Self Confidence: Increase It With Positive Psychology

1) Do not label yourself

Well, the same is what you are doing when you label yourself: you are making a cartoon that exaggerates your weaknesses! Also, do you think it is possible to be "something" all the time? Let's take the example of the label "I'm clumsy", is it possible to be clumsy 24 hours a day?

If we were to imagine a clumsy person all the time, it would be someone who drops one thing after another, trips, loses things, is dressed in stains because he spills his soup, makes inappropriate comments, makes the wrong mistake. direction. One thing after another, without pause. Is that what happens to you? Perhaps a more realistic thought is to say that there are times when "you're clumsy."

If you remember when you study English, the verb "to be" means "to be or to be."

Apply this knowledge to self-confidence: “being clumsy” is different from “being clumsy”. So if you want to improve your self-confidence, start by taking off labeling yourself . You've probably been at it for a long time and that path hasn't gotten you too far. Why don't you try to love yourself?

2) Accept the circumstances

The first step is to respect your negative emotions and understand that self-confidence is not something permanent , but that people sometimes feel more or less safe depending on the vital moment we are going through. For example, depending on whether you're cool with your partner right now or you've just broken up, your self-confidence can fluctuate. What it is about is to achieve a good baseline, so that external changes condition us (that is inevitable) but do not determine how much we trust ourselves.

Having confidence in yourself means knowing that whatever comes, you can handle it; be convinced that your strengths will always be greater than your difficulties. You will not have confidence in yourself until you stop labeling yourself: "I am a fat man" "I am stupid. All these are limiting labels that you have put on so far and what have they helped you? To nothing. However, you continue to use them as if they were true.

In reality, when we put globalizing and limiting labels on ourselves, we are making a "caricature" from ourselves. And do you know someone who looks handsome in a cartoon? If you have your ears a little apart, in the cartoon they are exaggerated, if your chin is pronounced, they draw it pointed ... Nobody looks handsome this way!

3) Work your self-esteem

It is essential for insecure people to work on their self-esteem, thus they will improve it and gain security. And it is that behind an insecure person or one who lacks confidence, on many occasions we find low and touched self-esteem, these people have an exaggerated fear of making a fool of themselves, of not being understood and accepted, of causing ridicule and laughter in their environment nearest, etc ...

To learn how to improve self-esteem, we leave you this post 10 techniques to achieve a healthy self-esteem

4) Identify your strengths

You cannot be good at everything, that is impossible, perfection does not exist, But we do have certain innate characteristics that stand out from others. Do you know what yours are? It is essential to know what you are really good at, to get the most out of it and be able to put it into practice.

And it is that every person stands out in something. If you still do not know, start by detecting it to be able to empower it, shout it to the world, and enjoy what it causes you. Use our FORTE Method for this.

Would you like to live an experience of personal growth with which to find yourself better? Do not hesitate to know about our Online Self-Esteem Course.

A course created by my colleague Adela Lasierra on Self-esteem and Positive Psychology in which, step by step, you can discover and learn tools to enhance self-confidence, detect your personal strengths, and how to apply positive psychology in work situations