Rewrite your story

Rewriting Your Story: How to Become the Person You Want to Be

Let me ask you a question: When was the last time you looked at your life and thought, "This is exactly where I want to be"? If your answer is "never" or "not lately," don't worry—you're not alone. But here's the thing: The story you tell yourself about your life can either lift you up or drag you down.

You know that old saying, "I'll believe it when I see it"? Yeah, that's not quite how it works. In reality, it's more like, "I'll see it when I believe it." Your brain's got this built-in filter that only lets through the stuff that fits your current narrative. So, if your story is all doom and gloom, guess what? Everything you see will confirm that life is just one big struggle. But flip the script to something more positive, and suddenly, the world is bursting with possibilities.

But changing your story isn't as simple as flipping a switch. Our stories are deeply rooted in our childhood, shaped by the things we were told and the experiences we had. Remember how, as kids, we soaked up everything like little sponges? If someone told you over and over that you'd never amount to anything, it's no wonder that belief stuck with you. And here's the kicker: The way we interpret the events in our lives now still ties back to those old narratives.

Picture this: You bomb a job interview. One person might think, "I'm not good enough," while another thinks, "That was a learning experience; I'll nail the next one." Same situation, totally different stories. Our environment, personality, and even random chance all play a role in shaping these stories. But here's where it gets interesting—most of the time, we're not even chasing our own dreams! We're living out a script written by society, by our parents, or by someone else's expectations. Comfortable? Sure. Fulfilling? Not so much.

Now, let's talk about the main characters in your story—your relationship with money, time, and success. These are the building blocks of your life. How you see money, for example, can either be a source of stress or a tool for freedom. Someone who thinks money is the root of all evil might sabotage their own financial success without even realizing it. And if you don't value your time, well, don't be surprised if you're constantly chasing your tail and getting nowhere.

But let's face it—it's easy to play the victim. "It's not my fault," we tell ourselves. "Life just dealt me a bad hand." But is that really helping you? Is staying in that safe, familiar zone really living? Or are you just avoiding your fears and responsibilities? Because let's be real—the emotional benefits of playing the victim (comfort, approval, a sense of righteousness) are just Band-Aids on a much deeper issue.

So, what do you do? You start by letting go of the old story. Rip off those Band-Aids and take a good, hard look at where you are right now. Are you excited about your life? Do you feel fulfilled? Are you growing as a person, or just going through the motions? Once you've got a clear picture of your current narrative, you can start crafting a new one—one that's all about joy, purpose, and courage.

It's not going to be easy. You'll hit some bumps along the way. But the beauty of the journey is in the growth, the challenges, and the little victories that add up to something incredible. And remember, this is your story. Not your parents', not your friends', not society's. Yours. So chase the dreams that truly inspire you, not the ones you think will make other people happy. Because at the end of the day, the only approval that matters is your own.