Choices, Decisions, Needs & Wants!

My son asked, “Mom, how do you manage to make so many good decisions all of your life?”

A smart child asked the right questions to learn. Amazing ah.

Nobody does that. If they do, then they will learn nothing important, because our mistakes teach us the most valuable lessons. Along with the help of pain.

I went deep inside of me to find my reason.

I realized that my decisions are made according to what I need. Never what I want. So, I followed the path of my needs and ended up with all that I needed and the most important things that I want.

I need to be imaginative.: I learn to think before I act.

I need to be creative: My creativity shows me different ways to solve difficult problems and better ways to make tough decisions.

I need shelter: I worked and sacrificed to provide permanent shelter for me and my family.

I need security: I learn, practice and appreciate the use of common sense.

I need to live a life that I can enjoy: My decisions are made to benefit my family and myself long term.

I need to pay the mortgage even if I lose my job: I bought a house that can pay for itself. I had a rental income.

I need love: I give kindness.

I need understanding: I learn to forgive.

I need peace: I learn to love.

I need to be healthy: I learn to love myself. With self-love I learn to take care of myself, so I can be around to help you.

I need wisdom: I listen and learn from the life, words, actions, choices, and decisions of everyone I know and read about. I also listen and learn from what isn’t said or done too.

I don’t need or want pain: I learn compassion, understanding, the value and language pain speaks. I also learn balance from pain. It aids in knowing how to avoid the things that add pain to my life. So, if I want pain, I know what to do. And where to go.

I need strength: I think positively. No matter how healthy we are, negative thinking weakens the body, mind and soul pushing us in the wrong direction and disable our ability to be or do our best.

I need success: I do my best, not allowing my personal feelings to get into the way of what is right. Failure will fear you if your best becomes a habit. That habit will spill into your life, and you will end up getting the kind of happiness that no one can take away from you.

I need to hold on to my curious abilities: Life showed me that my curious abilities will keep my instincts alive allowing me to question the things that make no sense.

I don’t need to be greedy: I learn to make necessary sacrifices.

I don’t need or want hatred: I learn the value of tolerance, diversity and everyone’s right to be and exist.

I need to think more: I learn patience. How to listen to my instincts and keep learning mode on.

I need to be imaginative: I learn to think before I act.

I need to be creative: My creativity shows me different ways to solve difficult problems and better ways to make tough decisions.

I need to be focused: I learn to be consciously aware of life, living, my surroundings, my world, the people in it, my family, friends, foes, the sunrise and sunset. The trees, the weather, what I eat, when I sleep, what I say, to whom and why. I learn to be aware of who I love, like and don’t like.

I need to do the right thing, no matter what.

I learn to do everything for a reason. Sometimes when my heart won’t let me, I allow humans to give me their reason. Life taught me that if I do things for a reason, I will be left with minimum regrets.

I don’t need or want power: I remain humble.

I need to live a simple life: I learn and practice gratitude in all areas of my life, no matter the outcome. Life lessons are in everything and learning mode is never off for me. And my instincts are alive, so I take nothing for granted.

I need to enjoy my life: I learn to live and let others live without judgement, cruelty, criticism or anything that I know will harm anyone. So, in kindness, I leave.

These are a few of the things that aid in me making the right decisions more than thirty years ago, that are still carrying me today. Life is hard. Your actions, choices, and decisions help to make your life easier or harder. The joy of your success will be shared by everyone. The disappointment and pain of your failure are yours alone to bear. Find ways to make the right decisions, while learning from the wrong ones!

Thnak you for reading this piece. I hope you enjoyed it and always be kind.