thing every woman should do in her life is to believe that she is worthy of love.

1. Take care of yourself: be well-fed, drink water, sleep no less than 8 hours, go in for sports, and do not let in your life an unloved job and toxic people.

2. Do things that make you happy: smile, read good books, spend time with loved people, watch relaxing movies, and eat this chocolate bar if you want.

3. Enjoy every day: listen to good music, write your thoughts in beautiful notebooks or make original photos, and buy cute sweaters, irony bracelets, or soft covers for phones.

4. Try to sort out what you want. Just approach the mirror and ask yourself: 'What do you want to do now?'

5. Let yourself be who you are: wear dresses or jeans, patent-leather shoes or running shoes, make a tattoo or do not make it, experiment with your appearance or avoid any experiments, date with boys/girls or wait for the one and the only Man/Woman, or do not care about partners! It is only your life, and you can build it on your own! No one can tell you what you must dream of and how you should live!

6. You should not be ideal and coincide with someone’s expectations. Remember that other people's expectations and thoughts about you form their reality, not yours. Therefore, get rid of the wish to be liked by everyone!

7. Make all you do out of love. It is not the same as doing with love, although it does not exclude it. Love should not be only the way for your actions, but also the reason for them! When you do everything (breakfast, tidying up, the task for classes or assignment from your boss, Instagram post, or chatting) out of love, you fill with energy.

And remember, spring is time for blooming! It is your time to flower!