Just One Believer

In nearly four years of journeying towards my goals now, I have seriously lost count of both, the number of people that have tried to bully and harass me into following their advice instead of my own heart, and the number of times they have done so. It's sad that these very people have been my very own family, friends, and loved ones, people who I always believed would be there to support me, yet many of whom I have since distanced myself from now, as a result of their lack of support and encouragement toward me. It's unfortunate that the majority of people worldwide have the misconception that failure, especially continual failure, is a sure sign that one should give up on their conquest. Bar a miniscule percentage of people, anyone who has ever achieved success will tell you how many times over they failed, they were rejected, and/or they faced adversities, before they finally reached their goal. Failure is a natural part of the journey to success, stepping stones along the pathway basically, as too is patience. Life transforming goals normally take years to achieve, that's just the way life goes. Life seems to delight in testing and challenging us, but it does so to help us learn, grow, develop, and mature. We all know that failure, rejection, and adversity is never enjoyable or pleasant to encounter, deal with, or overcome. There's a natural feeling of disappointment, sadness, and incapability. It's easy to beat ourselves up about it, and feel completely discouraged, even to the point we feel like giving up, but we will never achieve anything great, the moment we adopt a defeatist attitude. That's where we need to stand firm in our self-belief, because in order to achieve, you first must believe. Once that belief is lost, so becomes the goal! The problem that we have is that most other people don't truly give a stuff about our goals, because they are too focused on creating happiness and satisfaction in their own life. Either that, or they just want us to do what is convenient to them, or what suits their agenda. Now it's fair enough that we are each personally responsible for creating our destiny, but wouldn't it be nice to have some sort of support, encouragement, and upliftment along the journey towards achieving what we desire, just to keep us in the right headspace?

From personal experience, I'm not going to lie in saying that it doesn't hurt to be criticized, bullied, and abandoned on the journey towards our goals, especially by the very people we believe would be there for us, helping us, encouraging us, and supporting us, because it does. It feels like an extremely lonely trek. Sometimes in life, we simply have to look further than those who we hold dear to our heart. We need to be honest, and we need be true to ourselves, that our happiness and our goals are two of the three most important priorities in our life, along with our health. If those who surround us aren't providing us with that encouragement, support, and upliftment, that we so desperately long for along the journey to our goals, and instead they hurl a heap of negativity, pessimism, criticism, bullying, and harassment at us, then we are better off distancing ourselves from them anyway, as I have personally done. You cannot keep holding onto people who are continually dragging you down, who are continually negatively affecting your mood and mindset, or who fail to support you. As important as it is to maintain belief in ourselves, it's equally as important to have someone else to believe in us also. That special someone who is also goals driven, who perhaps have journeyed the road to success themselves, who are inspired to help others, and who truly offer their support, evident by their actions. That certain someone who is prepared to be there for when we fall down again, ready with their arms open to pick us up, to help us understand that it's only normal to fall over, and to inspire us to get back on our feet and keep going. That certain someone who has the ability to see the potential and ability within us. Just because most people don't believe that failure is actually a good thing, and a natural part of the journey to success, doesn't mean everyone does. There are people out there that don't focus on the failures others encounter, but instead, they focus on the attitude and the behavior of that individual. If they sense there is genuine determination, patience, resilience, and belief within someone, they are happy to come along for the ride.

Now let's not get too excited about finding that special someone who is willing to support, encourage, motivate, and help us. These individuals aren't there to get in and do the hard work for us, as after all, that responsibility remains with us. They instead act as a mentor perhaps, or just that crucial outlet of positivity and inspiration that helps keep us focused on what we want to achieve. Considering we are surrounded by so many people who do criticize us, bully us, are negative minded, and are pessimistic, you will soon understand what an absolute blessing this support person really is. All it takes is just one believer, one individual who believes in our potential, ability, and talent, one individual who admires our determination and drive, and they can become the difference between us relishing in success, rather than succumbing to failure. A few months back, I knew I was struggling. Among all the other negative circumstances that were unfolding in my life, I knew that I needed support and help, and that I could no longer do this on my own. I received that call for help by a complete stranger, as it were. Since then, he has taken me under his wing, and he is mentoring me towards achieving success, as he indeed created for himself. He can see my determination, he can see how much I desire to achieve my goals, he can see that I have the potential and capability, and having been on such a journey himself, he knows that sometimes, people just need that little bit of support. I will be forever grateful for the assistance he is providing me. Step out of your comfort zone, go seek the support, and drag yourself into an environment filled with positive minded and goals driven individuals. Don't be afraid to ask for help, to share your struggles, and to seek mentorship. You too can find that one person who believes in you, who knows that you are more than capable to achieve your dreams. One thing to remember also. On the day you reach success, don't forget to pay it forward and go about helping, supporting, uplifting, and mentoring others in life, because there are so many people with so much talent, who end up having their potential go to waste, off the back of thinking that no one believes in them. Never stop believing in yourself though, so that others can believe in you also!

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