Life road want to go farther, only by themselves

The more a person lacks something, the more he or she will desire something.

Someone lack love, they desire to be loved.

someone lacks money, they desire to be rich.

Some people lack security, they desire to get security

The people live, not everything can be as it should be, more or less there is "to seek but not" regret.

A person can't have what they want if they are powerful.

Some things become obsessions but will be bound to a person.

The fact is that you will be able to get a lot more than just a few of these things.

1. How hard you work, how lucky you are

In the face of what you do not have but long to get, some people choose to rely on others to get it, and some choose to rely on their efforts.

The former is like a doddering flower attached to others, the surface seems to get everything, but inside may be a piece of nothingness, the possibility of losing at any time.

The latter rely on their efforts to take one step at a time, the road is long and difficult, and can not easily it get, but as long as they get is their own.

Although efforts may not necessarily get what they want, not to try to never get it.

"The price of everything given by God has already been marked.

In the novel "The Veil", the heroine Kitty is a beautiful but vain, determined to marry a rich man, used beauty as a tool to get the glory and wealth they want, but unfortunately seeking to go did not find a satisfactory, and finally became an old woman left.

Forced to get married at an older age, married to someone they do not like, but could not hold down the desire to love the heart, soon after the marriage developed an extramarital affair, thought the man was sincere love themselves but did not want to have the loved only the beauty of the throwing arms.

So, once people indulge their desires and put their future in men, they will only get themselves into a tragedy and cannot extricate themselves.

The love that you get from beauty is mostly just a fling, which is unbearable in front of reality.

Some people like you, can't wait to hold everything you want in front of you, but don't like you, will want to take back everything that was given to you, and even your presence, in his opinion, is an eyesore.

The one you get from others is not your own after all.

Only through their efforts to get, is their own, only to have the power of autonomy.

2. The security of adults comes from themselves

Security is such an illusory thing.

You can't see it, you can't touch it, you can only touch it by feeling it.

But how much of the feeling can be taken seriously, and how much of the reliability of relying on others in, waiting for others to give their sense of security, rather than their own to themselves?

How many women returned to the workplace immediately after giving birth to a child, in addition to fear of disconnecting too long to find a job, wanting to earn more milk money, and other reasons, but more afraid of insecurity?

Once the quarrel, even the courage to win is not, can only force themselves to "bow down", for no other reason than the lack of reliance on others' bottom.

Instead of letting yourself fall into the helplessness of insecurity, you should learn to plow deep into yourself, so that you have the capital to give yourself a sense of security.

They no longer need to bend over backward to maintain a relationship that is much worse than before and have the strength to start over and create their happiness.

Many times, your concessions, waiting for others to step forward, praying for others to give themselves security, rather than rely on themselves to get security.

No one can represent you, and no one can influence you, constantly backing off is the one who thinks that backing off can be "happy" in exchange for their own, constantly backing off to achieve the tragedy behind.

Like domestic violence, beaten once should be awake, but still, delusions of exceptions exist but do not know that concessions in exchange for an inch, so he took you for granted.

So, don't put your hope in others, rely on others rather than rely on themselves, only their own powerful enough to give themselves enough security.