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How I Deal With My Guilt
What is guilt? And why is it that it is one of the few things that everyone has but keeps it a secret? According to Wikipedia: Guilt is a cognitive or an emotional experience that occurs when a person believes or realizes—accurately or not—that he or she has compromised his or her standards of conduct or has violated a universal moral standard and bears significant responsibility for that violation.[1] Guilt is closely related to the concept of remorse. I have come to realize that I was living in an automated version of stock, I would call it. To get into a more in-depth explanation, I could classify my life as a day trader. As humans, we spend so much time focusing on things that don't necessarily matter. I used to be obsessed with watching Bravo housewives; I watched every season, every episode. I wanted that life, but I did not necessarily know where or how to get it. Life is like a tide; your mood sways like breathing. One day I want to be successful, the other I am trying to keep my head above the imaginary ocean of water. It is so difficult to stay focus with a life full of distractions. I have always figured out a way to remain relevant and up to date. I enjoy watching people interact. I spent so many years like a zombie getting from point A to B. See, here's what I know, there are several types of people. People born with moral codes, others that developed it from experiences and their hurt, and finally, the OTHERS. The others are people who alter their views of the world and their surroundings. At the moment I would classify myself today as developed guilt from my experiences. The only difference between the rich and poor is; drive, dedication, patience, knowledge, networking (relationships), and finally the understanding of money. Guilt is a choice, and i know some people may read this and say it's not. But it's your guilt stopping you from understanding what I am trying to explain to you in this second. Life is like an unlimited amount of flowers, they are everywhere. When you finally pick your flower and remove the first petal, life reveals itself to you. Last year i was a regular person myself, appearing open but closed. Listening, but not hearing. Speaking, without knowledge. When I first saw The Matrix, I always thought I was Trinity, because I love so hard. I had no idea why I never saw myself as the leading person. I think most people never amount to their true potential because of fear. I call it the "fear of actually succeeding." Like most people, we spend, spend, spend. Every year we wonder why our lives are not improving. We never actually take a step back and evaluate the things what it is we actually want. I have one of the biggest guilty consciences. I can rip anyone apart with words and then smile. But if/when I actually feel like I hurt someone, it bothers me. See, to me, guilt is worse than fear simply because fear occurs and you have a much easier choice to panic and make a decision. But, guilt hits you internally brewing like a bottle of turkey hill half & half lemonade. I remember vividly I did my usual and spoke too much "truth" about a colleague marriage, also to note there were other colleagues present also giving their own opinions. Days later the individual blocked me from social media LOL. No one can prepare you for the small window of emotions you experience when you someone who has no significance "to you" blocks you on social media. I felt something—I guess it was remorse—and then carried on with my life. Moral of the story is: I altered my guilt because I did a quick pros and cons of what the goal of blocking me on social media meant to my direct life and decided to carry on. Why wallow in guilt? You are in control of what is okay and what is not.
By Teri-Ann Phillip8 years ago in Motivation
Calling All Perfectionists!
Do you know how incredibly freeing it is to be okay with failing? I was such a perfectionist growing up, and I still am to an extent. But I’ve been working on this underrated thing called “self-confidence,” and the difference between those who have it and those who don’t is truly remarkable!
By PathlessJourney8 years ago in Motivation
Finding Myself as a Twenty-Something
In my teens, I didn't like to be alone. The idea of being alone, while everyone else was out enjoying their lives, was too much to bear. I couldn't imagine the idea of being single forever or not finding someone to love me. For a long time, I didn't think any person would find me more than just strictly attractive or someone to bang on a Saturday night.
By Ali McPherson8 years ago in Motivation
Just No More
I want to live in a world where we are not judged by the color of our skin, or by the kind of music we listen to, or where we grew up. I want to live in a world where it is okay to be seen in public in sweatpants, messy hair, and no makeup; where we are not defined by our mistakes, but by our goals and successes.
By A Clem8 years ago in Motivation
The Sad Truth
It was a normal day when I decided to walk to the nearest Family Dollar. I had a few essential things to get. Most times I go to HEB but today, Family Dollar. As I walked up to the cashier to pay I noticed she seemed depressed and tired, like life wasn't going her way at all. The question just came out of me, "You seem tired, are you okay?"
By Echaka Monjok8 years ago in Motivation
Five’s an Asshole
Some people seem to believe that three's the lucky number of the single-digit bunch, but I? I disagree. I think that five's the real clock cruncher, and here's why. Ever been at a dead end before? I'm not talking some metaphoric "I-don't-know-what-to-do-with-my-life-right-now" dead end, but a real physical dead end. Well, I have and excuse the cliché psychological outlook, but it sucked, and the very reason why I felt so down about bucking up at a dead end when I could've just simply turned around and found another way, got me thinking which lead me to my theory. So, five's my dead end. We commonly associate the number three with a limitation. Whether it's 'Third time's a charm!", or "You get three wishes, and three wishes only', three is where we set our eyes to, and so little numbers after just get forgotten. But five to me is important, because when we reach five, we realize that we've gone two too many over our limitations. We realize that we've been taken for granted, and so we gather and remove ourselves from the situation which brought us to five in the first place. I had a crush on the same kid for five years, and throughout those five years, I would let him treat me however he pleased. I lost sense of who I was, and so I was just his. By the fifth year coming, he got a girlfriend and I had gone through this revelation that was so shocking and surprising, but at the same time eye opening. I had realized how just plain stupid I looked chasing after this guy, and letting him walk over me for five years who was now in a relationship and still referring to me as just his "friend." The fifth year brought on a cruel revelation, so much so it felt like a physical boundary. But without that dead end, I would've still been kissing at the kid's feet looking like a complete idiot. So, five's an asshole for letting it get that far, but was also important because it served as a reminder that three is the damn limit, and hell would freeze over before I forget that. So, don't forget your five, because then you'd end up like me— Kissing the feet that in turn would walk all over you.
By Xara B. Williams8 years ago in Motivation
Ways to Help You Follow Your Dream
Hello everyone! Life is weird, isn't it? You are told to that you have to do things out of obligation just so you can get to where you want to be or do what you want to do. In the middle of that process, you are put in a situation that makes you feel trapped. I want you all to know that even though circumstances may have a handle on our lives in most cases, we can still keep a positive attitude and go after passions and goals!
By Jarrod Foster8 years ago in Motivation
There Is Only One You
“ Be yourself; everyone else is already taken.” - Oscar Wilde There is a total of 7.6 billion people on this Earth, and every single one of them is unique: different colored hair, different colored eyes, different skin tones. Even identical twins have differing personalities. What gets me is how, no matter how many people have their own amazing qualities, they all seem to want to be someone different. These recent generations are almost being forced to be someone they aren't, just because others aren't comfortable, because of this fact I have noticed that not a lot of people are truly happy. Somebody wants to be just like that random person they see at work or school, and that random person wants to be someone else. It's an endless annoying cycle. I even find myself guilty of this. My hair is a frazzled mess, I am super awkward, and the only reason I am a writer is because my speaking skills could be a bit better. Yet I have amazing story ideas, I can dream up something and crochet something that looks exactly like my dream, I can play piano pretty well, even if I can't read sheet music, and I am a friend that people can count on. I want to be someone not as awkward as me, but others see my gifts and want to be like that. We are human, we are never going to be perfect, but we are us.
By Beckster Kraft8 years ago in Motivation
Leadership Choreography
I came into leadership honest. It’s, seemingly, just in my genetic makeup. I played team sports growing up year-round. I typically found myself in places where I was seen and heard. Growing up, if you find yourself in those situations, you end up thinking that’s all there is to it. There’s this sort of prideful privilege to your walk and talk.
By Cody Killian8 years ago in Motivation
Comparison Kills
We often compare ourselves to other people, whether it's what they have, where they are in this stage of their life, or what they are doing. Social media is one of the most common ways for us to compare our lives to others'. We get to have a sneak peek and a snippet of peoples' lives. You see that one of your coworkers got that promotion that you were hoping for. While scrolling you see that house you were hoping for is sold; or, that one of your closest friends got a new car while you're struggling to keep yours. Maybe it is a group of your peers who are graduating and you're still trying to figure out which degree to pursue. The truth of the matter is, we have no idea how those people got what they have. We don't know what it took to get where they are now. Comparing yourself to someone else will always leave you unhappy because someone will always have more than you or always be further than you are. It is my belief when God placed us on this Earth we were beautifully and wonderfully made. Each one of us has a gift. We become so aware of other people's gifts that we forget our own. Galatians 6:4-6 states, “But let every man prove his own work, and then shall he has rejoicing in himself alone, and not in another. For every man shall bear his own burden. Let him that is taught in the word communicate unto him that teach in all good things.” This means don’t compare yourself to others. Just look at your own work to see if you have done anything to be proud of. You must accept the responsibilities that are yours. I believe whoever is being taught God’s word should share the good things they have with the one who is teaching them.
By Santayshia Wilson8 years ago in Motivation
Moving...
It’s that time again. The sight of brown, the feel of stickiness, the ragging chaos of personal belongings being packed away. Total emptiness suffocating me. This is what moving feels like. I’ve moved around many times. It was nothing new to me. The only difference was that I would be moving across the country; leaving family, friends, and a life I’ve grown to love. This would be a new experience. “You get to start over,” I was told by my loved ones. With only the best interest in mind, I agreed to leave my hard work behind to start fresh. With an open mind, my family and I packed up, venturing off to California for a new start.
By Anna Miles8 years ago in Motivation
