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What is Stuttering?
Stuttering is a speech disorder which consists of repeating words & sounds or prolonging words and sounds. One sign of stuttering is when you are about to say something but you make a weird face such as your eyes closing shut or your mouth is stuck in the position of the sound of the word you are making. A way to control this is to not think to much about what you are going to say because when you think to much you automatically assume you are going to stutter and then you get anxiety because you fear someone is going to make fun of you. I have had this experience many times. People will tell you it’s in your head but it’s not. For some people when you wake up in the morning you can feel it in your throat that today you are going to stutter the most. The feeling is like someone is squeezing your throat and you just can’t release that pressure. Even before you stutter, before you say a word you can’t get the word out and your face is frozen in the same position and you can’t stop the word your going to say cause that seems impossible too. This is just to name a few things of what stuttering looks like. But what does it actually feel like ? When you stutter , it doesn’t matter who you are with or who you are around everyone’s first instinct is to laugh. And nobody wants to be laughed at. While the person who laughed doesn’t realize what it feels like , to you, you feel embarrassed and you feel like you don’t want to talk ever again. And when you feel like that you shy away from friends and family because you don’t want to be laughed at. Just the thought of talking again is terrifying. That’s when the depression starts, that’s when isolation starts, that’s when anxiety begins , and that’s also when anxiety attacks begin. As we all know when we start to feel depressed and anxious that’s when suicidal thoughts start. People who stutter uncontrollably and who grew up with this disorder often feel alone because it’s so rare to come across someone with the disorder. Let me tell you a story of the first time I noticed I had a stuttering disorder. Growing up I never stuttered, not once. But my brothers did and they got the speech therapy they needed and now they don’t stutter anymore. I first started to notice that I was stuttering uncontrollably in the 5th grade, the teacher had called on me on the first day of class and wanted me to stand up and introduce myself so I did i stood up so confindently but when I went to speak it came out like “ H-Hi m-m-my name iiiiiiis Cha-And-ssller” ( clearly my name is Chandler) And like all 5th graders everyone laughed and even my teacher said “ it’s okay don’t be nervous” and I said “ I’m not nervous I’m not sure what happened there “ so I try again and it came out perfectly. Then at recess I was talking to my friend who I’ve known practically my whole life and we were talking and I stuttered with her and she asked me about it but I couldn’t explain. So later on when I went home I told my parents what happened and they had this knowing look and they sat me down and said “ booboo ( my nickname) stuttering runs in the family but when you were little you never showed signs of stuttering so we assumed it didn’t get passed down to you “ and as my mom is explaining this to me I could feel my heartbreaking. i was thinking I am a freak, I am not normal , How could I ever make friends if I can’t even talk to people, so I didn’t. The rest of the school year I did not say a single word , I was too embarrassed. At the time I was just 10 years old, I am 21 now. And I am just now starting to accept this is my fate. After years of breaking down in tears , constantly being teased , years of depression. I am just now , as I am writing this have accepted this is my fate. I don’t want this for anyone else so I am telling whoever is reading this . Stuttering will only run your life if you let it. There is no cure for stuttering but you can learn how to control it by learning your trigger words, learning what makes you stutter the most. I am here to help, I understand , I know what you are going through and we can get through this together.
By Chandler Harvey5 years ago in Motivation
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Put yourself in this scenario: Hair’s tied up. Game face on. Your workout bottoms are snug around your waist. Shoes tied. The pre-workout is kicking in and you look and feel fierce. It’s ab day. 3 sets of 20 Crunches superset with 3 sets of Russian Twists. Done. Leg Lifts. Done. Bicycle Crunches. Done. Sweat and endorphins. Got ‘em.
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How to calm down in any situation
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By charu kalra5 years ago in Motivation
You are not your emotions...
You are not your emotions Life lessons can arise in the most unexpected situations... Any number of self help articles will tell you “you aren’t your emotions”. I only began reading these articles late in life, before that it hadn’t occurred to me that that was true... that was definitely me, very sensitive hugely reactive… a worrier.
By Gillian Lesley Scott5 years ago in Motivation
Your Power To Choose
Did you know that at any time, no matter where you are in life, no matter how long you have been a certain way, you can choose to become the person you've always wanted to be. You can decide, at any time, to make a change and begin your journey to a happier, more fulfilled you.
By Lena Claybon5 years ago in Motivation
6 Reasons Why I Deleted Instagram & Where I am Today
Do you currently have Instagram? Is it for business or personal usage? How much time per day do you spend on Instagram? Go in your phone settings, scroll down to the third section from your Apple ID (iPhone) and click Screen Time. Click “See All Activity” and check to see your daily Instagram usage along with other social media apps.
By Mya5 years ago in Motivation
Changing a Life-Threatening Experience Into Something Positive
Cancer sucks. In fact, it both sucks and blows. Hearing the words ‘you have cancer’ was the worst moment in my life and felt like a death sentence. Especially when my oncologist told me that I needed chemo- and radiotherapy following a radical hysterectomy. Or when he said that he could not predict if I would be in the one in a ten group of survivors. He is an amazing surgeon and oncologist, but severely lacks a compassionate bedside manner.
By R.S. Sillanpaa5 years ago in Motivation
"Looking good" shouldn't always be rooted in conforming to beauty standards
Plenty of our social media platforms today have granted us easier accessibility to seek out what other people everywhere are doing and how they personally broadcast themselves to the rest of the world. Sometimes, however, it’s understandably exhausting scrolling through everyone’s Instagram or Facebook profiles and seeing how they appear to be both overwhelmingly physically attractive and financially well-off. It can leave us thinking, “Well gee! What am I not doing to get to that level in life? Why don’t I look like that? What ab exercises do they do so I can get mine to look like theirs?”. Thoughts like these are often rooted in some people not feeling good enough, thus feeling pressure to change their appearance in hopes to conform to expectations under the guise of ‘looking good’. But what exactly is ‘looking good’ anyway? That question may not seem tricky at all until we remember that the idea of looking good alone has many different definitions for everyone. But that doesn’t mean there aren’t universal standards set in place with historical context.
By Veronica Erickson5 years ago in Motivation
Kids get it better than adults
Kids get it better than adults COPYRIGHT DISCLOSURE “All rights reserved. No part of this Mental Toughness Power Action blog publication may be reproduced, stored in a retrieval system or transmitted in any form, or by any means, electronic, mechanical, photocopying, recorded, scanning, displaying, modifying, republication, republishing, posting on any website, platform, social media, RSS feeds or otherwise without the prior written permission of the publisher or author. Requests to the author should be addressed to [email protected].” — Copyright 2007, CIPO, USCO Mental Toughness For Life, Coach Franco Cianflone
By FRANCO CIANFLONE 5 years ago in Motivation
