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Advice that will put you on the path to success; tips, tricks and nuggets of wisdom from trusted experts and motivational mentors.
Validation in Quarantine
Why is it that people say when you have something on your mind, you should talk about it. When you talk about your feelings it will stop you from feeling the sadness that drowns you. I don’t feel that way. I feel like when I spiral in my head, I need to be with myself and not talk about it. When you talk about how you feel, there is a high chance of rejection, a high chance that the person who you are opening up to, won’t understand. That is why when you keep your feelings to yourself, you won’t have to deal with the rejection or the want and need of validation.
By Amanda Gabrielle6 years ago in Motivation
Never Stop Believing
”Be strong now because things will get better. It might be stormy now, but it can’t rain forever.” Unkown When life knocks us down, we can stay down or we can get up and be a force to be reckoned with. Life will always be tough but we can choose to face the adversity and uncertainty with being strong and resilient.
By Linda Breedlove6 years ago in Motivation
The road to Success
Oxford languages defines success as the accomplishment of an aim or purpose. More often than not, when people think about success. They think of fame or money. That view on success isn't always everyone's first thought. What is your idea of success? I am going to be transparent with you. Everyone starts from somewhere and along the way you WILL face challenges. Don't let those adversities stop you though. How Gavin? Why shouldn't I just give up? I'm going to fail, why even try? The answer is experience. You learn from the inevitable mistakes and gain experience. That experience is a key factor in accomplishing your goals. Plus, reaching your goals wouldn't be as satisfying if you didn't have failures. I feel as if another reason as to why you need to fail to succeed is that there would be no room for improvement. At least to a certain extent. Without failure, you would have no knowledge on how to improve. Therefor, resulting in a constant peak. Yes, you are going to fail, but trying anyways is a better choice. Not pursuing whatever you want to will leave a feeling of shame and guilt. Failure is a good thing, not a bad thing. Gavin, what does it take to reach success? To be successful. You need to be able to have resiliency, persistence, and the ability to do hard things. Let's face it. The most successful people have faced adversities. Elon Musk's First PayPal product was voted one of the worst business ideas in 1999. Oprah used to be regularly beaten throughout her childhood. J. K Rolling's original Harry Potter was rejected 12 times. Those failures faced by these extraordinary people have shaped them. Persistence is key. Think about where J. K rolling would be if she wasn't persistent with her work. Another step to take when traveling the road to success is habits. Habits, are so prominent. Once those habits are formed they become automatic. You won't need to put in the effort to do these habits anymore. They will naturally flow with your day. Some of my favorite habits include. Waking up early, reading every day, making exercise a priority, avoiding time wasters and getting enough sleep. Why are these concepts important to be successful? Emails. Everyone wastes time checking their emails in the morning. Getting up early gives you more than enough time to have to yourself to check those emails. Starting the day early also improves your concentration which means you can carry out those goals and tasks that you set out the night before. It also means that by the time you get to work, you are fully awake and properly acclimatized to the day meaning you will be more alert during those peak hours. Why is reading everyday important? Well, reading stimulates the brain. This action strengthens and speeds up neural pathways allowing you to be more creative, think more clearly and critically, ask better questions and make faster mental connections. In turn, this keeps your brain healthy. Everyone knows why exercising is important. Exercise builds endurance and strength, increases energy and reduces stress. Avoiding time wasters is one of the hardest things to stop doing. Almost everyone has a smartphone nowadays. I know how hard it can be to not waste time on social media or watching TV. I suggest limiting the access to that distraction and having a plan for how much time you want to spend. Getting enough sleep. Sleep is important for many reasons. Did you know if you don't sleep for 8 hours your immune system is weakened. Your heart suffers. Your cancer risk increases and you gain weight. Those are only some negatives of getting less sleep than you should. I would conform a routine and stick with that. It will take a while to used to. Yet again, building and forming habits is a step on the road to success. My ideal version of success is doing something that makes you happy. Do something that makes you happy. People tend to gravitate towards crafts they're good at. Pursue a talent of yours or do something that you want to be good at. Keep in mind that you need to find something you're good at and passionate about. Remember, you will face failure. As I mentioned before, persistence is a characteristic of a successful person. You need to practice persistence! This next step is hard for everyone. As humans, ASK FOR HELP. The most successful people have one thing in common. They recognize where their strength lies and where it doesn't. Don't be afraid to ask for help and that leads to the next step. Have a mentor. Having a mentor will help guide you through your journey. This will be the person that you can ask for help. Plus, you can have someone to celebrate your wins with. The next and final step to the journey of success is having motivators. Make sure these motivators are genuine. You need motivators you're passionate about in order to succeed. Thank you for reading! You can email me at [email protected] for any questions.
By Gavin Perkins6 years ago in Motivation
Forgiving Yourself For What You Did
Forgiving Yourself For What You Did Kristyn Meyer is on a journey to make herself the best human that she can be. These posts are a reflection of that. She welcomes your support via reading and through commissioned affiliate links within her posts! To stay up to date on all of her shenanigans, please subscribe to her email list! (psst…there’s a free gift involved)
By Kristyn Meyer6 years ago in Motivation
Growing Me
Life is tough. It is full of ups and downs, the highest of highs and the lowest of lows. I am 35 years old. I feel like the last two years have had the biggest impact on my life. I have spent this period in my life really trying to find myself, my true self. With that said, I am a people pleaser to a fault, always putting other's feelings and needs above my own because I thought I was doing what made me happy. I began realizing that I was trapped in this person that I no longer wanted to be. People began to take advantage of me and I was letting them because I thought I was making them happy, when in reality, they had no appreciation of my catering to their every need.
By Heather Tovar6 years ago in Motivation
Writer's Inspiration
Imagine walking down a lengthy, hollow dark forest alone and then along the way, you see a two-way path. Now at this two-way path, you’re faced with two challenging options, the first option is to follow your heart and do what you love whatever that may be. The second option is you fitting into how society views you and sticking to the status quo of the comfort-ability that life hands you. If you choose Option 1, you would most likely be faced with judgment and scrutiny from your peers who will try to talk you out of making your goals and dreams and goals come true but the end result will grant you with inner peace and you will be much happier about the person you have become. If you choose Option 2, You will live like the average human on this earth who allowed their adversity to beat them at their own game just to be comfortable with limitations on their life just because they wanted to feel socially accepted in today’s world. The end result will leave you constantly feeling as if there’s a missing puzzle piece in your life that makes you whole as a person, so you go along with life always wondering what could have been if you followed your heart. So whatever path you decide, just know there will be challenges along the way both good and bad, the question is which one would you choose?
By Taeja Williams6 years ago in Motivation
A Slow and Steady Race to the End
The end seems like it is already upon us and we just don’t know it yet, with all the events of the year that have happened its no wonder the world is shutting down, a culmination of all the events throughout history shows us that this was going to happen sooner or later. Natural compounded with man-made disasters helped to bring this end on faster than it would have if we had not driven the planet into a spiral of self-destruction. Mixing that with the constant violence of those in a position of power who feel it is their right to act any way they want and shout self-defense or use the excuse of thinking someone was a threat. This constant flow of horror has now reared its ugly head again in all the looting and escalated violence from not just police but citizens alike which only serves to further move the needle into the empty spot. This race to the end of the road is a slow one but a steady one none the less and we as a people will not live long enough to see the climb back from the brink if we continue on this path of destruction and death.
By Brittney Mckinney6 years ago in Motivation
I Don’t Want To Be Popular (But I Do Want To Be Likeable).
In the second webisode of “Lip Service” I talk about why being “popular” is all about what other people want, and why being “likable” is all about what you want. If you’re feeling overwhelmed right now thinking about competition, social media, and your relationships, click the link in my bio to watch 👏 this 👏 video 👏. As the world is changing around us, it couldn’t be more important to find one word at a time to carve your path to what’s next.
By Andrew Sotomayor6 years ago in Motivation
Be You, Not Them
Do you ever find yourself aimlessly scrolling through social media channels to discover that you're getting increasingly miserable? It is a feeling that your life doesn't measure up to those you follow or some random person who invades your explorer feature. You can't help but feel like there must be something amiss in your life that you aren't going to exclusive parties or traveling to picturesque locations. Sometimes your thoughts might be, "what do they have that I don't?" Or you see someone that exudes an enormous amount of talent and skills, and you feel like you were standing in the wrong line as you received talents and abilities. Congratulations! You're normal, and I'm here to tell you that it is entirely okay to feel like this. And I also to say to you, stop it right now! Because you're doing more harm than good.
By Andres Wiest6 years ago in Motivation
Fake it till you make it!
A swirl in the pit of the stomach manifests. A simple day of joy & productivity can easily change into a dark cloud of thunder & shower. I take a breather & lay as if I were to meditate. I look deep within myself & reminisce. Questions that usually pop are ones that unnecessarily define who I am. These questions don't describe who you've become, but help understand what you have to offer. What you give to yourself is to be the best version of who you are.
By The Kind Quill6 years ago in Motivation
