Thursday Quote Of The Day (Problematic People Pleaser)

In a perfect world, I think we would all find happiness and satisfaction in being liked, admired, respected, and loved, by others. Each decision we make, and action we take, would be appreciated by everyone. We would have no enemies, no one would dislike us, and no one would criticize or ridicule us. There's just two issues here though; one, we do not live in a perfect world, and two, so many people act and think like we actually do live in a perfect world. The sad, yet harsh, truth is that we will never be able to please everyone, and have everybody like, respect, admire, and love us. The human race is unfortunately a very judgmental and opinionated species, and people will always seek about uncovering and exposing any flaws and faults that we have, to showcase us in a bad light, no matter how insignificant it may be. They will even manufacture some flaws and faults about us, if they are unable to find anything worth showcasing and exposing to the world. So many people are so bitter and frustrated with their own life that they have to degrade and defame others, in order to make themselves feel good. They witness certain other individuals who have created likeability, popularity, respect, and admiration, from others, and because they don't attract that same attraction themselves, they don't believe anyone else should deserve that either. They therefore go about spreading rumors, or finding faults and flaws with these individuals, in an attempt to drag them down, and eliminate their success and happiness in the process. Why are people like this? I don't have the answer to that, other than it being generated from pure jealousy, but in all honesty, it's pathetic! Each and every one of us should delight in the success, happiness, and prosperity, of others, just as much as we do for ourselves. Jealousy is a negative emotion, and if we choose to feel envious of others, this will only lead to bitterness, and then unhappiness.

So let's look at these two issues. We don't live in a perfect world, and we cannot do anything to change that. We may have the power and ability to influence others to live with better values and a more positive mindset, but we won't be able to have that impact on everyone. There will always be negative minded, envious, bitter, and angry individuals around us unfortunately. It doesn't mean we should stop trying to help others be more positive minded, and change their attitude, because the more people we can help, the better, but it's impossible to make the world perfect. With this mind, that takes us to issue number two, pleasing others. It is also beyond us to stop people from being so judgmental and critical towards us. No matter what we say, what we do, how we act, what we believe, and so on, people will always go about finding fault with us. They will criticize us, and gossip about us behind our back. Even when we believe someone to be a loyal friend, a trustworthy workmate, a loving family member, a dedicated partner, even just a honest citizen, so many of these people are talking behind our backs in a negative manner to others, criticizing us, and painting us out in a bad light. It's one of the common traits of a toxic person, to be a gossiper. Even when we believe we are making decisions, behaving accordingly, doing what others do, adopting the same views and opinions as others, all in a bid to be liked, respected, admired, and accepted, by others, I can guarantee that these others, whom we are trying to prove ourselves to, are gossiping behind our backs, ridiculing us, and criticizing us. That begs the question, why do so many of us then live our life trying to please others?

Whether we make our own decisions, execute our own actions, adopt our own beliefs, and live our life true to ourselves, or whether we copy how others live their life, copy what others believe, follow what others suggest we do with our life, or abide by what others influence us to do, either way, people will still criticize us, judge us, and gossip about us. Why would we then choose the second option? Why would we not want to follow our heart, pursue our goals, be our true selves, live life how we desire, and believe what we truly believe? We may think that option one is making us popular, liked, respected, and admired, but it's not really at all. All we are doing is going about pleasing others, making ourselves to be someone who they want us to be. People are in fact merely using us to be someone who suits their agenda, someone who is convenient to them, and someone whom they know they have power and influence over. We are actually sentencing ourselves to a life of unhappiness and dissatisfaction, because we are too infatuated with making other people happy, that we completely forget about making ourselves happy. We all want friends, and to be liked for the true person we really are, but we are better off having no friends and still be living a life that brings us happiness and satisfaction, than to have many friends who just use us for their own convenience, whilst we live life unhappy. Stop being a people pleaser, and start being a YOU pleaser. Your job in life isn't to make other people happy, we are each responsible for our own happiness. You are a unique individual with greatness, talent, and immense potential, not someone born to be a carbon copy of society. If you want to live a happy and successful life, then start making decisions that are working towards achieving your goals, and what brings you satisfaction and joy. You will piss people off, you will have people judge you, you will have people ridicule you, you will have people hate you, you will have people distance themselves from you, but so what? You are better off without these people in your life anyway! You are blessed with life, start living it to your full potential, and start working towards creating a future blessed with happiness, success, fulfillment, and prosperity. We are given life to help and serve people, not to please them. Be kind, caring, generous, supportive, compassionate, encouraging, and courteous, but you don't need to be a conformist. Just be yourself!

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