Smart people do "stupid" things, to retreat is to win

You think you're smart, but you don't know that there are people outside of you, and there are people you who are smarter than you are.

Sometimes, to play small smart for a moment's benefit, think you are winning, but maybe losing.

Other people are not unable to see your small intelligence but do not care too much about you.

Self-intelligence more, it is easy to eat their evil, to their detriment.

The most important thing in business is integrity, even if the quality of the product is good, but not honest, the business is afraid to do it not long.

A person doing business, by chance met a foreign businessman, sees each other does not know anything, intends to take the opportunity to make a big profit, and the price is raised to twice the original.

But did not think he did make money, but the reputation of dishonesty has spread, slowly, and fewer and fewer people looking for him to do business, afraid of accidentally being pitted by him.

So, rather than a greedy moment of profit lost pattern, why not put a long line to catch a big fish, to retreat to seek a win-win situation?

1, appropriate shut up, do not play the mouth of the fight

"Sickness from the mouth, trouble from the mouth", no one can guarantee that the words out of the mouth, will not lead to trouble.

Perhaps in your perception, do not think they said something wrong, but the speaker has no intention, the listener has a heart, you have a mouth without a heart, in others may seem to imply a deeper meaning.

I heard a story.

A person had a very good relationship with a friend, which had thought that once by others after joking, to save face even said bad things about his friend, it so happened that the words were heard by his friend, since then the relationship between the two broke down, usually encountered when not seen.

The man regretted afterward, had intended to explain, but somehow really meet a face, talked, apologize instead of saying, and even tried to say the wrong thing in the heat of the moment, completely angering the friend.

A relationship is ruined on the nonsense talk, would have been able to explain things clearly, but also in the bravado of verbal arguments completely unclear.

It is better to shut up at the beginning, and not to get into so much trouble.

Carnegie once said, "The only way to win in an argument is to avoid it."

Many times, even if you win the argument, you will get into trouble.

So, for people in the world, we should be careful with our words and know how to shut up properly, lest we end up winning the argument and losing ourselves.

2、Appropriate concessions, do not count too much

When you let go of preconceptions and pretensions, no longer anxious and needy, your heart is truly open.

It's impossible to live a life where everything goes as planned, so it's better to count on too much than to make appropriate concessions.

It may seem like a retreat, but perhaps it's an advance. To be good to others is to be good to yourself, and to seek a win-win situation.

When you do not count too much with the provocateur and choose the appropriate concessions, you will find that the road is not so narrow, spend time on counting this, counting that, rather than choose to step back, a different perspective on the problem, perhaps there will be a different discovery.

At the beginning of the farce, the two sides do not give in to each other, each other are counting the gains and losses, arguing about who should be, but do not know that even if the argument out a result, in the end, it is just a lose-lose.

In ancient times, the two families were adjacent to each other while building houses, but the house is almost built, because the land boundary issues quarreled endlessly, almost to the point of death.

Originally do not give way to each other, the same as water fire, but fortunately, one side chose to give in, in the original boundary back three feet, so that the other side both moved and ashamed, also chose in the original boundary back three feet, so that between the two walls are six feet wide.

Therefore, the choice of appropriate concessions is a retreat, but also, can reflect their cultivation, but also to ease the conflict, to give each other a step-down, down so that things have turned around.

A person, who only knows how to make concessions, can grow, rather than let others, let is their own, retreat for progress, let yourself in the modesty of others to gain respect, and improve personal cultivation.

In contradiction, if one party is willing to take the initiative to seek peace, there will be so much follow-up trouble.

The fact that people are too calculating and make enemies everywhere will only make it more difficult for them to live.

Appropriate concessions, although it is a retreat, it is not into.