The Version of You That’s Still Becoming

There’s a quiet kind of pressure many of us carry:

To be sure of ourselves.

To be polished.

To be perfectly healed, fully formed, and always okay.

But the truth is—you’re still becoming.

You’re still unraveling, still unfolding, still in motion.

And that doesn’t make you incomplete.

It makes you human.

🌱 Becoming Is Not a Flaw—It’s the Point

Somewhere along the way, we started believing that life is about arriving.

We were taught to chase the destination: the job, the partner, the status, the version of ourselves that finally has it all figured out.

But life isn’t about reaching a fixed version of yourself. It’s about constantly becoming someone new—again and again.

You are allowed to grow.

You are allowed to evolve.

You are allowed to change your mind, your dreams, your direction.

The most alive people are the ones who never stop becoming.

🧩 You Are a Work in Progress—And That’s Okay

You don’t need to have it all together. You don’t need to be completely healed. You don’t need to be perfect to be worthy of love, rest, or joy.

We live in a culture that glamorizes “having it figured out.” But the people who seem the most “put together” often carry silent battles behind closed doors.

So if you’re in a messy middle—a season of becoming—here’s what I want you to remember:

This version of you matters.

Not just the future version, not just the one who gets the promotion, the relationship, the applause.

This in-process, questioning, curious, wounded, hopeful version deserves to be seen, honored, and loved.

🌫️ The In-Between Isn’t Failure

Becoming doesn’t always feel magical. Sometimes, it feels like falling apart.

There will be days when you feel lost.

Days when your old identity no longer fits but the new one hasn’t arrived yet.

Days when you don’t know what’s next or who you even are anymore.

This isn’t a sign of failure—it’s a sign of growth.

Caterpillars don’t become butterflies overnight. They literally dissolve into goo in the cocoon. That in-between? That’s transformation.

So be patient with your own process. Let yourself sit in the middle without rushing to be “complete.”

You’re not broken. You’re building.

🪞 You Don’t Owe Anyone a Final Draft

Sometimes people will try to keep you in a version of yourself that makes them comfortable. They’ll say things like:

“You’ve changed.”

“You’re not like you used to be.”

“This isn’t who you are.”

But change is not betrayal.

Change is growth.

Change is sacred.

You don’t owe anyone consistency if that consistency comes at the cost of your soul.

Give yourself permission to rewrite your story—even if people liked the previous chapters.

💬 Speak Kindly to the You That’s Still Becoming

The way you speak to yourself in your becoming season matters. Words are seeds, and they either grow love or fear.

Instead of saying:

“I should have known better.”

“I’m so far behind.”

“What’s wrong with me?”

Try:

“I’m learning with each step I take.”

“This pace is right for me.”

“Even this version of me deserves grace.”

Self-talk is powerful. You are listening, even when no one else is.

🧘‍♀️ Honor the Slow Becoming

Not all becoming is loud or obvious.

Sometimes it looks like:

Saying no and feeling guilty but still saying it.

Outgrowing people who once meant everything.

Crying in your car, then walking into work with your head high.

Waking up and trying again.

These moments don’t feel like progress—but they are. They are the quiet foundations of who you are becoming.

You don’t need big wins to prove your worth. The small, consistent acts of courage are enough.

🌄 You’re Becoming—And That’s Beautiful

You’re becoming someone softer.

Someone wiser.

Someone stronger.

Someone more you than you’ve ever been.

It might not always feel like progress, but trust me—it is.

So breathe.

Celebrate your small wins.

Rest when you need to.

And know that you’re not falling behind—you’re simply becoming who you were always meant to be.

💖 Final Words for the Journey

If today feels messy—keep going.

If you feel stuck between who you were and who you want to be—hold on.

If you’re tired of being a work in progress—take a deep breath.

Becoming is a lifelong journey, not a race. You’re allowed to take breaks. You’re allowed to change paths. You’re allowed to bloom in your own season.

You are not incomplete—you are in motion.

And the version of you that’s still becoming?

She, he, or they are already worthy.

Right now.

Exactly as you are.