Moving on takes time……

Moving on takes time……

Moving on takes time, self-compassion, and a lot of reflection. You likely had hopes and expectations for the relationship, and letting go of those dreams and accepting that the relationship didn’t turn out as you hoped can be a painful process.

Moving on takes time……

You invested time, emotions, and energy into the relationship. A future you once envisioned together is now a healing journey from something you valued.

At one time, he overwhelmed you with excessive affection, attention, and praise in a short amount of time. It made you feel incredibly special and attached. You were aware of the hyper speed in the relationship, but you took a leap of faith and put one foot on that merry go round and got swept up.

Moving on takes time…….

Now you sit back at the at the whirlwind of the relationship ending and you wonder if he truly ever loved you. Your need for security and consistency is completely valid. A healthy relationship should provide you both, where actions align with words.

When someone cuts you off after being in a relationship, it can be incredibly painful – that harsh action is more reflective of their own emotional struggles. Some people block others to cope with their own emotions, to avoid dealing with pain, or because they are overwhelmed. However, it’s not a healthy or kind way to handle things, and it’s understandable that you’d question their feelings for you because of it.

Moving on takes time…….

True love involves care, respect, and communication in difficult times. When their actions do not align with those principles – it is an indication they weren’t in a place to offer the kind of love and commitment you deserve. But this does not stop your heart from hurting when you made the choice to see it through.

It’s so incredibly confusing and hurtful when someone pursues you intensely, gets involved with your friends and family, and then withdraws.

Perhaps they were seeking comfort and a sense of normalcy, and they genuinely wanted to build a connection with you to fill a void. Maybe they rushed into a relationship because they were looking to hold onto something emotionally, making them act impulsively. They may have been afraid of being alone and thought you would help them move forward. They may have had genuine feelings for you, but as they became deeply involved, they realized they weren’t ready for a serious relationship.

Regardless of the reasons, the way they handled it – pursuing you intensely and cutting you off – was unfair to you. It’s understandable you’re left questioning the sincerity of their feelings. Their actions suggest they weren’t emotionally ready, even if the initial intentions were genuine.

Moving on takes time…….

Truth is, this relationship took hold of you almost like you were in the center of a tornado, it came with immense emotions, fun twists, laughter, trauma, unexpected drama, and love somewhere in the center. It was a connection that took you by surprise, you had intentions of taking it slow, but you got swept up in the speed. But in a tornado, it’s bound to destroy anything in its path, and you are left with the aftermath.

After the anger, and sadness have dissipated – you start to feel blessed from the positives you received from the relationship, his generosity, his spontaneity, his passion, and his ability to shower you with immense love. When you heal, you start to understand your needs, and become clear on what you need from a partner. Going through this experience has likely shown you your own strength and resilience. Despite the pain, you’re still standing, and that’s a testament to your inner strength. You learned to create emotional boundaries – the relationship moved too fast for you but you were afraid to speak up.

Moving on takes time…….

The experience has deepened your empathy. Although the relationship ended, it brought you closer to your kids, parents, and it reminded you of family connections and support systems. The deep self-reflection allows you to understand your patterns in relationships.

Now, you wish him well in your heart – because he truly deserves that and your kindness is courage, and a true testament to the goodness in your heart. Even though things didn’t work out, you opened your heart to love again after past hurt. That courage is something to be proud of, and it shows that you’re capable of loving deeply.

Moving on is a beautiful process at any age because once you take the focus off the pain, you can acknowledge the amazing positives that came from the relationship and grow and prepare for a more fulfilling relationship in the future.

Moving on is healing……,