The women I have become

No one takes their journey alone. We may think we do but as we go threw life we meet people. Sometimes we become friends or simply friendly.

Other times we become close friends. Each person who touches your life leaves a little of themselves behind.

We like to think we are all out here on our own but the truth is we are far from alone.

We each make decisions every day. The people we interact with play a part in every decision.

From the guy who cut you off on your way to work today to the mailman who you have not even seen.

Let's say you are on your way to work and someone gets in front of you and you can't see around them. Well, they just affected how you proceed for the rest of the day. Now you will either be upset about it or change lanes.

If you choose to change lanes you run the risk of someone else cutting you off and possibly missing your turn.

If you choose to stay behind the car that is blocking your view you may still miss the turn and you will be annoyed for the rest of your trip.

The question is how are you going to allow this to affect your day?

Do you really want to stress out over them? Because they are not even thinking about you. You are behind them. You are of no more importance to them as a fly on the windshield. A fly may be of more importance if it is blocking their view.

Ok So you get my point I hope!

I used to be that person who would get upset behind a car because I could not see what was coming up or because they drove too slowly.

I learned over time to focus on what is really important in life. Like my health and the health of my family. Simple things in life that some may take for granted I no longer take for granted. Like a good night's sleep.

Or that I have a job, I have a car, I have people who love and respect me.

I am grateful for all the things I have because someone helped me see along the way and they helped me learn. Every day you can learn something from people you don't even know. We as a society can go online and learn all kinds of things. But I prefer to learn in person. I tend to learn things at a slower pace and the hard way because I am stubborn like that.

I tend to be very stubborn and independent. The more you tell me I can not do something the more likely I am to prove you wrong. Growing up I was raised like an only child, even though I have nine siblings. The next youngest to me is 9 years older than myself and the oldest is nearly 30 years my Senior. I made very few friends when I was a child because I was sheltered and protected to the point of isolation.

My life was not easy but it was far from horrific. I learned very young how to take care of not only myself but other people and animals. So I lost myself in mainly taking care of animals to bring myself some joy.

I married and divorced my High School sweetheart. But we had three beautiful kids. We all still get along very well. So I am thankful for that.

Along the way, I made friends with co-workers and Gym Rats like myself. I went back to school and took a few jobs to make ends meet. Again my life was not easy but I made it peaceful. If you can create the life you want you will not always need a vacation from your life. I do enjoy traveling and I also have a bucket list. But to be able to go home at night with my family and dog and know that my bills are paid and I don't owe anyone anything is great peace of mind and joy to me. I keep things in my life simple I always need a plan and a backup plan and there are times I have enough backup plans that I could use the entire alphabet to achieve my goal. And if that is what it takes to get me to be where I need to go I am ok with it.

When I used to think I could accomplish things alone I quickly discovered by listening to people's advice and idea I was not really doing anything alone. Strange how that happens. You have a conversation with someone and they tell you something and before you know it you have taken that thought and built off of it. You used parts and pieces of it to form your own idea and a plan that helps you achieve your own goals.

So while making these friends we narrowed down that I am good at helping people achieve their goals but I always like to see the finished products. so getting into a career such as the medical field and advising people on their weight loss goals and not being able to follow people threw their journey all the way was not going to work for me. So I needed and still need to find the right fit for myself.

I have been watching my reactions to people and have come to realize I am good at listening to them but not so good when it comes time to express myself. I am good at saying I am happy about things but very bad at expressing anger. I tend to bottle it up.

I have discovered I am always going to be a work in progress. I suppose that is a good thing since you never stop learning. I was always one of those people who wanted to read every book in the library. I need to find all the secrets this life has hidden. I am so sure there are always going to be more. But I am going to do my damnedest to get as many as I can before I leave this life.