Can We Be Equal and Not Identical? A Necessary Conversation

Why do we women feel compelled to continually prove ourselves, and why is external validation of our abilities so crucial for us, why do we crave appreciation and acceptance so much aren’t we all uniquely made by the creator?

isn’t this the foundation of all our convictions, and doesn’t this belief that we are uniquely created differentiates us from others?

Why is it that only women require acknowledgment and validation that their perspectives, thoughts, opinions, and even emotions are valued and considered?

We burden ourselves with all these thoughts ,so much so that we women start believing that we are at a constant war with the opposite gender , and in doing so every other women we know becomes a competition to us as well , While In reality, we struggle with our own insecurities, complexities, and occasionally limitations, so when we compare ourselves to another woman, it's completely irrational, as you cannot equate different colours since each possesses unique characteristics, much like how one cannot often be a master of every skill.

And so, in this constant struggle and fight to prove ourselves, we often loose our own identity and transform into something we never were or at times might be something we never wished to be.

Why is there this ongoing battle of "the survival of the fittest"? Do we truly need it?

Do we require the validations and affirmations that we receive, and by doing this, aren't we granting the world open access to assess us and continually put us to the test?

What we must grasp is that women are not less capable in handling life's challenges; however, their tendency to continually compare themselves with everything and everyone leads them to be in a constant state of competition

Women have been designed uniquely, indicating that we have varying abilities and attributes, Since we are distinct from men in physical, mental, emotional, and even intellectual aspects, it is crucial to recognize and affirm our differences, We must acknowledge and comprehend that, due to our distinctiveness, there is no valid comparison between genders; and attempting to do so is akin to comparing fire and water.

We get caught up in the notion of equality between men & women but in truth, we are naturally different, both are equal in their obligations and have rights and responsibilities that create a sense of equity between the genders. The stigma of female inferiority is because of the cultural influences that have prevailed, even if they do not reconcile with any belief, so taking care of oneself and family, cooking cleaning, etc. are basic human needs and not gender roles, and so both men and women are expected to understand and know these basics to lead a fulfilling life.

Women constantly fall prey to the phrase " we can do everything what a man can " the entire concept of this thought process is destructive and negative , women can do whatever they can and more but so can men, and in doing so they never have to proof anything to anyone , and if we women do so we are only feeding those who benefit and take advantage of this idea of gender separation and prejudices, as it fosters a sense of ego and individuality between the two genders that supplants compassion and positivity towards each other.so when a woman is a leader, soldier, healer , coach etc she is doing what she has to or is capable of equally as the other gender and not to show off to the world that she is capable and represent all womenkind and in doing so we women relinquish our inherent greatness bestowed upon us by the creator.

The Creator, when insisting that women deserve kindness, love, and care, did not imply that they require such treatment because they are weak, but rather because they possess unique abilities that men do not have. For instance, they can give life and nurture it; they endure pain with a resilience that men cannot fathom, their patience is greater, they embody compassion and gentleness, and they often show hard work and compromise in ways that men cannot, and the list continues, so with all this in mind, how can we even think there could be a comparison or preference between the two genders?

Women's gender roles revolve around characteristics such as helpfulness, passivity, and kindness. because women are seen as caregivers, nurturers, homemakers, and helpers. Men's gender roles revolve around characteristics such as leadership, assertiveness, and strength. as they are responsible to take care of all the financial needs of their family and the household making the men as breadwinners, leader, and protectors. Both rely on one another in every possible manner, they counterbalance each other, thereby fulfilling one another in all conceivable ways.

The comparison only serves to create division and never fosters positivity when viewed through a gender lens, Additionally, since we are pitting two distinctly different, powerful, and persuasive forces against one another, it resembles "evaluating a fish on its capacity to scale a tree." No resolution will be reached, yet the fish will spend its entire life feeling inferior and inadequate, which only serves those who seek to exert control, hence It’s essential for us to grasp and adhere to the truth that men and women are both different and similar, and let's ensure this viewpoint is permanent.

In conclusion, it is important to liberate ourselves from complexities and return to a straightforward understanding of the differences and balance that both genders possess, supporting each other, None should be compared to one another at any time or in any regard, as the contributions of both are distinctive and unique to each, making them irreplaceable and thus incomparable, and unsubstituted, therefore cannot be contrasted.