Project of how to make people happy

My name is Miriam. If I ever want to do project, I will do about helping people and giving them positive life. I think if we have the will to help people, it will be naturally solved and we will have ideas how to solve people’s problem and stress, I also think you don’t need a degree or experience, if you already have passion to help people and solve their problems. We can sometimes google about counselling and how to help people or by giving them advice to their problem.

If you want to be counsellor, there are some core of counselling skills. Listening skills are the basic counselling skills or practiced skills, that will help the counsellor to be a good listener to the client. Skills include 1. Good listener 2. Being aware of good communication 3. Building trust.

The core counselling skills are described are 1. Attending in counselling means being in company of someone else and giving that person your full attention, to what they are saying or doing, valuing them as worthy client.

2. Silence in counselling gives the client control of the content, pace and objectives. This includes the counsellor listening to silences as well as words, sitting with them and recognising that the silence may get idea in counselling process.

3. Reflecting and paraphrasing. Reflecting in counselling is a part of listening. It is making sure that the client knows their story is being listened to. This is achieved by the helper/counsellor by both repeating a short version of their story back to the client. This is known as paraphrasing.

4. Asking questions that is easier to understand. Counsellor ask easy question. The counsellor uses open questions to make counsellor understanding of what the client is feeling.

5. Focusing in counselling involves making decisions about what issues the client wants to deal with. The client may have mentioned a range of issues and problems. Focusing allows the counsellor and client together to clear away some of the less important surrounding things and concentrate on the main issues of concern.

6. Building rapport with client in counselling is important, whatever model of counselling the counsellor works with. Rapport means a sense of having a connection with the person.

7. Summarising in counselling is what the client is saying and feeling.

8. Using Immediacy means that the therapist show how they themselves are feeling in response to the client, also immediacy is the key skill of focusing attention on the here and now relationship of counsellor and the client with helpful timing in order to challenge coping skills and appreciation.

The rule of my advice of helping peoples problems and stress. Rule number 1. of giving advice solving problems are trust. When we build a trust with the client that’s when the advice succeed.

Rule number 2. is when the client comes to talk to you about their problem, we need to first introduce ourselves and tell them whatever you discuss to me it will be confidential, it will be between you and me.

Rule number 3. we should listen to the client first about their problems, we should be a good listener.

Rule number 4. asking some questions to the client and making sure that we know what is the cause of the problem, so we need to make a note of it, to give us an idea to solve the problem.

Rule number 5. we need to study the case and when we complete it, we will call the client for the next session to discuss about the problem.

Rule number 6. to tell the client the solution of their problems.

Finally we call the client after a month to see how they are doing. If they are happy and the problem is gone, then the case is over , but if they say I tried and it is the same problem then we need to ask the more questions and find another way to solve it.

In life everyone has a problem but it is a way to solve it. By drinking or smoking is not a solution to the problem. When you start doing these things, then you create health problems. So it is not only stress problem you even start getting health problem too. After that you start getting serious health conditions such as heart and lungs problems, cancer and TB. Also they get in depression that leads to suicidal and killing thoughts and if you are not treated then you end up killing yourselves. So my advice will be to people that they should solve their problems not create more problems.

I think people should have a chance to prove themselves that they can do it, even those they don’t have degrees or experience, if they have passion of doing something they should get a chance.

If I ever want to do a project, I will want to be a good adviser, counsellor, problem solver and making people live happy and stress free, no more stress.